break up, Together, break up, Together, break up, Don't you ever get tired?
By davaome
@davaome (1826)
Philippines
December 23, 2011 11:05am CST
well, I have
I am getting tired of my girlfriend doing this to me, no question about it that I love her and all, but she has always been very suspicious of me and get's jealous easily, possessive in a way. I remember our first break up was first caused by a rumor that people started to spread and she believed her. I know that "boys will be boys" sometimes, and in all honesty I have a few escapades evil deeds in the past, but those were times that I was single. but when I am in a relationship, I am a very loyal boyfriend, but my girlfriend doesn't trust me that much. Maybe because she knows what I have been through and she doesn't want something like that to happen. I always do encourage her and give her my word that i will not do anything that will hurt her. but i guess it was not enough.
Had a few fights, break up, then after a while apart, we separately just went from a break up, and decided to hang out, and got the relationship status back, then i had to go abroad to work, broke up because she said she found someone else and the long distance relationship was not working for her, then when I came back home from working overseas, I met her in a bar and found out that the guy he replaced me dumped her (serves her right
) then I courted her again, and we got back together, then just recently I caught her flirting with some guy on a disco bar, obviously I didn't like it, break up... then now she said sorry and if we could work things out....
My answer was...
go find another toy to play with
hahaha not really the exact words but i know you get the picture.
atleast now I can actually laugh about it :)
) then I courted her again, and we got back together, then just recently I caught her flirting with some guy on a disco bar, obviously I didn't like it, break up... then now she said sorry and if we could work things out....
My answer was...
go find another toy to play with hahaha not really the exact words but i know you get the picture.
atleast now I can actually laugh about it :)4 people like this
21 responses
@fsuma86 (364)
• Philippines
27 Dec 11
Hi!
I am not on the side of your girlfriend but maybe sometimes you allow suspicious things to ruin her mind. Sometimes you have to make a good effort to make the relationship alive.
Thanks!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
24 Dec 11
I'm glad you left this b!tch. She didn't trust you because she was the one being deceitful. I'm glad you know you can and you will be loyal to a girlfriend. And a woman who is worthy Will trust you. And you will be able to trust her! I hope you find her someday. Take Care.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
24 Dec 11
Keep your heart open and you will find her. Happy Holidays.
@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
24 Dec 11
lol.....one of the definitions for insanity, is "doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result." It sounds like from the beginning she didn't trust you and nothing could change it. I spent 34 years married to a man who spent a large majority of his time out of town and contact for weeks at a time. For 32 years he was loyal until I had brain surgery. When I couldn't do what he wanted me to do for a year of recovery, he decided to start having affairs. Needless to say, it lead to the end of the marriage. There were other problems but none as glaring as distrust and lack of loyalty. Trust and loyalty issues were the result when I started a new relationship. Today I am in a good relationship and we have no trust or loyalty issues. Both of us, have had disloyal intimate relationship partners in the past, and that is the primary consideration in our relationship. Trust and loyalty are primary ingredients to a successful intimate relationship and without them, I doubt any relationship will last. It may hurt to break up, but it does sound like it is for the best.
@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
24 Dec 11
Merry Christmas to you. I know for me, I put my relationships in God's hands and asked that if the person was the right one, to bless it or block it. It seemed to work for me with my current mate. I love watching people find happy relationships. Hope I can watch you find one with your posts on here.
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
It seems that you have found your perfect match, and I am happy for you
Both of you having partners of the same issues made your relationship much stronger so to speak. Hopefully in the near future, I will find "miss right". I still have alot of time in my hands and hopefully in by the time I will face another girl who has the same traits as this one, I will immediately avoid her.
happy myLotting
and Merry Christmas
Both of you having partners of the same issues made your relationship much stronger so to speak. Hopefully in the near future, I will find "miss right". I still have alot of time in my hands and hopefully in by the time I will face another girl who has the same traits as this one, I will immediately avoid her.
happy myLotting
and Merry Christmas
@spazz435 (322)
• United States
26 Dec 11
Out of the three million people there are in a country, there will be more women out there. She may treat you well most of the time. But in a relationship, if there isn't trust there isn't a relationship. There are several things that a relationship needs to survive and trust is one of them. There are more women out there that desire your love and would like to give it a chance with you. You just have to give it a chance yourself.
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
25 Dec 11
I know of such cases where couples find it so easy to break up and to make up. The thing here is, it might be too easy for them to break up once they have disagreements. Finding solutions might just not be the first priority as they have learned to escape problems. Somewhere along the line, they have to try to teach themselves that breaking up and coming back together is not the solution to any problems.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
That might hurt her really bad. But I am sure you have told it to her in a nice way. There are only few loyal boyfriends out there and she missed it. Indeed an on and off relationship is soooo tiring... but don't you think she deserves to be given a chance? Maybe she'd changed? But okay I remember the past discussion you made, so I won't question why you have decided to really move one and forget her.
I just hope she'd change for the better so she'll be able to find a good man. Honestly I am disturbed by how she has broke up with you before when you went on board, and said long distance relationship isn;t gonna work. If that's her reason she wouldn't take you back again when you courted her, coz she knows it's gonna be like that again after your vacation.
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
Yes enelym, I have said it in a very nice way, and not those words that I typed on the discussion. How did you know?
That was why I had my doubts specially the time that i was almost going to work again because maybe it wouldn't work out again. But now I don't really think that I will be seeing her, or being back into a relationship with her anytime soon.
Merry Christmas@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
26 Dec 11
Coz you said it's not the exact rude words, so I assume you've said in a really nice way Yup better to just forget her, there might be someone better you'll meet one day. Good luck to you and Merry Christmas, greeting you a day late
Yup better to just forget her, there might be someone better you'll meet one day. Good luck to you and Merry Christmas, greeting you a day late @sender621 (14893)
• United States
24 Dec 11
Thewre certainly can be a lot of work involved in keeping a relationship going strong. If it seems like it is just breaking up to get back together to breaking up again, the cycle can get tedious. i believe that if you care enough about a person to go to all that trouble than the relationship with them is worth it in the long run.@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
I wish I could say that if it were really worth it, but what she did at the latter parts, made me realize that we were only fooling ourselves, or maybe just fooling myself.
If only things went out differently then I guess it would have been worth it. but no need to cry over spilled milk right?
Just need to move on, and hope that she will realize her mistakes.
Merry Christmas
Just need to move on, and hope that she will realize her mistakes.
Merry Christmas
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
Some relationships have that kind of scenario. I love your love story. It has ups and down. I'm sure you can't forgive your girlfriend when you caught him flirting to other guys. You are supposed to be with each other and not he would flirt with other man. That is kind of insult to your part as a boyfriend. You also find another girl that deserves your love. You must consider other girls.
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
It was hard at first, because I didn't know what to do about it but now, I was sure that it was the right decision to leave her :) I don't really need to think about her that much because I know she really has been not a good girlfriend for me. and I guess it's time for me to find someone better
Merry Christmas
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
24 Dec 11
Wow! You're relationship was ugly, not like those happily ever after disney movies that's for sure I can see that you're very casual about it and not too worked up about it, it's better just to over on from the disaster and find love somewhere else which could be much better. It's funny how your ex girlfriend became very possessive of you and just assumed that you were a bad boy who was prepared to cheat on her but you ended up not doing any of that and she ends up playing with other guys. That's so ironic! 
But really relationship like that isn't worth it, it gets pretty tiring if you keep getting together again and then breaking up again. That's not a very stabled relationship and in order to a functional relationship, there has to be a sense of trust. That girl was very clingy. I don't like how girls are so clingy to their boyfriends, the guys need some space too I have a friend who is like in love with this guy but he only likes her as a friend but oh dear she acts very possessive even thought they're just friends.
I can see that you're very casual about it and not too worked up about it, it's better just to over on from the disaster and find love somewhere else which could be much better. It's funny how your ex girlfriend became very possessive of you and just assumed that you were a bad boy who was prepared to cheat on her but you ended up not doing any of that and she ends up playing with other guys. That's so ironic! But really relationship like that isn't worth it, it gets pretty tiring if you keep getting together again and then breaking up again. That's not a very stabled relationship and in order to a functional relationship, there has to be a sense of trust. That girl was very clingy. I don't like how girls are so clingy to their boyfriends, the guys need some space too I have a friend who is like in love with this guy but he only likes her as a friend but oh dear she acts very possessive even thought they're just friends. @davaome (1826)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
I have been in this situation with this girl a few times and this time I didn't even bother to get all mad about it that much. uhhmmm, actually I was worked up the day I saw her with the guy on the bar thing, maybe 3 or 4 days, but that event happened 2 weeks ago and I feel better.
Faith has been really twisted for me, like what you said, I was opposite of who she thought I was, and she ended up, being what she thought I would be.
Clingy women, I will make a note of that.
Merry Christmas
Faith has been really twisted for me, like what you said, I was opposite of who she thought I was, and she ended up, being what she thought I would be.
Clingy women, I will make a note of that.
Merry Christmas
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
24 Dec 11
Hahah...what a magic together then break up, break up then together. But if this is happening frequently means danger for relationship and may be break.
I grow tired of her doing it repeatedly and this time she really made it clear for me, that she was and never was good for me.
Merry Christmas @russell_21 (210)
• India
24 Dec 11
davaome,...
I can picture what you have gone through. It must have really been a tough time with your girlfriend. I know that you loved her a lot and that you would never cheat her but what she did to you was wrong. She was possessive about you and didn't want you to be with anyone else that is she doubted you... and on the other hand she dumped you for another boy. Is that justified? And moreover she flirted with another boy when u were carrying on with her... that's ridiculous...
I feel you have done the right thing in the end by asking her to find a new toy to play with...
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
Yes on previous years, it has been very difficult. I have put up with her and her issues for me hoping that she would change and see that I am not who I was before we were together, but it seems she never did change and I found out about that the hard way.
but I have come to face reality that, she was never good for me after all.
Merry Christmas
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
Oh no.. ha ha ha,really you said get another toy...?..Well, a girl working in bar...?
Oh noh..if i am a boy, i should find other girl that is not working like that or etc..
I will find a girl that is pure,and honest,never yet experience something...but as you are boy, i know you also experience something before,but i do not know.
for me,as girl, i pray the right person for me,honest,lovely,and only me!! i hate boy have many hide something........wuahhhhhhhhhhhh.
..Well, a girl working in bar...?
Oh noh..if i am a boy, i should find other girl that is not working like that or etc..
I will find a girl that is pure,and honest,never yet experience something...but as you are boy, i know you also experience something before,but i do not know.
for me,as girl, i pray the right person for me,honest,lovely,and only me!! i hate boy have many hide something........wuahhhhhhhhhhhh.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
well, she is not a good girlfriend too with what she is doing..when she wants to get back with you she will be doing those things again..and if there is no trust already..it's hard to get back and be in a relationship...trust is very important..
@bb_gabs (205)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
Trust is a very important thing to have in a relationship, you cannot make your relationship last if you don't trust each partner. Constant communication stand besides trust, for you should always talk and communicate with your partner for you to understand him/her better. Open and constant relationship helps you understand your partner more, what she wants, what she don't. I hope you can see a perfect partner for you. =)
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
29 Dec 11
I think you hurt yourself quite a bit there. Um... if your girlfriend can dump you that quick, she's not interested. If she's not interested.... why are you going back to her so often? Not hurt enough the first time to learn?
You need to be more wise in your choice of friends I think. And if you hit your hand with a hammer, it hurts. Don't do it again. You'll get hurt again. Insanity is trying the exact same thing again, and expecting a different result. Stay away from bad girls.
@faceless_girl (366)
•
23 Dec 11
It is a part of relationship and normally girls are confuse many times what they want . I am sure your gf love u alot nor she might never come back . You have to gain her trust that no one else can make her love more than you . hope you make her understand . best of luck
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
I have given up on her already and I think it is the best choice. I don't really think it would work out between us because she has trust issues with me and now, I definitely know that I can't really trust her, or even think that she would change.
I just need to move on, and I am actually not really bothered about it now
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
Break ups is also helpful, it serves as a lesson how we handle our relationship. I find your relationship with your girlfriend to be funny at first, but then you said that the last time you broke up, it's because he was flirting with another guy then that's not good. Just think of this davaome, the status where you at right now will help you in the near future.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Dec 11
It definitely does sound like a lack of trust. Relationships are hard to keep without trust to go with it. It sounds like she didnt trust you which is weird since she was the one who did wrong...
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
at first, I felt weird about it as well, but I talked to some friends and they say that people who do the dirty deeds themselves are the very strict ones and have issues. They do it because they themselves do it, and they don't want they're partners to do the deeds to them.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
4 Mar 12
I think he don't trust you so she think that you are having another girl when you are far away from her. There is also possibility that she is just telling you that you are cheating to her just to cover up the sin that she is doing. But in my experience i just get easily jealous when i really love the guy and i think being jealous is just a part of a relationship. Trust is very important in every relationship.
