The world is full of bad people - or is it?

While it is true that situation does make some of the people bad it is not always so. Some people continue to be bad even after the situation changes. That is when they are truly bad. There are of course others who are basically bad, i.e., they would take advantage of the situation given chance, irrespective of their situation and obligations.

Well, treated the sister's child as a maid, broke her engagement, got her married to somebody against her wishes because her father left her monies, and this aunt wanted to have control on those monies, something like that...

hey vandana, still unable to undderstand what is "basically bad" term is meant to. and thanks for comment. lets me tell in more brief no one is remains bad inspite of the facts they want to regrets and want to apologise. lets say we did some sort of crimes for the shake of success or money. but somewhere inside we know that the deeds which we have done is wrong and needs punishments. we not wants to seeks lessons from our msitakes and wanst to apologise but the thing is the peoples living outside do not allow us to regrets. they all are set to give punishments. thats what i m taking about outside circumstances make the peoples bad they do not allow us to follow our soul voice and do not allow us to rekindle our inner fire.

I agree. However, I do differ on a small thing. You said "many a times we do not have options to select whom we stay with and many a times we dont want to change the options." I feel an unhappy person is more likely to spread unhappiness. Therefore, in the later case, we should change the options even if we dont want to. That we we will become more peaceful and calmer and eventually spread peace and harmony in others lives as well. What do you think?

thesids - I meant a person who is bad and makes you unhappy. I am sure your family is not bad but only sick. A person who is bad is likely to be abusive, use foul language, try to undermine your efforts and spoil your name. Its time to leave that kind of people behind and move on. That is what I meant to say.

Quite True. Being with someone who will spread unhappiness will only bring unhappiness. In most of the cases, we should change the options and find someone (if needed) who is better. But... if any of my family is sick, ill and will always remain so, how can I change the options here? I may find a better friend no doubt but family? I said "many a times we dont want to change..." just because of this. Unfortunately or fortunately, on 90% cases, it is our family that matters and we cannot change that. I was mentioning this... btw, I saw that I have been given the BR for this one. I feel honored to have won one from you

You are right people resent being told they are wrong, so don't. Tell them a better way and allow them to decide. A friend of yours did it this way and everyone was so much happier. Sometimes something as simple as an idea will supply others a view they have never seen before. OK, Vandy. Merry Christmas. I'm off to put on my Santa Claus suit. Hmmm??? Looks like I need more stuffing. Unlike most people, Santa can't be too Fat. Ho! Ho! Ho!

People resent being told that they are doing something wrong. It is hard to explain things to them. Perhaps we just have to accept that we are different and leave it at that.

Merry Xmas to you bird. :) Wonder how you look as a Santa. :)

I agree with what you say about grey areas. There are. Of course, when a person talks sweetly and digs our grave, we will take time to realise what he or she did. But then, we can classify them as good or bad for us. I might be good to many and bad to many as well. So it is just the question of finding the right set of people I think. I do not agree that "we should be good not only to ourselves but to the world at large." That puts the bar up, and many people would be inclined to have a go at it only because they want others to appreciate them, which is not the right motive. I think if we are good in ourselves, we can automatically cause right environment and such need to outreach may not be there. Everybody would be an equal contributor to the welfare of mankind. It is difficult call for individuals. Why should they be burdened alone?

I agree about that appreciation and motivation bit. But there is a hitch. Not everybody who is appreciated is truly good at heart. So he or she becomes like a fox under the lamb's skin. That is very dangerous because people who are genuinely lamb would not be able to do the good they want to do and can do.

Anyone doing good with other motives is good till good is being done. Once the other motivation starts to dominate, they and their deeds collapse. That is the good thing about good. To sustain it you need more of it. I agree that there may be some damage by the time their other motives are evident, but then, trusting and being let down is a better option than never having trusted at all! Lambs need to toughen up face the world. Experience is very important in life, without it lambs will be suitable only for slaughter. That is not good.

I think we all are good, bad, and gray with different people at different times. But some are good most of the times, with us, and some are bad most of the times with us. So we need to say good bye to the bad ones.. You are quite like me Jenn. :)

Wow, that's an honour to be mentioned as quite like you, Vandy... most of the time I am a 'don't care' person unless it is directly affect me... And by the way, I never see a person as good or bad but all are grays....

Very profound thoughts. I am just a bit skeptical about "The reason why some people become bad mainly lies in that they've made a wrong choice in their way to life." At times, such choices are thrust upon us. It is not necessary that we make those mistakes.

Yeah,some people make mistakes because they get too anxious,too excited about their situation.If they could give a little more time to think carefully,they would not make such mistakes.

Exactly. It is like if a medicine is not working, we need to change it. Some people try to hang on and cry how others are making them miserable. But what are they achieving? They are only losing more of their lives in those unhappy moments. There are better people around. All we need to do is seek them. Have a nice day dear lady.

I am afraid.. there are bad people. :( You are young. You may not realize that as yet. Probably you are lucky you dont have any bad ones around you. But a few years down the lane, when you start your career, competition takes over ..you will realize how people change or how bad some people are.. But there are good folks too. So leave the company of bad ones, and be in the company of good ones. You will be happy. Happy new year my dear.

It is my belief that a person who is good makes others happy, and a happy person spreads happiness. So it is incumbent on all of us to strive for that elusive happiness in the group that we move.

Yes. I found good people. I found quite a few. They were always there. But they were completely overshadowed by others. I failed to recognize them then, but now I feel blessed. They've been there for me through thick and thin. I possibly took them for granted, and I regret that. I am wiser because of their goodness. Thank god for giving me such folks.

I think we cling to bad people because we do not want to accept we are wrong about our choices. Our ego makes us unhappy! Why cant we dare to walk out irrespective of what the society thinks? I recently did something like that. Believe me, it took a big toll. For a while I wondered whether I was on the right course. Or did it matter at this late stage of my life. But I somehow drifted. Finally, we did find some physical evidences that proved I am not wrong. Now, my end of the world is more peaceful. I have sort of amputated a part of my life. But with it, I would get gangerine and die! So I am better off with that amputation. But I will also have to say this. At times, we are just realize some people are bad and have done something in a particular fashion. So we start suspecting everything another person says or does. In the process, we do lose a possible good friend. At times the person who behaves in a fashion that hurts us is truly unaware of it. And at yet other times, our expectations are high or the ability of the person whom we approach for help is a bit low. Whatever be the reason, we should not be prejudiced and consider the situation calmly before letting go of the "bad" person.