when your opinions don't matter... do you still give them when sought?

haha, i won't bother to give my opinion at all That was what happened to my gf, she would simply decide things without asking me. IF she were to ask for my opinion, she would never listen since she's just letting me do what i want, purely superficial.. lol I'm used to it and though there are times i'm furious about it, but she refuses to learn and what can i do? Just go along till i can't stand it any longer. haha

Yes I have had such an experience .Trust being the kind of person I am ,it would have been difficult not to encounter instances where my experience was sought and then not considered when time of decision came because I am like a counsellor for my friends .They seek my counsel so frequently sometimes I wonder if I have the answer in me or if my advice was not over rated .The fact of the matter though is that I am always there for my friends even when they dont use my advice .

Yes I have been in that situation several times with my cousin which also happens to be my close friend. She used to ask for my opinion but really doesn't follow or really listen to what I have said. It is like she wants me to say what she wanted to hear. I felt bad to be honest because I really thought hard and think for her best but the truth is she is not after my advise. After several times that she did that I didn't gave my opinion when she seek for my advise again. I just listened to her.

There is nothing wrong in sharing our views. Since every individuals have their own unique opinions, it doesn't mean our opinion is inferior to others. It doesn't matter about being right or wrong or having ideas unaccepted. What matters most is the pleasure in sharing my inner landscape which is full of beautiful thoughts.

If someone asks me my opinion, I'll give it to them. I think that there are times where people just seem to ask my opinion in a way to make conversation but if they are going to ask for it, who am I to deny what they are going to ask for? Granted there are going to be times where we are going to be careful what they ask for, because I'm going to give it. I think that there are going to be times where people just ask for my opinion and don't like what they hear. That is rather their problem and not mine. If they are going to ask something, then they are going to get an opinion of some sort. That is rather what they are going to get, one hundred and ten percent. Only if they ask. Perhaps they'll learn their lesson and not ask again. Perhaps not.

I had lots of experience like this,and at end I would be very disappointed and even i would consider myself as a alltime loser.But,on the other hand it would give you lots and lots lessons on how to handle this kind of matters the next time. According to me EXPERIENCE MAKES A MAN PERFECT,i had lots of experience like this,but I take all this very sportive and I consider this as my last Warning. My kind request to ahgong(who started this discussion).... DO WHAT YOUR HEART TELLS and when something happens like this to you,dont leave yourself behind just takeit sportive and give them a **** OFF and smile when they come the next time.

well, yes i think its quite alright to be doing so... especially if my opinion was asked, i would give out a slight hint of what my opinion is and won't be spending time telling all of it. hehe just a hint and if not asked to expound, i won't :D

My boy friend is a man of good judgment. He is always right and he knows it. He knows what will happen next based on the information his friends gave him. He is quite proud of it. Most of the time, his friends doesn't follow his advice and they end up regretful. He always retorts "I told you so." However, he pokes his nose on things that were not his business. He always gives unsolicited advise. Unlike my boy friend, I only give my advice when it is sought. Regardless of the history of following or ignoring what I say, I give my two cents. I believe that it is the person's prerogative whether to follow my advice or not. I am not bitter because each one of us is entitled to making our own decisions. After all, we each live different lives.

Oh yes...I would still give my opinion if I were asked. At least that way I would know it had been considered. The funny thing about that is often times when we give our opinions, they might not work right then, but later, they are valuable. There have been many times I have listened to the opinions of others and although they weren't for the moment, they could be used later.

Hi ahgong, I guess for the first time I would respond with my suggestion or comments and if he/she takes no heed at all then I would assume that he/she is not interested and/or has already made up his/her mind I would not respond the next time. I would just say: "Sorry, I've no comments or opinion on the matter". Hopefully he or she will get the hint and change his/her behavior. Fortunately such incidents are rare. Have a good day.

Well, it doesn't mean that when someone asks for your opinion, it will be followed. Of course the person have to weigh all decisions that were given and carefully choose the one that fits the situation best.

I would still give my opinion on the second time around even if my opinion when asked at first wasn't credited. Maybe this time my opinion would be of big help already. But before that, I will check first what will be my opinion concern to. I just don't want to waste my opinion for nothing.

thats the general nature of the mankind they give it to other if one is not listening to them,we are not going to change in any way.