A mother who seeks help for her son

@Verity (851)
December 20, 2011 3:10am CST
A friend of mine approached me yesterday, seeking help for financial assistance in the amount of $4,000 for her to post a bail bond of her son who has been in jail for illegal possession of prohibited drugs and offered a Title of a certain lot as security for the money she would like to borrow. Since I know, that the government is seriously working to stop Drug Trafficking and Drug Pushing, it being a means to commit a crime, I refused and told her that I don't have that such huge amount for her to borrow. After that, she was mad at me and told me that I am not a true friend and told me further that she don't want me anymore to become her friend. I just ignore her and let her go. If you were on my shoes, will you able to grant her intention? Share with me your opinion, thanks.
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3 responses
mscny3
@mscny3 (10)
• United States
21 Dec 11
I think when it comes to our kids, we have tunnel vision. I personally would not be mad at you and would understand. That is a lot of money. It would be for me anyway. Maybe she will come around and then maybe she has different views of what a friend is. i agree with you, I would not be able to help.
Verity
@Verity (851)
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22 Dec 11
Hi Mscny, Another reason why I refused her, not only that the amount she needs is too big to consider which amount is already something on my part, I do not want to tolerate such kind of delinquency.
sigeboss
@sigeboss (116)
• Philippines
20 Dec 11
hello Verity, you just did the right thing. it is very important that her son has to learn the lesson. if she gets mad at you, then she's the one who's not a true friend to you. not the other way around.
Verity
@Verity (851)
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20 Dec 11
Hi Sigeboss, I agree with you. I may not be a true friend to her because of refusal but I'm just doing what is appropriate.
ChristyLee
@ChristyLee (10)
• China
20 Dec 11
i did not meet this situation before.I usually choose to borrow the money to the ones when the total is small.i only want myself fell at ease.I think you confuse if it is right not borrowing the money to her,so you come here to seek people's opinion,right?
Verity
@Verity (851)
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20 Dec 11
Hello Christy, thanks for the response. I am not confused. Just wanted to share about what happened yesterday and the behavior of a friend when being refused. Thanks again...