I have a doubt . Can You please help me up here?
By safety69
@safety69 (592)
Taiwan
December 16, 2011 8:42pm CST
I dont buy big Christmas gifts for my kids anymore . Since , they like to choose their own toy. What I do is that they have their piggy bank and all throught the year I gave them an small amount of money every week and depending of how much they helped in the house or how good they were during that week. What I really want is that they have the habit of saving and expect something good in future with some effort. In the week previous to Christmas we break up the piggy bank and go to buy their toys, so, they just play with the toy they dont grap it, can not wait. I grap some small gift for them and put them under the tree but they are cheap ones. The question is sometimes I feel guilthy when they dont have a big gift to open, mostly in here that people dont celebrate Christmas , they dont get any more gifts. What do you think Am I wrong ? or Am I doing right. I know Christmas is not about gifts, but , we come from a country that we share with gifts, so, they know and my older son was used to that custom.
6 responses
@peavey (16936)
• United States
17 Dec 11
How do your kids feel about it? I think that's the key and you can ask them. If it doesn't bother them, then don't worry about it; otherwise you might make some small changes. I don't think you're wrong at all and your kids probably appreciate what they do get more than they would otherwise.
Christmas gets all tangled up in giving and getting and it's so easy to get stressed out about it.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
17 Dec 11
Hi safety, Christmas is not all about giving...It seems as tho
the holiday have really been made so commercially..But I think that
every child should have at least one big gift to open it, if its
not to much of a hardship.
But only if its not a hardship..I don't think its anything for you
to feel guilty about...It sounds like your children are well rounded
and dosen't have a fit about big gifts...They are probably just
as happy by going out spending their moneis they have saved.
Enjoy your family and have a wonderful weekend.....
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Hi safety,
You don't need to spoil kids with expensive things if you can't afford it. It's the best way of teaching them not everything they want they can easily get. It doesn't matter too if what you buy them cheap toys, as long as they liked it that is fine. Try to buy them at least some educational toys too maybe they will appreciate it more.
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 11
Indeed, Christmas had developed into some occasion where gifts can almost be a must to some people. There is nothing wrong about you, trying to plan for your chilren, trying to educate them, at the same time tries to fulfill their emotional needs. I say why not give them some gifts once in a while? There is not much harm to it 
@rusale (647)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
I think it's just fine to give gifts. Even if you're in a place with different custom. Giving gift is not bad. We all know that this season is all about giving. It's nice to receive a gift. The people their can't argue with you with what you are doing. It depends on you. As for me, what you are doing right now is just right. Everyone of us has different views of life. Don't think that you are wrong.
@icyrose123 (133)
• India
17 Dec 11
It so nice of you to even think about it. I would suggest to return the card with explanation. Never know if this card can bring together two friends or a broken family. Whatever it is you will surely feel better and relaxed if its out of your mailbox.
