Misery loves company!

That's so so true. Just as a smile and a cheerful mood is contagious so is a miserable one. When someone acts miserable all the time and tries to drag others down then I just avoid them as much as possible. I know it is hard if you are working with the person. I would tell them that I don't want to hear their gossip and if they are deliberatly trying to embarass someone by putting them down in front of others then someone should speak up and put them in their place.

I notice that miserable people want others to be miserable like them. They are selfish. What they are doing is not helping them improve their lives any better. Instead of dragging other people down, they should think more about improving themselves.

Actually, when you walk in my miserable shoes, you would rather be alone than with other people. That's different, isn't it.

So very true. But, sometimes these people can surprise you by acting completely normal and pleasant. It must be a day when all there hormones are aligned just right, LOL. Who knows why these people love to be miserable.

There are just a lot of people out there who offer an aura of absolute misery to say the very least. For whatever reason, they have really lead quite a harsh life. Therefore, if they are going to have a harsh life, then pretty much everyone else deserves to be dragged down with them. Not saying that it is right, but that is just the way things are going to happen. Still there are people who just tend to thrive on absolute misery when one really thinks about it. There are just going to really be many people who are going to just bring misery along with the ride, to really cause agony for everything. There are just people who try to make things better, but there are others who just try to make the life of others miserable to make themselves feel better.

So true, there are people who chose to live in misery even though there are a lot of opportunities for them to be happy. I've met someone who loves to just sulk, cry and think all her problems.. about love, family, career. I think that people should not think seriously about every problems they have. Instead stand up, do something and be optimistic.

this was pointed out to me just a few days ago, how I get so involved in other peoples problems and how I get so upset over other peoples woes, I was told that I should walk away from what she called toxic friends but it is not as easy for me as maybe it is for this person, life is not that easy I don't think...yes you are right misery does like company.

It is extremely difficult to keep yourself inspired when misery is stalking your for years. As you so correctly say, misery looks for company and for some people, the bad spell just seems to go on and on. And when they see people happier than themselves all around, it is but natural for the miserable people to feel angry, frustrated and jealous. No wonder, they bad mouth others in trying to feel a little better themselves. In humiliating and hurting others, they enjoy a kind of pervert pleasure as normal pleasure eludes them all the time. I don’t know if you believe in destiny or not but I believe sincerely and it has now become a strong belief that I am destined to be humiliated by people and situations beyond my control. I am not at all a tactful person and I don’t know how it happens but out of the blue, situations develop wherein I always end up on the losing side. Sometimes it becomes an uncontrollable itch just to give back…even to an innocent person, just be rude, just humiliate somebody for no apparent reason but just to have a feeling of evil pleasure! When I sit back and contemplate, it’s a pathetic situation so I think I understand why miserable people bad mouth others. Most of us don’t have the strength to come out of this vicious cycle…failure, misery, humiliation…these aren’t very motivating emotions

Amen to that. That gets on my last nerve and I try my very best to stay away from these people. You are right. People could make their lives better but they choose to wallow in their own misery and try to drag others down with them.

Dear blue, I know exactly what you mean. One of my friends LOVES to complain. I tell him that as long as he chooses to complain, life will continue to be difficult and unpleasant for him. I think my friend enjoys the attention that he gets by complaining and being miserable.

Yes, that's right. Usually the people who likes to make others' lives miserable too, are the ones that are really in misery too. They do that so they will feel good that there is someone who is miserable too like themselves.

I have noticed that too. And I agree that you can change your life if you want to. I was a pretty negative person so now I have been trying to become a more positive person for myself and everyone around me. I was never a big gossip person though, I hate that! And I dont like making other people feel bad either. I am hoping to make my life better by thinking more positive.

I've definitely found that to be true. That's why I try to surround myself with happy, upbeat people. :)