How do you face people who were rude to you in past?

Hi! Please do not nurse any grudge against those who were rude to you in the past. Let them be as they are. Feeling of anger or revenge against them will harm you rather than them. You can not undo the past but you could always come out positive in the future. If you happen to meet them, behave normally and nicely with them. All the best.

As diplomatically as I can. I won't forget, but you know what, there is a possibility where we are going to really catch a lot of people on a really bad day. On a day where they are not really going to do something that is going to do all that well. There are just going to be a lot of times where people tend to act rude on one day but rather nice most of the days, perhaps the most polite times in the world. I'm sure at some time in the past, I likely might have come up a bit short and rude to someone at some point. It was not my point but we are only human and people often are going to catch us at the worst time. So really, if they aren't rude again, then I just shrug and chalk it up as a one time thing but if they act mostly the same, I just wonder a bit more.

There is no need to forget your anger and I doubt they have changed. People who are rude openly do not change. You however should act as though nothing they say matters to you. The words can only hurt you if you let them. You can either choose to ignore what is said or you can say something back that puts them in their place. Personally if someone is rude to me I let them know how rude they are. For instance I might say 'I beg your pardon did you just say' and repeat what I heard. Many people get embarrassed when confronted with their rudeness, some do not and if they repeat what they say then I tell them what rude people they are. Sometimes I just ignore them, it depends how I feel but I do not like people being rude. When I was younger I would be embarrassed and slink off and not want to face them. Now I confront.

I face them with no problem. They are the ones with a problem not me. I remember what the done but there is nothing can be done on my part. I would not approach them first they could approah me. Hopefully they would have made a attitude adjustment.

Hi piya! If it were me..I would avoid them. If I was still irritated about the way they treated me..it would mean it was serious and I would not want to be around them. If I had to, I would not be great company. I am very good at being cordial and not kind. There might also be some obvious differences in the way I spoke with them and the ones that I enjoyed being around. Let's just say that they would get the picture after a few minutes.

It really depends upon the meaning of past. I mean, if the past means that it has been decades or so many years back, then I would believe that there have already changes that have happened. People do get matured, and maybe it was in their youth that some mistakes were done. If the past means it was immediate, like just a week ago, then it would be a totally different story. It is either I move away, or I stick close to him to annoy him. It all depends.

piya84, if you can you should rise above your anger because if you cling to it, those who have been rude to you win. I suggest you treat them as you wish to be treated and do not avail yourself as a doormat to their pettiness ever again. call them on any of their behavior you deem unappropriate as soon as it is displayed. You do not have to smile in their faces but you definitely should look them squarely in the eyes with your head up high and self-confidence displayed.

Bury the past my friend and forgive them. Be kind to them when you meet them again. They will surely be so ashamed of themselves, when they meet you again. It's them who should be worrying how to react when they meet you again.

Dude, let it go. If the person who were rude to you in the past, but are cool in present then forgive them. Jesus has also spread the message of forgiveness. So stay calm like nothing happened and move on. Make your enemy your friends your friends. Its the ideal advice I can give but it does not mean that I follow it strictly. I generally try to ignore such people. Maybe this could help. Merry Christmas.

hello, Yeah, I understand you because I can relate myself to your situation. There are lot of people that is connected to me that is rude and I cant stand there attitude because they are just pretending that nothing really happens between both of you. I also hate them because when I still remember how they treat me rudely.

I don't really know what to do. But that would depend on what that person did to me in the past. If that is just a usual thing kids do, like teasing me or something and there is nothing major fight that had happened between us. Then I will just laugh about it and forget it.

depend on the level of rudeness. I am one of those who can not forget things, so sometimes situation comes when i really need to control myself hard for the past rudeness of other person.

For me it depends on how long ago the things in the past has happened and what exactly the person has done to me. .. If the person had done something a long time back and the offence was commiiteted just once and was quite trivial I think I could behave as if nothing has happend and give that person another chance. But if the perosn has repeatedly hurt me over a period of time in the near past and had behaved very rudely to me I am sure the wound will be still fresh. I am sure in that case I wont be able to act as if things are normal. Even in this case I wont be rude to them , but try to be formal and ignore that person as much as possible and not give that person another chance.

If they were rude to you in the past, they will be rude again to you in the future. Wait till they make the first move to say sorry for the rudeness they showed you. As for my experience I didn't talk to those people who were rude to me. I make sure I would be successful in the future.

Well, it really depends on how long ago they were rude, and just exactly what transpired that made you consider them rude. Was it a misunderstanding of some sort, or they just always treat you like something different and never want to talk nice to you, and always talking about you behind your back? Personally for me, it has always been an interesting thing. I have faced many RUDE people in my lifetime. Many times it is from someone who seems to think they are better than me for some reason, and always very judgemental and misunderstanding. Many times at first I just seem to ignore them and hope they will change their ways, but often times I just will at least try to say HI!! and hope somehow in time they will soften up and quit acting like that for sure.

Just get over it and move on. If they mean something to you like if they are a friend, tell them you don't appreciate their disrespect but if you don't know them or don't really have anything to do with them, just ignore them. Life's short. If I'm ever rude or outspoken to someone it's because I've been provoked, so maybe it's your own behaviour that needs checking. Someone being rude to you though is really no big deal.

First off, I want to apologize for the late response on this discussion but between health issues and school I am 8 months behind on mylot discussions. I ran into this a few times. There were a couple of nurses (one at the cancer center and one at the hospital) that I had problems with on prior visits and I swore that if they were assigned to me again that I would ask for someone else to take their place. When I showed up and they were assigned to me it turned out that things were going better for them than on my previous visit so I softened up on them as well. Sometimes you just have to realize that we all have our bad days and try to not let it affect you forever. Have a great weekend!!!

Well this is an interesting question , so my personal suggestion is you can offer them smile with polite attitude !! Then you can leave them and speak to the person which you like. Fortunately , you no need to stay with them for long term. just only short mintues is ok :) have fun !!

It depends on what the person did to me. If it was really rude, rude, I'm not that easy to forgive the person. When I would meet the person, I would simply ignore him/her. What I want to say is, that it depends on how much I felt hurt. If after some time it doesn't bother me that much anymore, I'm willing to forgive. Although I still expect an apology.

I would be civil to them. Act like it never happened.