importance of TIME in every relationship
By kaeirole
@kaeirole (668)
Philippines
December 17, 2011 12:06am CST
many say that TIME is one of the main ingredient in a relationship..so how was it a very important to you?
for me, i really treasure time..it's the only simplest way that i can show my love to my partner by sparing my time to them..no matter how busy i am..i always make sure that by the end of the day, i have an hour or so to talk to her (since we are in a long distance relationship)..but i don't get it..do i have an attitude problem?we always argue regarding this topic..i always complain that she's not sparing enough of her time to me..well yeah, i know she's so busy..she's assisting her mother's small store business and she's managing her small internet cafe..but she has the luxury of time to play and get addicted to an online game..she has more time in playing than in talking with me on the phone..and i always got the feeling of insulted because she has lots of energy in playing, but when it's time to talk with me, she easily fall asleep..
gosh.. i don't know what to do now..i've been extending my patience and understanding on her..can't she understand i also need a conversation with full of life?it's the only way we can spend time with each other this time.. grrrr...i'm not telling her to spend her whole 24/7 with me..that'll be boring..gosh i'm so angry..
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13 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
17 Dec 11
time is invented by people, if time doesn't exist, if you live without time what is important in a relationship then?
I don't think time is of any importance, we make it way more important as it in reality is. Time causes a lot of stress also.
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Hi Kaeirole,
Time is really important in any relationship. Whether the couple is near or far from each other. I can understand your frustration on this coz I have been in that situation too. Actually I don't need a call everyday, but at least speaking with each other for at least a few minutes on the fone every other day would be fine. Sometimes I also think I'm being so demanding. But I tried to understand him. I do hope you can talk this out with her in a calm way, try not to get angry so that she'll listen to you and maybe realized her fault and give you time.
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@darapmonsta (653)
• India
17 Dec 11
It is really annoying, have talked with her about this? If not don'r waste time and do. Talk to her about this peacefully no argues and all. Ask her, how she can manage time so that you guys can have your conversations. Whenever she is comfortable, go with her.
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@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Relationship is need for partner communication and even it is busy.sometimes woman are not satisfied with little time of partner or they may think she/she don't love me enough because only little time for me..but understand that there is work,and also just support and love
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@Mashnn (4501)
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17 Dec 11
Sorry for that. Your friend seems to be having good times with other things than you. It is better you give her sometimes to really decide whether she want to continue with the friendship or not rather than you wasting your time thinking about someone who don't care. I think she is pretending to be busy just to put you off.
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Time is really important, may it be for work, or in a relationship.
But it seems your relationship is not going well. You should try to talk to her about it and hopefully get her to realize that you're insulted on how she has been acting lately.
Long distance relationship has never worked for me because of lack of time to spend for each other. I try my best to make it work but I always lose my girlfriend to some other guy. So i decided no long distance relationship for me. But this is just my experience.
Hopefully you can work things out with your girl. cheers
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Typically it is the guy who can't make the tome for his love. It is so refreshing to see you Can make the time. You Should be angry. All you are asking for is an hour out of here day! That isn't too much. She is taking you for granted amd you do not deseve it! The only thing to do is tell her Exactly how you feel. If she can't see how unfair this is then... she may not be the One for you. Maybe it is the Time of day that can be sorted out. You mentioned it is the end of the day. Maybe you can make it in the late afternoon. Just a suggestion. Anyway. You get it! You Must put in the time with your love. That is how the relationship works/ survives. If she can't or won't see this , it is she with the attitude problem Whatever happens , Never change . You get it! Take care.
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@mlgb_24 (638)
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18 Dec 11
you can't buy time, so it's really important to make one while you still can to avoid any regrets in the end..you so need it especially in a long distance relationship as it is very hard to maintain..you need to talk about it and air your side, as for all you know, she might be thinking that you understand everything...all the best!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Dec 11
hi kaeirole you need to talk her what you have told us that you need to feel she wants to talk to you and misses you. It could be she is
stretching herself too thin in doing two different jobs and she
really is just plain too tired. Maybe you two could talk when shews not too tired or have her call you;if you cannot resolve this I suggest you look for romance where you are and give u p on the long distance stuff.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
17 Dec 11
If I remember correctly there are four love languages. Each of us has a different way of feeling and sensing love. It sounds like you have the same "love language" as I do. Time is what speaks most loudly to me and tells me you care. I do not care as much about the words, but when you give your time to me I will sense that you really care. I am sorry that she is not spending time with you.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Dec 11
Time is very important to show our love with our loved ones.
How can we make them feel that they are important when we do not spend some-time with them.
It doesn't need to have a long time- but a quality time with them.
I always give time to my loved ones- because we never knew what tomorrow may brings.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
19 Dec 11
Hi! I agree with you. Spending time with your bf/gf does not mean you have to do it 24/7. You can allot a day in a week to be with him/her. It doesn't matter how many hours as long as it is quality time to be together,talk about what is going on, and develop a trusting and strong relationship. Oh. you really have to talk to her about that. Time is very precious and if its wasted it cannot be returned again. She beterr realize that.:))
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@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Very important.Most specially in our case.My husband is abroad and we only have the net as our means of conversation.That is why i always have to stay awake late at night just to wait for him.At least an hour or two a day is very important in case like us.
Maybe you need to talk to him her about the status of your relationship.It is so hard to wait knowing what you are waiting for is not gonna come for you.
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