Telling friends a lie

happened to me tell a lie to a friend. Why would you ask simply because I had, and sometimes have very personal things in the family and you can not tell the truth. I would only allow a lie otherwise you share everything with my friends because they are just that. Thank you very much for this discussion. nice day!

If I was asked out right by a friend about something, I most likely would be truthful but I wouldn't just voluntary bring up a subject that might hurt them and then tell a lie to keep from hurting them. I think we all deserve to be told the truth especially if it is a life changing event for that person.

Telling friends a lie is not something that should be done rather lightly. Given that there are going to be friendships that are going to be built supremely on honesty, a lie to a friend is something that is rather hard. It is really not a good idea to do to say the very least, especially if the lie can be easily verified with anyone with half of a brain. I would never lie to a friend. There might be times where I might tell only a slight variation of the truth but spin it in such a way that it can let them down gently. However an out and out lie is not something that I would do. Friends do not in fact lie to friends at all and trust can be undermined. It takes years to gain but only seconds to completely be destroyed.

I don't think that there are really many situations where telling a lie to your friend is acceptable. A little white lie here in there is acceptable for me but there is thing called honesty. If you really are a true friend then I believe you should be honest. We had this friend before and she was really nice. We eventually learned that her boyfriend is physically and emotionally abusing her. He hit her in the face before and she got bangs to hide it. We told her to leave him because he is a jerk and she deserves someone better. Our guy friends also talk to him but he just brushed it of. In the end she did not leave him so some of our friends told her that they can't see her suffer like that so they chose to 'unfriend' her. I know that that decision is not really the best thing but they just could not take it.

As much as possible I try not to lie. White lies, I did. But, I honestly tell a friend whatever is the truth. I may sometimes go into details. And some have actually misunderstood me for saying the truth. Sometimes someone will not believe if I say I don't feel well if a friend asked me to go somewhere in the Mall. They think I just don't want to go. And that is really something I cannot understand with friends. As much as possible I don't talk much and try to prove, if they want to know whether I am lying they can see me always during that day. I also don't think that lying is good. It is not even right. Maybe sometimes we lie because we are hiding some ugly things about our past or our family. But I think that is understood. People have the right to privacy, and when they asked about their past they can just say a few very small lies or just keep it to yourself.

you must not lie to your friend. example if your friend has only one friend it was only you and must stand true to your friend because if you tell a lie to her/he. and he/her will not treat you as a good friend. so you must stand true to your friend.

I wouldn't. While I understand the popular opinion that a white lie can help "protect" someone's feelings, I don't feel it's right. I've had white lies told to me to protect my feelings and it only ends up wasting time and causing me to feel distrustful toward the liar, despite their relationship to me. White lies are much more trouble than they're worth, and what's the point? Why would a person ask you a question if they didn't want the truth? I think people have the right to the types of friendships they want to entertain, but in my own I try to make it perfectly clear that I won't lie. If you think your butt looks big in a pair of jeans and ask me to concur, I will. I actually had this happen once...my best friend turned to me and asked if her pants made her butt look fat, and I said, "Yeah, but that's a good thing, isn't it?" She appreciated my honesty, and if she was a person that wouldn't have, we wouldn't be friends to begin with. In closing, I guess what I am trying to say is that my blunt and open honesty wouldn't be appreciated by all people, just as lying to "protect" feelings may be done as a gesture of good will, but would only anger me and teach me to distrust the person. There is no situation in which I would feel comfortable lying to a friend. There have been times I have told friends that the information is confidential (especially when involving other people), etc., but lying is out of the question.

To me it doesn't matter if it's a true friend, family or stranger. The truth is a the truth and a lie still stays a lie. I don't see any reason to lie.