What is your criteria for the girl you are looking for?
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
December 25, 2011 8:10pm CST
Am I a shallow guy? The first impression appealing to me will be a girls appearance. If she is a model type, super beauty always caught my attention, and I will take more than 2 minutes to concoct a way to attract her attention, or even daydreaming to be with her. But I knew, from my past experience speaking, their personality is totally different from their looks. They might be mean, selfish, and edgy type of person, and they are totally incompatible with me. Should I look deeper, look beyond the superficial appearance, and look inside their personality? Would it be the same for the girl's experience too when they pick their guys?
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6 responses
@Robswife2006 (1208)
• United States
26 Dec 11
Take my word for it don't get together w/ any girl based on mere attraction alone. My BIL met a girl that he was very attracted too, before long they were seriously dating & thinking of marriage. He unfortunately was blind to all her faults, his family was not. We all tried to warn him to take a closer look but he was blind to her personality. Well he found out soon enough.... On the very night of their wedding, at the reception she got into a fight with her new MIL, they fought the whole time they were on their honeymoon & by the time they got back home my BIL was utterly miserable. He is still married to her today, a little over a year later, but he tells us every day just how miserable he is. So take my advice, do not date someone based on looks alone. If they do not have the personality to match then it doesn't matter how beautiful they are on the outside because on the inside they are very ugly.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
26 Dec 11
Tell your brother - in - law, he just made a bad choice, and she is not worth the marriage at all. For me, I learn that lesson well enough, and I know what I am looking into right now.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
bautiful but simple, understanding, respectful, thoughtful and accommodating. Try to find the girl with the foregoing traits and court her in a formal manner. If the proposal is accepted, try to evaluate if the traits are answered. Then waste no time if she qualifies. Marry her. This is to give full release to both of your pent-up emotions regarding your biological needs.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
27 Dec 11
Well, I think most people, men and women think the same. Obviously the first thing that people see are the looks of the person. Who doesn't want to look at a beautiful girl? It is human nature. Now, not all good looking women are selfish and mean. I know that lots of them are, I have lived long enough to see this. But there are those that have a heart of gold. An example is the girlI am with. She was a model and she is extremely beautiful. She always thought she was ugly. Can you imagine that? Now I know she has a heart of gold and I am no looker, believe me. But she like my type of person. Personality is very important when it comes to meeting someone. Don't be shy, but don't be stupid either. Just be yourself. If the girl is going to like you for you, you will know.
@hnaboro (113)
• Uganda
26 Dec 11
There is no formula. It is just Love. All the rest are just additional recipes but love is the first.
@luckygrey67 (765)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 11
Of course, appearance is the first thing we were looking at. Every man want a pretty girls.
For me, to be girlfriend. There are no specific criteria, the important thing is enjoy to share and convenient.
Sometimes, their appearance totally incompatible different with their personality. Selfish, spoiled, and irritability.
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
26 Dec 11
In times like this. I believe both women and men are looking at the appearance first. However, I don't really care about someone's appearance that much. Normally what attracts me in a girl is her personality. How kind she is, how loyal she is to her man etc. From my view, people with very wonderful appearance normally has some bad qualities such as having high requirement, selfish, disrespectful etc. So why bother looking at appearance?