Is the possibility of getting hurt more when you get too close to someone?

My experience has been maybe there is lack of communication. On the other hand maybe it's time to call it quits. If two people can't agree maybe you should split. Before the differences get blown out of proportion. Could it be that one person has habits you don't agree with and are not willing to put up with. You have to do whats right for you because you have to live with the decisions you make.

What I am seeing on your story is because you never let them see who you really is on the first day of your meeting. They only see the ideal you,but eventually, when they discover the real you, they got disappointed. Try to be yourself. Show them that you are a "what you see, is what you get". Don't be afraid to show the real you, true friends will love and accept for really who you are.

my heart feels all the hurt you're feeling now my buddha3:( i had been in a situation before wherein my closeness had been rejected by a couple of my friends here in our community. what they did bothered me for a while and my mind keeps analyzing what i could have done wrong. i sought the help of our teacher/formator and we all had a heart to heart talk and it turned out that they were intimated with me and their was also some feelings of discrimination against me too. after our talk we became just friends but we did not get to be the closest friends because i did not want to get hurt again.

Yessss, I really think it is very dangerous to get too close to our children!!! When my doughter was 8 years old she always moved jerkily and jumping. So when I moved close to her, just to kiss her, I often was hardly beaten and sometimes she hurts me... I mean: one incisive tooth broken with a head, her finger in my eye (was very painful), and what about the nudge between the legs? Now, I know this is not what you mean, but it was the first thing I thought of when I read your post, and perhaps, in a figurative way, it describes what happens when we are too "close" with our love to our children, and they often despitefully use this

One of the reasons for this is that when you get close to someone you start getting possessive about that person. I'm not saying being possessive is a bad thing..but that leads to problems... Its like taking away someones freedom. Next time try not to be possessive and give you partner some air... and see if you relation works... I'm sure it will be different this time. And please don't get depressed... If someone has left you they don't know what they have lost... It just means you still didn't get the best... So be happy the best is on its way...

yes, their is 200% possibility for getting hurt when you are close to someone, when you are in love. and that to happens with me i too fall severals times in love and each and everytimes i learned from my and others mistakes. readily i becomefond of being betrayed and now i cant afford to fall in love again, that means when i understands love then their is no one seenms perfect.

I would think that this is so because you have grown accustomed being with the person, hence whatever misunderstanding, or things you both disagree on... there would be more feelings involved. You do not get close to someone overnight so you would have already invested emotions, time, and effort for that someone and when you would be disappointed, it would hurt more because you would feel all of what you gave was not returned, or that you would have already expected much more.

Very true. Detachment in attachment is the formula for emotional success in relationships. EVen in the case of one's own parents , some people are very objective in their outlook. However, being objective des not diminish our love for our closed ones but it only saves us from hurt and makes us define clear limits in any relationship.

hi buddha3 while its painful to get hurt if one shutws oneself off from others so as to not get hurt thats even a bigger hurt as you get all sour and shriveled up inside your soul. so I wou ld rather get close and feel love even if it turns out not so good. You know I am wondering if you get too close to someone, you can literally absorb them and nobody is comfortable when someone spends 24 7 with them with out a break. it is like eating chocolate ice cream a serving is delicious but if you had to eat it three times a day every day of the week you would get sick and tired of it. husbands and wives even can love one other to pieces but they need other outlets during the day with other people too. Your words getting too close should clue you in when you take up someone else time all the time every day and minute you will have problems with them. nobody wants to be with anyone every minute of every day hour after hour after hour. we all need change.try not coming on so strong, backing off and spending time with something else. You must not be like a too strong colgne that someone loves but if its poured on them they get to dislike it.Like you could be the most lovely likeable person in the world but if you took up all my time all day and all night I would also have problems with you .You need to back off and come on more gently and less often so people will like you and miss you. I am sorry you get hurt but I have an idea you do come on too close and too strong. try backing off a bit and not try to usurp all the others time.

Being close to our friends will surely hurt us once misunderstanding occurs. This is normal and we cannot avoid these things to happen. I am lucky to have friends who are understanding and never fails me. Maybe, you need to choose whom you will settle your feelings with to avoid such hurt and sadness.

Of course, the ones who can hurt you the most are your closest. That's because, since they are close to you already, you will think that they will be cautious enough to always be in conformity with what you think. So, when they think otherwise, you get hurt easily.

yes, you may be right. When we are too close to some one , we start taking that person for granted and then misunderstandings come into existence. In this way both the persons involved, get hurt.