Have you ever wished that you could just "turn off" your feelings
By davaome
@davaome (1826)
Philippines
December 22, 2011 7:23am CST
Like a switch for the lights, on/off....
Troubles pile up and you get stressed, frustrated, annoyed, pessimistic etc. Times that you wish that all these troubles would be gone, from loneliness, despair, ill treatment, disappointments, lost of hope and the like.
In times that you just can't do anything right because you are too bothered with your personal life, you can't see straight because your head is clouded with so many things that you just can't do anything about it. you have grieved from these troubles And times you just want all the pain and suffering to end...
(sigh)
I wished I could turn off my feelings...
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17 responses
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
Just like the same feeling I have felt many times. Those days I felt like doing nothing and not even a single thing can inspire me. I can't even understand everything I am reading or seeing. These are the times I feel like taking a break. Wishing that I was a child again, free from worries and pain. And all that I can think about is eating, sleeping and playing.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
en,
let's turn off the hurt and keep love ON forever
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@mercedes2053 (136)
• Davao, Philippines
22 Dec 11
So you wish you could turn on and off your feelings? I wish that too, if only we can put a switch on our feelings. But we know it is not possible because we are not robots. Although robots have no feelings. Maybe, wishing like this is just the result of being overwhelmed with problems in life. It's still normal to feel like this to the point of wishing if only feelings could be turned off when they become so dismal...
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
Not really sure if it is impossible to switch off your emotions, but never the less I would still want too, It is due to some problems which really affect my everyday living and it bothers me sometimes. I just wish I have an outlet so that I don't need to feel this way. I guess my outlet right now is by sharing these thoughts here in myLot.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
Actually I did.
I was able to turn off my feelings for many years.
until someone turn it on again... :p
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
I can feel love, happy for you! It's such a nice feeling to be in love!
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Dec 11
I think that there have been some times where it has been rather overwhelming about a lot of things. There have been times where my feelings are about ready to get the better of me to say the very least. Troubles are really going to continue to stir, that they are going to be troubled to say the very least and obviously my emotions really do feel rather scrambled.
There are days like this where I just want to scream. If only we can turn our emotions on and off at will. As there are times where emotions really are going to really just mess us up, mess us over, and really just cause us great drama and just more than a little bit of trauma. At least that is how the things are going to be. There have been times but thankfully not often. At least not as often as it should in fact be.
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@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
Sometimes really the feeling is overwhelming that you just want to scream and try to get aload off your chest. I agree that it really does cause trauma sometimes.
Often times that I could always just let my emotions be and keep it to myself, but at times I just what to release every thing in order for me to be worry free and hopefully not explode like a raging volcano.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
22 Dec 11
Yes, of course I wish I could turn off my feelings, because my feelings are very close to my skin, so to speak. I cry at the drop of a hat. I didn't used to be that way, but since I have gotten older, that is the way I have become. I have major depression disorder, so I do cry when I'm happy or sad or mad. I wish I could just shut off my feelings all together sometimes... but then I have other problems... I have no affect, meaning that I have no facial expressions when my feelings are totally blocked. Everyone has micro-expressions, and with certain medications, I don't seem to have any.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
22 Dec 11
No, Affect used in this way refers to the lack of normal facial expressions. Lack of affect gives you a blank look on your face. Some antidepressants do that and so do some other psychiatric meds.
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
I have noticed as well that many who become older tend to be more sensitive about their emotions. affect as in affection? When and how did this happen? Then if that's the case, it would be very difficult to know what you current feelings are.
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@fsuma86 (364)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
Hi!
I actually feel that today. Sometimes I want to give up because of the things that I always feel. I don't dwell on it but sometimes it just come out. I hate it when it happens because I can't easily stop the things that I feel. That is why I always pray and lift up everything to Him.
Thanks!
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
It is those uncontrollable emotions that really can't help but noticing. It takes away your focus and you can't really do anything right. Prayer has been my weapon for times like these but it seemed not to be working for me, I would want to continue praying and hopefully be enlightened.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
We are just humans , that's why we feel all those kinds of feelings, my friend. Without them, we will not discover how to cope up when bothered by them. Those feelings help us grow and understand what it is to live on earth.
It's up to us how to switch them off or how to cope with them. But as always, we should ask for the Lord's help when we feel those negative feelings, for us to be guided on how to better deal with them.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
27 Dec 11
When we persevere in our prayers, God give us answers in ways that we don't expect. Though the problem may not be totally solved, there comes a certain feeling in us, that it will be finally solved, we just have to work hard on it and never waver in our prayer.
It's a natural feeling, my friend.
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
Yesterday I did ask guidance form the Lord but it only healed a part of my suffering, but I am feeling better today, atleast better than yesterday, and I guess it was due to my prayers and constant meditation. These emotions have not really bothered me, and I had always been able to keep my cool about it, but I just felt that I was already full of it and I needed to let it out, the pain despair, and suffering. I guess I was facing many troubles and I think I just needed an outlet first, or atleast to shut my feelings down, but I feel not really bothered me anymore. and I guess the problems I am facing have been slowly getting solved.
@francesca5 (1344)
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22 Dec 11
yes and no, sometimes emotions are just too overwhelming and hard to deal with but on the other hand i would not really want to have none.
i'm not trying to preach here, but i did find, in the end, that the best way for me personally to handle bad emotions was to talk to god, and just trust him, and when something went wrong assume that after the bad thing something good would come out of it. which actually works reasonably well.
its funny, i like to play the guitar and sing folk songs, but i have to be very emotionally calm to do it, so if something upsets me, i just can't play, sometimes for a few days. but then, after i have gone through the process of dealing with those problematic emotions i actually play and sing better, even though i have missed out practising for a few days, don't tell anyone!
and i do often feel that having gone through the turmoil of bad emotions i do come out feeling stronger.
some people also suggest mindfulness meditation, i read somewhere that this was good for our prefrontal cortex, in our brains, and it can make us more centred within ourselves and more resilient. i don't know much about it, but it might be helpful.
the other thing you could look at is if you have a lot of negative and critical people in your life, as this can often be a reason why people feel bad, and you may then want to look at how you deal with that.
and of course another good solution is to talk the problems over with a reliable and supportive person, but they aren't always easy to find.
that's the best advice i can offer for dealing with unwanted emotions, but i would, despite the problems they cause, rather have them than not.
@francesca5 (1344)
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22 Dec 11
yes, i am sure you will come out stronger.
there is one other device i have, that is a bit too complex for a mylot comment, really,but if we have had a critical or negative relationship with someone when we are young, we absorb those critical messages, and then when we are older, even though we may have moved on, we incorporate that critical voice into our view of ourselves, and so we carry on saying negative things to ourselves. its referred to in counselling as the superego.
if you find yourself saying negative things to yourself you may want to find a way to change that voice.
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
Your advice have been very detailed and I like the effort that you have done. I have actually done a few, talking to God about this, and usually it helps me on better days. but failed this time. Meditating is something I do after I pray and it really calms me for awhile but not really releases all the emotions that I have right now. I have shared my thoughts to my real friends and even online friends as well to gain comfort and encouragement from them but still there is this something that I cannot get off my chest. Maybe this problem of mine needs to be resolved first before I can really feel better.
I am not accustomed to this feeling of deep despair and sorrow because usually I am a very jolly person, and it makes me feel weak in not being able to control such negative emotions. Hopefully I will come out stronger after this phase in my life.
@anil2154 (145)
• India
22 Dec 11
This often happens with me. My heart and my mind becomes clouded with lots of things and i just wish that someone came and brainwashed me. Sometimes it feels like all things should vanish from my brain. But it is only temporary. When you go through hard times, the good times aren't far away. These situations call for think by calm mind.
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
Well, yes i can,sometimes i can't turn off the feeling of being angry,sad but later will gone out if i am thinking positively.....
Its human nature to feel it but life is have that so we do try to escape but sometimes can't.........
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
Good that you are okay now.........enjoy this day and hope you are happy and have a great day..
@tabatha7 (187)
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2 Jan 12
Sometimes I do wish there were an "on/off button" for my feelings & emotions...
When I get overwhelmed with feelings, I like to write poetry or paint. It is a huge release & makes me feel a lot better afterwards.
That's the great thing about writing, art, etc. It's not just the finished product. It's a process unto itself & so I take my time when I do these things. Sometimes the finished product is terrible. And yet, I feel better because I have released that excess energy & emotion.
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
2 Jan 12
It is nice that you have an outlet for your feelings, being able to release those emotions through writing and painting must be a big help to you.
I am a complete opposite of you, because, I can't do anything right when I have a very big burden on my shoulder which gets my self esteem down fast.
But I am continue sly practicing a way to solve my problem and hopefully I will be successful
happy myLotting
@carlotay123 (213)
• Philippines
2 Jan 12
hmmmm. well I do not need to wish for it, cuz I know all of these stress, frustration, annoying moments, pessimistic , etc. will lead me to a main purpose, somehow these things can make me grow stronger and make you better as a person .
And besides kuya, God has plans for you, maybe he's just setting you up to these feelings, so that at the end, you can face bigger challenges . :)
Somehow that's a test for you also, so stay strong and don't stop praying . stay positive bro and God Bless you ! :)
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
2 Jan 12
That is a very nice way to put it :D
Troubles really test our faith in God and these are the challenges that we must face, may it be on a regular basis or not. Being able to go through these trials in life helps us grow as a better person, in a positive way, but not all people respond positively to challenges, but hopefully each and everyone of us will be able to surpass these challenges in life that God puts us, and yes He has a plan for us, and He will always guide us to the right way.
Maybe even teach me on how to turn on/off my feelings,
Stay positive Cousin
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
I have, a couple of times.. or maybe way too many times that i could not even count them anymore. We people go through different things - but just the same we are hurt.. either by an outcome of something we did or by what someone did. whether they have intentionally done that or not, just the same the end result was that we were hurt and is in pain. Sometimes I wish and pray to God that he would just let me forget about this person who caused me so much pain.. but maybe that would be more painful not to know him... Maybe we all just have to go through such feelings and get over them...
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
Everyone has their own problems in life but, most of the time people feel that pain and sorrow. and when it builds up our well being is tested if you are able to handle our emotions or not.
I think It would be better for you that you knew the person who caused you your pain, rather than not knowing, well this is just my opinion.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
2 Jan 12
Yeah, a lot of times, i have wished to turn off my feelings. that was before and i am or was not able to even control how i would react to certain things, when put under pressure. I guess it would have been really easy if we all could do this, right? hay sometimes its really hard getting our emotions to just not betray us.. often time, it does betray us, not cooperating with us when we need it too...