What do you do when your friends' personalities change?
@Sum1PassingBy (419)
Jordan
December 16, 2011 8:18pm CST
I used to get along really well with my friends. About a year, almost all of them changed in some way. They just do not talk about stuff we used to anymore, and when I do talk about those stuff they just laugh at me telling me that I'm still a child. I find them trying to turn into some kind of gangsters, they started smoking when they all used to laugh at the idea. All they talk about are how they want to buy alcohol, weed, etc. or how they already did that. It really irritates me, I have been feeling like I'm moving away from them by time and I have known some of these people for more than 10 years. They think of ones who don't think or act the way they do as being lifeless cowardly people.
I tried talking to them several times about this, but sometimes I just cannot keep arguing with them about it, since it's their lives and they alone control it.
Have ever ran into such a situation? How did you react towards it? What do you think I should do?
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@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
17 Dec 11
Similar things have happened to me when I was in high school a few years ago. I was really close friends with this one girl when all of a sudden she started acting really weird, being really moody, and hardly eating food. After a while it really started bothering me and we ended up getting in a big fight about it and not talking for a year before we were friends again.
I also had another friend who got into weed. We were really close friends until one day I noticed he came to lunch high. I'm not the type of person to do this stuff and I knew he wasn't either. He got into it more and more and became a dealer. He got new friends and we kind of stopped talking because of his new lifestyle.
It's sad to see friends change like this, especially if you've known them for a while. But, you're not going to be able to change them and since you don't want to get involved in the things they're doing, then it might be time for friends you actually have things in common with. It sucks that this happens,people drift apart but you'll be able to find people who enjoy the same things as you.
@Sum1PassingBy (419)
• Jordan
17 Dec 11
I'm sorry for what happened between you and your friend.
I wish just leaving them and finding new friends was this easy. Although they are probably nothing like me now, but I cannot imagine my life without them, I have known most of them for more than 10 years, and I'm only 18, so they're pretty much the only friends I had.
@Sum1PassingBy (419)
• Jordan
17 Dec 11
Everything you said is true. The thing is that they think I'm the little kid for not doing what they do, and that what they're doing is part of them being grown ups.
I hope I do too. Thanks
@Mashnn (4501)
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17 Dec 11
First, I will keep off from such friend as far as I can. This is because their influence may have a bad effect on you. It is better to look for friends that you have some things in common. Your friends seems to have changed for worse rather than becoming better and more mature.
@Sum1PassingBy (419)
• Jordan
17 Dec 11
Seems so. A part of me tells me to stay away, another part tells me to stay with them and just blend in. Thanks for the suggestion anyways
@umesh9889 (201)
• India
17 Dec 11
Well everyone founds himself/herself in such a situation atleast once in a life. Life changes and so as our priorities and behaviour. Friends are the important part of our life but they also change and we can do nothing with that as we know that it is the part and parcel of everyone's life. We too change according to others. So all we can do is just chill out with friends, give proper space to out relationships.
@Sum1PassingBy (419)
• Jordan
17 Dec 11
"Chill out with friends" in my case mostly means I have to do things I promised myself never to do. I'm trying to leave some space between them and I, but I'm not the kind of social guy who makes friends all the time, and these people have been my best friends since I can remember.
I'm completely aware that people constantly keep changing, but if I have to change myself to the worst just to fit in with them, then hell with it.
