Do you give second chances?

I would like to, but I tend to think all the things through twice before jumping to any decisions, so sometimes I would slip and 'forgive' something, but never forget, but it's very rare, cause when a person in whatever relationship we are breaks my trust, its never gonna be the same agaian. at least not for me. even though I may forgive them I never forget and there's always this feeling then like what, if it will all repeat..etc. so I try not to give second chances and I don't want to either, but often my own goodness is the one that clashes with my mind and makes me do it. however, if I can as much as I try I don't and will not give a second chance for sure when it comes to lets say romantic relationships, usually this trust is broken with cheating or lies or combination of both and more, so, no, if a guy cheats on me that means he never really loved me as much that he could sustain his desire in the moment of heat and he never deserved me and I, if I respect myself ebnough will foresee that and let hig go as soon as possible, cause you know how people tend to be when we make mistakes we always say we will never do it again, or some even say I'd never to that TO YOU, but reality and circumstances are those that we can't affest, so its better to rather not to promise or say anything, or just say instead I will try not to hurt you, but I can't promise you that for sure. So second chances actuually ware from person to person, but I zthink in general they're not worth it as people find our weakness in that and most of time we get played of this 'goodness' we possess.

for me i can give a second chance to see if the person will change even the third once i will be fedup i can't give anymore i will just take my distance

For me it all depends on what was done. If they didn't listen to me and did the complete opposite of what I wanted . I wouldn't forgive because they didn't listen to me. But if they did a minor thing And asked for forgiveness straight away, I would forgive them.

What about you? Have you ever been in a position where you might need a second chance?

You know friend you are right sometimes because I experience being cheated and give another chance the person I love so much but what she did is cheated me again...I don't want to say all but there are people something like that. Those people are selfish and nothing to think but their own happiness not consider the feelings of other... Chances are given only to those dedicated person that really want to change their life. Those people who really think themselves must be put to shame so that they may know how pain they created...right?

Honestly,i would consider a second chance and i think this maybe good for my personal development.If you really determined to do and nothing could beat you.This is really good for ourself,isn't it?lol,i'm not sure i have confidence in third and even forth chances.Good luck.

I will always give someone the benefit of the doubt and give them a second change, but not a third chance. I can accept that somebody can make a mistake, and be strong and honest enough not to repeat that mistake, but if after committing themselves to not do something bad again, they do it, then yes, I will agree that they are not strong enough and have little self-control or willpower. I think though that even after one indiscretion, it will take a long time to build up trust in somebody again. _Derek

Im about to adopt this for myself too. Ive always been a forgiving person but some males you just are always forgiving because they keep messing up. im talking about cheaters. Once they cheat they always will.

Great question little green kitty. Second chances are part of life and relationships. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. What is important is that the person wants to do better and is making a true effort to do the right thing. Of course some things, like violence, are so bad that the person doesn't deserve a second chance.

I definitely do believe in giving second chances because I know that there have been times in my own life where I've needed a second chance. However, I also feel that there are times that people wait too long to ask for their second chances. With that said, I know that my husband is on his second chance with me right now because he has hit me once in the past and it it is to ever happen again, I will be out the door quicker than he would ever realize what had happened.

hello there xien2xien, i am the type of person who always considers second chances but it purely depends on the situation. hence, i do not want to deprive the person in such things so i am giving them second chances if applicable. however, as i have said, it depends on the situation. so if the situation is not tolerable and i cannot bear what wrong they have done, i am not giving this second chance anymore. nevertheless, they are really deserve to be awarded with this reward. thus, i am just giving a second chance to those qualified ones. after all, everybody deserves to have a second chance. as everybody is prone to do a sin that sometimes it is unavoidable.

Yes I will give second chance if my husband is telling me and promise me they will not repeat the mistake. But still I not get such chance because my husband is understanding men.

For me, it will just depend on the situation. If in my point of view, the person as well as the situation are worthy of a second chance, then I'm giving a second chance.

There is really no right or wrong way to answer this, some people think that one chance is all that is deserved for someone to prove thier worth, others think it is alot more. Perosnally, it really depends on the situtation, its been said that cheating is a deal breaker for some. but it may not be for others, you never know. For your standard domestics, plenty of chances are the way to go. As for the more serious things like cheating, stealing etc. One chance is all you will ever get from me.

I would not want to have a strict rule about second chances. I think sometimes there is much to be gained by working through the issues to a new level of understanding one another. This can make the relationship much stronger. When one partner fails, it does not necessarily mean that some of the guilt is not shared between both people. Also, sometimes our forgiveness may require that we not cast off the person. No hard and fast rules - it can be a very difficult process to survive, yet alone work through.

I will try to give second chances, but I have a difficult time going pass that. i have a difficult time giving a third chance, and such.

I do give second chances to people who deserve them but their is a limit when I should give second chances. If its in a relationship, the moment she sleeps with another guy that will be my limit. I can never forgive someone who cheated on me and slept with another guy.

It depends on the "crime" and how much it affects me. Something might be forgiven while not others. It really depends.

Life is full of drama. At a critical stage, I may decide such a strong decision of no attachment at all in life time to a person, but as time pass by some strange incidents again force us to connect again. The same mind of me would force me to forgive, saying it is greatness to forgive to one who is changed.

It depends on what we're talking about. IF we're talking about love, then there's no such such as a second chance. True love happens only once in a lifetime. It doesn't come twice.