does it incompatible between your wife and mother?

Welcome to MyLot. An excellent opportunity to demonstrate your strength of character & resourcefulness! Yes, this is indeed a bad situation, but it is not difficult to turn it around. It's just a house, right? Sell the bugger, pay your mother - with interest even & provide an outlet for your lovely new wife's creative talent by asking her exactly how she wants to have it renovated & then where she'd really like to move to! That way, you can sell it for more than you paid for it, market it well, do your research & put in the work yourself. It has the dual effect of keeping your wife's mind too busy to quarrel & you'll both be working together towards a common goal. True love is not just about looking into each other's eyes, but can be realized when the two of you are looking in the same direction. Life's too short to waste on arguments.