Do u like relatives staying at your house for days together?

Hi Lekhya, I am not actually good with entertaining my friends or relatives if they are here in my house. I would just prefer to go online and spend the entire night watching my favorite dramas or posting here in mylot rather than find ways to make them entertain. Hence, I don't really like someone who will spend the night here in my house. I would prefer to just stay the night on other people's house. And yeah, our house is so small so I couldn't really make them comfortable in terms of sleeping really well in a good bed. My relatives would tend to sleep in here sometimes...but only very rare and only for a night. Happy Mylotting!

You absolutely are not wrong! At least not if you have a family like mine. I learned long ago to tell mine when they are coming to visit to get a motel/hotel room. The first time I told them to do that, it was amazing how they stopped showing up expecting me to take care of all their needs and wants. I have pets and a husband, and I entertain when I want to, not when demanded of me by some lazy relative that eats my food, dirties my house, torments my pets, and then has the nerve to tell me I don't keep a good house when they are the ones messing it up. Even had one want me to babysit their children for 3 days while they went sight seeing after they showed up at my house unexpectedly. There children were old enough to go with them. Oh no, never again. And the children are the type you can't say anything too because you aren't their parent. Mine do not help with anything and some have the nerve to ask me to wash their bag of clothing right before they leave. Give me a break. So, now they come visit and expect not to stay at my house (it is small to start with). I do not have anything as an extra bed other than a blow-up one and that helped to stop them from staying. I have heard the excuses from them when I wanted to go visit. They never had a spare room and it never bothered them to tell me to get a motel/hotel, so they get to do it too. Heck when I visit them, they don't even offer to fix dinner, they want to eat out at my expense. Oh no, they are not staying anymore in my house and I quit fixing the food and entertaining them at restaurants too. My family is so selfish and self-centered, they can pay their own way to visit me. I'm done being their free ticket to visit my area of the country!

It doesn't sound as if the relatives who stay with you are having much respect for you if they don't even do anything to help. We don't have relatives to stay now because those who go away from their own homes, take vacations in resorts - overseas usually, so there is none of this staying in other people's houses. It used to happen with us, and whilst they seemed quite happy to stay for days on end, two days in my opinion was more than enough! I am fairly straight talking and that would cause problems I guess, but I don't believe in compromising my own truth and tripping around a subject - best say it the way it is. But that doesn't mean that I exagerrate or upset people by losing my temper. If I feel that somebody over-stays their welcome or takes advantage, I will let it be known, in a joking way at first perhaps, but if they don't get what I am saying, that I'm afraid I will say it straight, as I see it.. That has a good effect of making people think twice before they arrange to come and stay with me! But I am not that bad a person, I don't think. I will always help people to help themselves, which is better than me doing it all for them! _Derek

I love it when my relatives come to stay its nice having a full house for a change usually its just me and my mum and the house feels very quiet.Were lucky as when our relations come to stay they are very helpful my aunty usually does some ironing or something to help.She came at the weekend just gone to help my mum get ready for Christmas as the family are spending Christmas at our house and my aunty does most of the cooking when she is over as she used to have her own cafe and is a very good cook.

That is also happen here in our home, my friend. I always said to my brother, that if anyone coming from the province and want to stay here. They should talk to me first because it's not easy to have more responsibilities nowadays due to higher price of commodities and all... I don't like anyone to stay here in our home in more days because all things will be in place and savings that need to run our daily life is not enough...

Reuniting with relatives is fun, especially during christmas. But if you are the host, those relatives should understand that they need to help in the expenses and the household chores. What's difficult is when they come, they overstay and expect you to handle everything - from expenses to everything. Merry Christmas!

Kind of people you have mentioned, I feel no one will like. Thankfully I am lucky that all my friends take charge of kitchen when they come so I really love them to come and pamper me by their new recipes.The relatives who just come and stay doing nothing, I do not invite such guests. You are absolutely right if such kind of guests are coming then even the thought of such people horrifies.

Well its not always easy to dealing with relative but there is a golden rule. If they Golden rule if they older than me (Means my aunt, uncle, and grandparents) I will serve them with out any complain because its already my task. But for any one who younger or at the same age at first day they can be relax but another day they must help in house routine because its will be feel that's what must be like that. Especially if they stay for many days, they had to made contribution in the house to pay what they eat and roof above their head.

I am not much of a very sociable person actually. I like privacy, and I just love my private life. I would not like relatives spending days here in my house. Perhaps a few minutes would be fine, but to spend the night would be a different thing. Anyway, it is not a practice here in our country.

Our house isn't big enough to have guests stay overnight. I used to have a bigger home, and I didn't mind people staying over. I might be glad for people to come, but I would probably be just as glad when they leave. I like my own space.

you are good person. I like to spend long time with my relatives and friend, it gives much fun and peace on my heart. serving the best for all of your guests show that how much you care of them. It is so normal for being irritated on your position cos they do not care of you by helping you to do something. The best protest for them is by doing the vise verse of them whenever you stayed at their house. Stayed a day or 2 days, let them serve you well but you have to help them too. They will feel this different and aware of their mistake. For now, keep holding on dear!

Its nothing wrong feeling like this. You can be happy only if they can make you comfortable by there stay. I too knew of some of my relatives who come to my home stay till they feel like and also throw tantrums.I often avoid them by staying late night at work or sometimes tell them that I'm expected to travel out of work to nearby town. Its better to avoid them without hurting them.

if i had the chance to visit my relatives and stay in his/her place i see to it that i help them with the chores if not then sometimes i gave them money for the expenses.

well first they should give you notice that theyre coming and second you should tell them all your rules if they have to do the house hold chores they u should tell them beside its your place.You better have a serious talk to them.

To be frank, I don't really like the relatives stay at my house for several days. Since I don't have extra room for them. Perhaps I have to ask our son to sleep with us during this period. And then the relatives live in my son's bedroom. Even though, sometimes something is still inconvenient. I prefer to find a hotel to live nearby and I don't mind paying for it. I love China

I can honesty say ive never had friends or family come stay with me. Most of my adult life ive lived very far from my home state. So they have never came to see me. Its like they expect me to go to them always. Once my father and step mom came to visit unfortunately i was renting just a sleeping room so they went to stay at my daughters house. The next time they came my daughter was getting married they rented a room at a nearby motel. My daughter offered for them to stay with her again but they declined. This time i was staying in my RV so didnt have room again. I wouldnt mind if i had room they could stay.

I don't like it when certain family stays with us so normally when they come to town I tell them to stay se were so I don't have to deal with them all day just being around my house and disrupting my child's schedules. Some family is cool to stay here because they won't get in my or bother me at all.

I remember when we're younger my grandma used to let our relatives stay in our house for several days or weeks, it was her house then so my parents don't comment on it. Then we started renting out for a long years my parents are the one paying and spending for everything, I think no one has ever tried staying at our house or maybe if there is anyone they know that there is no room. We always rent small houses with two rooms, So the house cannot really receive relatives that will stay for longer period. Maybe an overnight stay will be fine as some of my friends, and my brothers friend had slept in our house before. That is okay but several days would be too much and sometimes uncomfortable too.

For me, if it is just 2 or 3 days, I can live with it. But going beyond that I think is no longer comfortable on my part. You have the right to feel that way you are feeling. You are the host and the burden of making your guests comfortable is a 24/? responsibility.

For me, most of the case is : burden to me Well, i will happy to hang out with them. However, too close together is not good! "WHEN THEY WILL LEAVE" Yoo! For 1-2 days, it is ok! For a few more days...i do not know what should i do anymore!