Happy New Year!
By a11ycat
@a11ycat (35)
Canada
December 23, 2011 1:33am CST
It's at this time of year that I start getting the warm and fuzzies -- I can feel my heart bursting. I love Christmas so very much!
Unfortunately, soon after Christmas comes New Years... an event I seldom look forward too. Reflecting on a bad year is never fun, and this one has been a doozey.
I was finally diagnosed with depression in April, and have been on a roller coaster of mild-highs and lowest-of-lows since. Although fortunately my recent medication alterations seem to have hit the spot. I have been even regularly attending the gym (...well, for this week anyways)!
I have decided that this New Years, instead of making my traditional "lose weight" resolution (a promise I have renewed each year since I was 16 and have always broken), I am going much simpler (and more achievable) this year. I am opting for the less scary promise to myself to try my best to be happy this year.
I figure it this way - if I am not succeeding at my goal for the new year, I often feel down on myself. But if my goal is to be happier, my lack of progress must not create more guilt, as to do so would be EVEN MORE counter-productive to my goal.
So I pledge that I am going to try my very best to have a HAPPY Happy New Year -- and I wish you all the best as well.
Happy Holidays,
a11y
8 responses
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
23 Dec 11
That's a great outlook to have. I don't really make New Year resolutions. I always seem to break them shortly before the end of January. I hope you enjoy your time on Mylot and have a wonderful 2012.
@mohitraj321 (496)
• India
23 Dec 11
Well this year may be good for me because I am waiting for my job. I am preparing for bank job but I need lots of prays so please pray for me I want job and I am waiting for the joining letter will I get this job May this year brings lots of happiness for me and my family. Happy New Year all of my Mylot friends
@narthan (325)
• India
23 Dec 11
Hi,
I am happy that you have a really good and sensible resolution for the coming year. I have seen people making resolutions usually to get rid of one of the nasty habits that they have cultivated. But this one of yours, to be happy, is what I think most of us should aim for. Because ultimately, whatever we do, all that matters is how happy we are in life. we might have a good bank balance but what if we do not have any happiness in life?
If you choose to be happy you just do things that keeps you happy, It might include getting rid of one of your habits that makes you feel low.....
Wish a Very Happy 2012............!!!!!!!!!
Regards,
Narthan.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
23 Dec 11
Let us move together with the new aim of achieving depressionless this new year 2012! Good Luck and I have been also a depressioner for 10 years plus, I hope I can help you with any question or problem, feel free to pm me, a11ycat, ok? YAY....HAPPY NEW YEAR xoxo...your friendly mylotter!
@a11ycat (35)
• Canada
24 Dec 11
Thank you soooooooo much! xo
I am rather new to this, but I'm feeling this ambiguous light at the end of the dark tunnel.
My biggest fear is regressing once I am "cured". Although is anyone really "cured" from depression?? My psychiatrist seems to think so, but it seems silly to me to be able to say that on Monday you were depressed... but Tuesday, you're cured!
Thoughts?
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
23 Dec 11
Hi allycat, welcome to MyLot and I wish you a Happy New Year too. I pray that the depression will go away, I pray that peace and happiness be with you always. You are a child of God and God want all his people to be happy and carefree. Do what is required for you to do to help and remove this depression, but the most important thing is to trust, have faith and believe in God. And have a very Merry Christmas.
@a11ycat (35)
• Canada
24 Dec 11
Hi Chevee,
Thank you for the prayers. Although I am not necessarily a follower, I do believe that His children will be the key in helping to alleviate depression, as they have helped me so much so far.
I hope you have a very Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year!
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
23 Dec 11
It's the greatest resolution and the one that will be a present you give yourself, nothing is more important than being happy and who knows, maybe your previous loose weight resolution will just come naturally.
I don't know, I eat more when I'm sad.
I'm also seeking happiness, I want to be more and more happier. 
Let's make a toast: happiness to us both and all MyLotters,
Cheers!!!
Let's make a toast: happiness to us both and all MyLotters,
Cheers!!!@a11ycat (35)
• Canada
24 Dec 11
haha I like that toast!!
As for the sadness = more eating; I totally agree. I struggle with binge eating myself. I used to be in a cycle where I was my worst enemy - I would perform the contrary to that which would progress my goal. My goal to lose weight - I would binge. My goal to do great in school - I would not go to class.
I'm hoping to stop my self-inflicted misery, and strive for a happier overall life. I am not promising an unrealistic "I will be happy for an entire year, without being sad once", but rather hoping to try my very best to beat this dark cloud.
I'm hoping to fight. Fight with every available resource I have available to me to feel better about myself :)
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
23 Dec 11
Hi Ally, and welcome to mylot. I somewhat know I'm depressed but I'm living in denial and avoiding having to go to the doc and start taking medicines. It isn't certainly working out for me so I wouldn't suggest you do that.
About your resolution, yes. It is my aim for the next, fixed phase of my life. I have been let down by dreams, and my ambitions. They were mostly academic, but meant everything for me. I somewhat know that my friends have achieved, but I'm left behind.
So, I'm not aiming for almost anything now. I just want to clear college. That shouldn't be hard to get. I am not aiming for a job, a home, nothing.
I think it will help me get out of this mold that I'm willing to give my world for it.
Hope it works out for you. All the best.
@a11ycat (35)
• Canada
24 Dec 11
I find small goals to be more attainable for me. Like I used to make a goal: I am never eating after 8 pm ever again. If I slipped up one day, the whole thing went out the window. However, if I say to myself: I am not going to eat after 8 pm tonight, I tend to be more successful, and feel better about small successes. I am actually able to give myself credit! :)
As for being scared to go to the doc, you're preaching to the choir. I avoided going through one bout... but when it hit a second time, I went to get tested for thyroid problems. Once I found out it wasn't that, and was referred to a psychologist, I avoided appointments for about three months. But I must say -- try to see a psychologist before you see a psychiatrist. My psychologist was excellent, and had actual care for my well being. It felt like talking to a very sympathetic friend who was always there for you when needed. Also, no prescriptions with psychologists, and even if you are referred to a psychiatrist and placed on prescription, it's not long term. I am expected to be on medications for approximately a year.
I have trouble with university -- I am unable to get up in the mornings, and when I am actually able to wake up, I rarely get the gumption to get out of bed. The talk therapy and medications REALLLLLLY help with motivation, so I would definitely recommend.
I hope you have the happiest of new years :)
@ChristyLee (10)
• China
23 Dec 11
Hi,Ally.that is right to find something to make you happy.i really hope you could happy everyday not only New Year.
