How can she call herself Grandma?

I understand what you are saying & in some cases I agree with you. They always had the money to come see us until we separated then all of a sudden they claim they can't afford it. No they don't want to be bothered with the confrontation of seeing me. That's not loving your grand kids. If you want to see them make it happen. I have never stopped her from calling or coming to see them. I don't think calling on holidays makes you a grandma & I never will. regardless of how I feel about her. My man's dad is the same way calls on holidays & that's not a dad! You can not convince me that it is! If money is an issue & they make an effort all year long to be in touch then I understand. If health is an issue I also understand but that's not what this is.

A lot of people are on tight buffets these days money can change with in months to a year. I know my family can't afford a lot of visits through out the year. A 9 hour drive does get expensive. My nephew lives with my parents and he is a handful since hens autistic. So most of my parets time is spend on his since his parents don't know what they are doing as patents and don't even try. Sonc emu daugter was born almost a year ago they have seen her my little one the most. 4 times once we saw then for thanksgiving and they took my daughter with them to see my grandparents with my nephew. My husbands mom has 4 kids at home another grand baby on the way that she needs to help my husband sister raise since she is on her own. One of my husband grandparents house a house here and other grand kids in town so they come back ever few months and helps out. My husband other grandparents live in the same state as our parents. My husbands dad and step mo Hate kids and they both have there own. I dont think he is dad or grandpa because well he doesnt try like the others do he doesn't think my daughter is family when they ask us to try to come out for family things. That is his lose on knowing a very wonderful little kid.

That's what I'm saying there are some reasons I can except & be okay with. All of those but the husbands dad & step mom hating kids & the grandpa that doesn't try are all understandable. But she is just like the one that doesn't try. She only thinks it's good to try on the holidays & to me that is not enough to call you grandma! She can call, e-mail & send stuff on other days then the holidays & she doesn't do that either. I wasn't saying that your family wasn't a grandma just that this woman isn't!

They honestly don't even know her or who she is. The last time they saw her they were 18 months old & six months old. They have no clue. They have not seen their biological father since they were 19 months & 7 months old, by their choice. It sucks, but they have two sets of grandparents & a daddy that loves them more then anything in the world! They also have tow great grandmothers still alive so they don't even realize she's not there. That's why I wish she'd either be there 100% or not at all because when I say gifts from gma Fran they are like who's that? and it starts a round of questions & just more confusion! They had enough tramua when he threw us out I don't want them to have to relive it when they decide to walk in & out. you know?