What’s so scary when someone starts treating you special?

Hello asliah, I had an officemate once who started giving me chocolates for no reason. He is really generous to everybody but I was the only one whom he gave boxes of chocolates to. I guess that could count as a special treatment, isn't it? I got scared and I did not know how to react. First, I did not know his intention. Second, I would not dare ask him if he is courting me. I guess that is a reasonable thing to do but I was just so scared of what his answer would be. Maybe I was scared to be humiliated. So anyway, I just let things happen. I thanked him for every special treatment he gave me (even though I felt uncomfortable) and eventually, he confessed that he would like to court me. In the end, I am happy that I kept myself modest at those given situations. Nevertheless, the real intention was unravelled

I actually treat my female friends special. Because they are, and they treat me the same way. I treat them like their my little sister, and they treat me like a little brother. If you have that strong bond and have been friends for the longest time you wouldn't be able to think of them as more than family but... if a new person came into my life and she started giving me this kind of treatment, I would do the same treat her special but not like my sister but really someone that i could be in a relationship with, which ends up with miss understandings, during my first few relationships like this, i would really assume that we were together, because we act like we are in a relationship but the fact is that there was no official say from either of us, and we were just enjoying each others company. but when it was time to call it quits it was nothing but just for the companionship. Some really can't stand the feeling without a companion. so on the next few relationships with this kind of beginning, I never assumed anything anymore, I would always say something to make things clear. It would be an akward situation but it is better to know early on than just assuming that will just lead to nothing

For me, the scariest thing about it is that you start to somehow expect that something's up. The scary part there is that sometimes, people are just nice and sweet and stuff, but if you don't know them that well, you start reading things into it and before you know it, you fall for that person.

Because people act nice until they get what they want. Then suddenly they don't treat you so well. Then you find out it was all an illusion, to get something from you.

I don't think there's a need to be scared when someone treats you special. Maybe if you've been in this kind of situation that didn't end too well. The best thing to do is go with the flow and enjoy every moment of it but never assume that's it going to end up in a relationship. Who knows? the other person is just a caring person and treats all his or her friends especial. Just make sure you know where you stand, if things get a little bit too confusing then simply ask the other person.

The scariest thing is that you might fall in love with that someone who treat you special or you can't reciprocate the treatment to others. But then there are some people who really love to make others special.

If the person has personal reason for treating special- that is really scary,especially if I do not have special feelings towards that person. However,I am also enjoying that treatment and gesture...well, I will be honored and giggling all the time.

yeh,it is very scary when soneone treat u special, specially when the person is very sentiment. it is difficult when he expects same from u and u can,t do it. This type of relationship does not work for long as possisiveness is main factor in this type of bonding and the other feels irritated in others presense

I'll scare about some sort of big help he is wishing to get in return from me for the special treatment. i think every one expects the same.

I think I have experienced that already for how many times. I hate people trying to treat me special. I don't want it. As if I am owed when they do that. Because if they do, of course they have the intention why and they want something in return. I just want to be careful with other people's actions especially those I am newly acquainted with.

I think it's only scary if you don't trust it. Or think you are not worth it. Which make you feel supersticious.