Chemotherapy is not as terrible as they say!

@marguicha (222855)
Chile
December 21, 2011 12:15am CST
I have been following some threads in posts here at mylot and have found that many mylotters are very much afraid of chemo. Chemo is not the same for everyone as cancer is not one and only illness but many that are treated in different ways. Some are more painful, some are not painful at all. I´m posting this because I want to ask you not to dread chemotherapy as it might same your live, prolong it and/or give you a better quality of life. I wish some friends who have gone through this told their experiences. There are some better and some worse. My lymphoma is on remission thanks to chemo. Now I´m looking forward to the day when I can start thinking about what colour shall I use to dye my hair Share your experiences or tell us about your loved one´s experiences. Take care! Life is beautiful!
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
21 Dec 11
OH, guicha...this is such a POSITIVE discussion, for which I thank you...as I know that I, too, am on the fence, and don't know from biopsy to biopsy, test to test, when and if I will need chemo, and reading some positive here, would surely help with my fears and trepidation! Just reading this positive re-inforcement from you...truly has helped! AND, Marguicha--I will save this discussion for my son to read! He is being biopsied on Jan. 3 for "skin cancer"...I only found out last nite--he didn't want to tell me, with it being so heavy on my mind! Thank you..Thank you, as now I have to try and be strong for him, too! I'm in a bit of a whirlwind, this morning!
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
21 Dec 11
My father had skin cancer (and some other people I know) and except for some very few agresive ones, they are nothing more than taking out a mole. Dear friend, If you do need chemo, I will send you PM some of my experiences that are not written in the booklet I was given about what to expect and what not to expect. What are the doctors looking for in your body? In my case, the PET scan did not say anything conclusive, but one biopsy told everything. And a bone marrow test later on showed that it was worse that it looked at first. But chemo did wonders. After chemo, the second bone marrow test showed nothing wrong there. A big and keep me posted.
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• United States
21 Dec 11
I am so sorry to hear what you and your son are going through right now, Perga! I also know a couple of people that have had to have "spots" removed that were found to be skin cancer. In all the cases that I know it is just as Marguicha has said ... they removed a (relatively) small area of skin and did follow-up tests and check-ups to make sure that there was nothing else. The one that had the biggest "spot" removed had a small piece of skin taken from another part of her body (I think her butt, although I am not certain) and grafted into place, but that was only for cosmetic reasons as she was fairly young and it was in a very visible place.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
22 Dec 11
That is exactly correct, chemotherapy is not that horrible like the popular believed out there, it all depend on the severity of the disease you contracted as in this case, the stage where the cancerous tumor has reached. In an early stage of the disease, chemo. treatment side effect is not that bad and horrific as it sound like in most people mind, a physically and emotionally strong patient can easily overcome the side effect with proper care and close monitoring . Compare to the outcome of doing nothing and let the tumor continue to grow inside your body, it is a treatment that is well worth your time and money, not even mention you stand a chance to survive and avoid more suffering and pain later on before it take away your life. Take heart on this, if you are diagnosed with cancer by your doctor, don't afraid to take his or her advice to go on chemo. treatment if that is the only option for you and is strongly recommended by your doc.
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@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
21 Dec 11
Hello dear... I don't have any experience.. But I wish you speedy recovery from your pains n illness... Take care of yourself... God bless you!!!
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
21 Dec 11
Thank you, mr_pearl. I am recovering. And I posted this so that people can read that, although there are more very agresive cancers, doctors have learned many ways of helping with it and people can have a good quality of life and maybe not so short a life either.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
21 Dec 11
I am glad that you are recovering Miss.. Your work, your helpful nature will surely be recognized by everyone. Take care of your health and keep us updating about your progress... :-)
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
21 Dec 11
Thank you, friend. I not count on long term goals now, although I can see that I´ll be around for some time yet. But today I´m baking cupcakes for Christmas. That is my goal for today. Tomorrow I will find another.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Dec 11
Hi marhuicha This is quite a positive discussion. I have known only one person - one of our family docs - who had cancer and was undergoing Chemo. She lost her hair, her skin went pale and other things but the best part was that the last results came out negative and she is now free from cancer. I have been following some of your discussions since you mentioned the Chemo and also the lymphoma - and I see a positive you on these which is quite a big healer in itself. I wish you a great health always. Take care
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@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
21 Dec 11
Chemo brings side effects such as loss of hair and skin problems. But that means that the chemo is working. Chrmotherapy goes agains cells that divide quickly. Cancer cells are of that kind. But it also happens (although not that quickly) with skin tissue. Just remember how quickly a tan goes away from our bodies after Summer is over. My last chemo was a little over a month ago. My eyebrows disappeared with my last chemo. Now I´m having them back. Hair grows, but cancer in on remission.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
21 Dec 11
hi friend, so glad you are well now and have a positive outlook, well I still dread it cause I saw so many of my love ones underwent it since cancer seems to be in the genes of females in my mother's side of the family. I think another thing most dread in our country when you say " chemotherapy" is the expenses that comes with it
@soulist (2985)
• United States
27 Dec 11
my insurance paid for everything I was very lucky in that matter. Also after my community found out they started a fund for people to help donate and help me with my treatment. I was amazed at how my community banded together to help me when most of them didn't even know me. Businesses helped and I paid a lot of stuff with it like my shots and things. When I look back I see I was very lucky.
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
21 Dec 11
Fortunatly in my country we have a very good coverage for some mayor illness. It is still expensive as a special and very cheap insurance has a deductible (but it depends on our health insurance plan). But for poor people it is free.
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
That's great, you're having remission, i hope that it will continue to get better. I have a friend who also had cancer, She was able to survive. She also had chemotherapy of course, which is really a big help, and works for her. When we visited her, she's already bald, she's losing her hair, because this is the effect of chemo. This is just normal, it will grow again, as you did. She also wore some wig, which is cool, because she's a blonde now. LOL.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
23 Dec 11
Well, luckily for me, Cancer is not a thing I have had to deal with. I have known many that have, and have seen the issues they have had to face. But hey I would think anything to help someone live longer is a plus. I know with all my Health issues anytime you are faced with something New it is scary, but if you just learn to trust God with everything you are going thru, one day soon they can all look back knowing it was truly worth it all.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
27 Dec 11
During my chemo I learned that if I ate something small like toast or half of a half of bagel I didnt get nausea, I would end up sleeping for a day and a half or my food tasted like metal. But like you said I wouldn't want people to fear it. I suggest, if they let you have someone in with you, bring a friend. My nurses let my mom in with me (I was 24). My cancer is in remission now as well because of Chemo (and I think prayers), I had Lymphoma as well ^_^. It was kinda fun watching my hair grow back. 4 years later and my hair is as long as it was when I began treatments, I went through so many colours and am now back to my blonde. But I think having that support helped also because she helped keep my nerves calm,so did eating just a little.
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
27 Dec 11
My mother is too old to be able to be with me, but I have several very good friends who took turns to be with me. I did not have many problems during the chemo, except for being vey sleepy and exhausted. But after the chemo ended, I got an intestinal infection and ended up in the hospital for about a week.. But all that is behind and I´m happy to see my eyelashes and eryebrows grow. I hope to see my hair grow too, but it is not in any hurry to do so. I want a good quality of life for me and for the ones I love, so I will not cry out because of my lymphoma. It is a miracle that it is on remission now: I will not ask for more.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Dec 11
Chemo - 1 Cancer - 0 Hooray for you. Keep on keeping on and whip that nasty old cancer!
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
24 Dec 11
I´m doing my best. The beast is on remission, so I hope I can go for vacations maybe next March.
@GavinKaos (272)
• United States
25 Dec 11
I'm glad Chemo wasn't as harsh on you as some other people. I appreciate you sharing your experiences because if you remember correctly several months back I thought I had it because of the way the doctor said, you either have this or that and didn't say there was a 3rd option of not having either. Do you already have a color for your hair you've decided to dye it or are you going to pick whatever when the time comes?
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
25 Dec 11
The worst was after the chemo. I got a virus from my granddaughter and ended up in the hospital for about a week because my white cell count was VERY low. As for the hair color, I have dyed it for a long time. Now I have nothing to dye, but as soon as it grows, I´ll have the same as usual.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
22 Dec 11
This is a good discussion, always we fear most the unknown and by sharing experiences such as yours it makes it easier for others to face this treatment. I do know that they have made these treatments much easier to bear over the years. Blessings to all who are facing this.
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
24 Dec 11
I have learned from experience that we dread what we don´t know. So I thought it was important if we shared experiences here. There are many mylotters with chronic illnesses that might be worse than having cancer. And many cancer can either be cured or put in remission by surgery, radiotherapy or chemo. A big hug to all those who care.
• United States
21 Dec 11
Unfortunately, I have too much experience with this ... not me personally, but very close friends and family. Every person does react differently, and I am very glad to hear that not only did the chemotherapy work for you but also that it was not as terrible as you expected. I am going to leave it at that, since this is a positive discussion and I do not want to bring it in a different direction.
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
22 Dec 11
Wht I meant to say is that we should live our lives as well as we can under our circumstances. That helps a lot. We don´t know our future, but we can live our present without worries and dreads. I don´t know if I will be able to have vacations elsewhere yet. But I do know that today I made the best cupcakes EVER to take to my daughter´s home for Christmas. And the week at the hospital belongs to the past now.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
22 Dec 11
Fortunately, I never had to do chemo. But, I spend all my days at the hospital since I study Medicine and a few semesters ago we spend a few months with the children that had cancer. It was very sad situation, specially because they were only kids. Chemo is different for each person. There were kids that didn't had any bad effect, the majority felt a little uncomfortable after the chemo and had a few that had really bad effects.
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
22 Dec 11
Children with cancer and on chemo are heart breaking, no matter how well they tolerate the chemo. Children that are very ill are hard to accept. I have had the experience with one of my grandsons and nothing that has happened to me is one tenth as bad as that.
• China
27 Dec 11
I wish you a speedy recovery,chemotherapy is indeed very painful for some patients,during your chemotherapy,if try to use traditional Chinese medicine to tone,may be better.marguicha,if you have physical conditions,then the sun came out to the sun,think of something fun to do a lot,a lot of activity,your disease will soon be better.Come on!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
21 Dec 11
Different people have different reactions to chemotherapy. some people have little affects from the procedure while others become despondent. It is an experience that nobody should have to suffer but it does bring more to life for so many.
@reinykwan (350)
• Indonesia
21 Dec 11
I have a family who has suffering with bone cancer, he should do chemotherapy for several times, and he looks so painful. His hair fall gradually. I think it's depend on the cancer levels.
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
21 Dec 11
My hair fell off completly and so did my eyebrows and eyelashes. My lymphoma was diagnosed as Level IV (the worst). Yet it is on remission after chemo. There are hats nd other hair dresses to hide hair loss although everyone knows it´s fake. Skin suffers too and creams help a little bit. But the quality of life does not depend on hair or looks but of the love that surrounds the person with an illness, even if it is a common cold.