getting married

Yes you right, I'm 28 years old now.....I'm afraid to get marry, because I don't have enough income and savings. Already one week I do a full time online, but I'm still not sure about my future. I have very small income to my decent life, even less. If I get married, I'm afraid not afford to feed my wife later.....

I guess it all depends on who you chose for your partner for life. How long have your friends been married because 6 months is still soon. I was so in love with my boyfriend up until the first year we were together then he started treating me like crap and controlling my life.

Personally there is nothing wrong with being Single when you are 25. I know back when I was that age if was strange, but now it is something that is becoming more and more common. I really think you need to be ready for this, and not just something you jump into. Marriage is sacred and not a game, and worth waiting for the right person for sure.

That is because most of men are practical.They are not bothered about their security as long as they are single. Once they contemplate getting hitched their instinct of security of their loved one's kicks in and sets them thinking. 25 is bu today's standard, is not old enough to be hooked. So it is okay! We do lose some amount of freedom when we marry, but the sense of belonging compensates for it for most part.It is in fact motivating as you say.

marriage means loss of freedom no parties no friends

There are a lot of things to consider before one gets married. Once you marry, you have to think not only for yourself anymore but for your family. There are indeed things that you have to limit. Some men think that setting limits (like the hours you should be home or asking the consent of your partner before making a decision) is already giving up on their freedom. Perhaps this is a concept that needs to be changed in some men. As for family, it is indeed hard to decide to get yourself hooked if you are the bread winner in your family. If your family (your own mother, father, brothers and sisters) relies on you for support, then you have to consider if the income you presently have can support a new family. But then, you can talk to your family about your situation if you really want to get married. You don't need to sacrifice your own happiness. If you want to get married, talk about it with your family. I think a man's resolve to settle down is important. If he thinks he is not yet ready, then perhaps he really is not. But once he has decided to tie the knot, then I think he'll feel motivated as well to make the marriage work and build a family of his own.

it's in the perspective, i guess. worrying will never go away whether one is married or not. some people get better when they get married because they are more motivated to work and get inspired by the new role as a family man. some weigh down on their responsibilities and get overwhelmed. it is up to us how we see marriage.