Do You Use Tact While Talking ?
By srjac0902
@srjac0902 (1169)
Italy
December 17, 2011 2:24pm CST
Sometimes we defend ourselves saying we are sincere and we want to speak out the facts on the face. Bread is bread and wine is wine. Wine is not bread and bread is not wine. Fine. We may boast over that we are straight forward and speak the truth with sincerity. Pilot asked what is truth? And Jesus did not answer. Can we justify our truth and lack charity? Can we try to be truthful and hurt our neighbor? Can we put our neighbor to same in public for the sake of truth? In the name of truth can we be arrogant?
We speak about tact or tactfulness. What is tactfulness? Tactfulness appeals us to be delicate in a situation that is embarressing. It is adoption of a kindest word using maximum delicacy and being descrete.
Sometimes we never seek to see the feelings of the other while saying the truth. We do not desitate to reveal the fact in public which perhaps hurts the real culprit. We will never lose a person if we try to spare a person from public shame by using tactfulness. Truth shall always prevail. But truth shall be established with charity and delicacy. Respecting the feelings of the others is great charity.
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4 responses
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
18 Dec 11
I agree wit your views ! truth is no doubt right and should be upheld, but people and human relationships sometimes demand a certain amount of understanding and tact in dealing with situations.I feel that t is better to be silent and say little when there is a tricky situation rather than hurt feelings by speaking the truth ! However, I still feel that one cannot hide truth for a long time, it has a way of coming out..
@rubylin28 (76)
• Philippines
18 Dec 11
The truth might sometimes hurt someone's feelings but it is better to tell the hurtful truth than telling a lie. There are some instances where we find it so hard to express and say what is really in our minds. We may not be able to express them in a very tactful way but let's just try to speak in a good tone and see to it that the things we say will not hurt much to the person we're talking to.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
17 Dec 11
I am a straight person and I don't like to lie around or make things look better as they are. It depends on the kind of person if I use tact or not. Some people turn to be deaf if you use tact even if I am in my eyes very rude there is no bell ringing with them. So the question is.. who is arrogant here? The one who pretends or prefers to be deaf because according to him his truth and opinion is the only one or me talking to deaf ears?
@eunique317 (347)
• Philippines
18 Dec 11
Well said. I feel that we should always exercise tact when speaking. Even if another person needs to know the truth, he/she should be spared from public humiliation. You might also be spared from experiencing the same. Do not do unto others what you do not want other do unto you. Furthermore, you make better friends that way.
