Anybody got the Christmas blues? I sure do
By thedataminer
@thedataminer (515)
United States
December 25, 2011 1:10am CST
Hi, Anybody got something you are sad about this holiday season? I feel very sad. A few short months ago my sister suggested I should come and live back closer to home. I thought it meant she really loved and cared about me. She had not invited me to come to Christmas in 6 years. Actually I can't remember when she invited me last; it's been so long or perhaps she never invited me. So my son and I were going to move from the border of VA where we lived for close to 1 year to NC. But I knew if I went over to NC (where I really wanted to move to) that I'd probably never get back to see my family in IL for who knows how long. So my son and I moved back to IL. We've been very disappointed and realized our big mistake these past 2 months. We went to my sister's place (1 hour away from here) on Thanksgiving. But I called her earlier this week to see about us coming for Christmas. She mentioned nothing about them coming to pick us up like they did for Thanksgiving; she mentioned nothing about us coming at all. Instead she griped at me about my son getting burnt on her hot water while we were there. Actually I burnt my fingers to because as soon as you turn her bathroom water on it's instantly scalding. She goes "you guys were's that happy when you were here, bla, bla, blaaa". So she didn't care that we came to her place for Christmas to get to see my little great nieces open up their presents and to have Christmas dinner. And we are poor with close to no money and little food here to eat. It hurts me that she doesn't care. To top that off I tried to talk to my brother on Facebook about it and it ended up in a big argument. It ended up with him saying all manner of vile things to me. I'm quite hurt over everything. I just want me and my son to move away again and forget about all of them. What do you think?
2 responses
@tech2d (338)
• United States
26 Dec 11
Well....based on what you said...I would leave. What is keeping you there? I just left the IL area, Addison actually because of a situation similar to yours. A friend there told me to come there and they would help me get my disability. So I left TN and moved there. It was 2 years of hell!! They stole my belongings, tried to kick me into the street and all other manner of vile things. I finally got my disability and LEFT! I returned to TN where I am happy being surrounded by the people who care for me. That is what you should do in my opinion. Go where you are happy. It is expensive to live in IL.
@tech2d (338)
• United States
26 Dec 11
Oh by the way....I didn't have money for Christmas presents or the like this year either. Disability does not pay much. But I just spent a week in the hospital and came home on Christmas Eve. So my present is my health, my ladyfriend who spent the whole week with me at the hospital and a decent homecooked meal and peace and quiet at my home. That is present enough for me.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
26 Dec 11
Hi, Your friend had you come there and then treats you horrible and steals from you; that's just terrible. I'm so very sorry. And when a friend stabs you in the back it really hurts. I had friends do me wrong before. What part of TN do you live (if I may ask)? I lived in Bristol on the VA side for close to 1 year. My son and I wish we would have just stayed there a couple more months instead of moving here. Then we could have went on to NC. It would cost me more then I could afford to go to NC now. My sister tricked me into thinking she really cared. Well for 6 years straight (even some years before) she never mentioned she wanted me to come there for Christmas and I actually thought things might be different. At least I know I came here to try to fix things with family; it just didn't work out. And now I'm probably stuck here for awhile since I'm very low income. I'm sorry you didn't have Christmas presents either. I'm sorry you were in the hospital; I'm so glad you are better now. You're right, there's nothing like a good home cooked meal. Today my son and I walked along ways to this free church dinner but it wasn't very good; it was something to eat. Now if we'd stayed in Bristol we'd had a really good church dinner. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
@blk_woman4u (6)
• Jamaica
26 Dec 11
I'm really sorry to hear that. Your not the only one, i'm having a bad christmas too. I am completely broke. I'm not able to give my daughter (2 years old) a gift for christmas, and it kills me! I cudn't even get her something as cheap as an ice-cream. So yeah, i'm having a bad christmas too. As it relates to ur situation though, i think u should move back to VA and forget about them. to avoid being hurt by them anymore. it might sound harsh, and i know they're your family, but i've learned that sometimes it is better to deal with a stranger than with family.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
26 Dec 11
Thanks for your words; I liked what you said. I'm sorry you are having a bad Christmas to. I'm so sorry you couldn't get your little girl anything. It's wonderful she has a mother who loves her so much. I bet you are a very good mother so that's the most important thing to a child. I hope things will get better for you financially. My 2 older brothers I don't mind being around; they've both changed for the better whereas my older sister has changed for the worse (so it seems). Actually through out the years there's been to many times it seems she talks down to me. I don't like the way her voice sounds when she talks to me allot of times; I can't stand the way she says my name. Yeah I think I'm better off to forget them also and that's exactly what I'm going to do. And by now I'm sure my dear (not) brother on Facebook has called them up poisoning their minds against me. I'm actually kind of scared not because he could make the situation really volatile. I want to go to NC but the Greyhound ticket there is $250 because I can find a cheap weekly rental there.
