Tribute To My Mother
By KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36448)
United States
December 27, 2011 3:18am CST
Today is going to be a rough day. I just got home from work and it is just after 1 a.m. Today if my Mom was still alive she would be 68. My mother died just over 4 yrs. ago of Heart failure, and other health issues. It got to the point since she felt like no one cared about her anymore she just gave up wanting to live. For some reason this yr. worst than others I am missing her big time. I even right now have a Severe headache and feeling down.
Even though there were many times in my life where I may not have always been good for her, and we did share a lot of differences, there are many times in my life I do Thank her for who I am. Yes, everything was not perfect, but there are many times when something happens in my life I miss being able to pick up the phone and let her know what is going on and get some advice, or positive feedback. Life has dealt me my share of ups and downs especially in 2011, so many times I miss the motherly advice and encouragement.
I personally can say my mother was very creative. She was always making stuff for other people as in Crocheting and sewing, and even did a lot of stuff for others via various programs on her Computer as well. I do really miss my Mom a lot right now and know she is probably looking down at me and the other 4 kids and hopefully Glad at what she sees. If I could ever tell her one think it would be "Thanks for being you. Love and Miss You always."
~~TINA~~
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12 responses
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
27 Dec 11
I'm sure your mother would be happy with your tribute to her. Even though you had some differences she probably still knew you loved her. I lost my father 40 years ago, and I still miss him. I was closer to him than my mother. She left when I was 8 years old, and my brother and I stayed with him. Like I said, I still miss him and sometimes I regret some of the things I did, but at least I have some good memories. It sounds like you do also.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
17 Jan 12
Yes I am sure that if my Mom was still alive and seen this tribute to her, she would be Proud, and sometimes wonder how I could say that. Since her life was always full of so much abuse she did not know how to appreciate life, and it is Sad so many people did not want to understand.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
27 Dec 11
I'm sorry you are feeling down. I know what you are saying; I have always called my mother for consolation; feedback, and so on. When she was younger she was always making things too; not least for me, shorts, jackets, trousers. Your mother sounds like a very generous spirit. That is a touching tribute to your mom.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
14 Jan 12
Thanks for the comments. I can always remember my Mom making things for me too. I think from time to time I need these days and memories to make me know how much I really did appreciate her when she was here.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
27 Dec 11
Sorry; I meant shirts; my mother never made me shorts.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
28 Dec 11
Hi Tina.... I'm sorry for the loss of your mother. I just lost my dad just a month ago so I know how you're feeling. I miss my dad so much that it hurts. I know he's in a much better place just as your mom is but it still hurts and we find ourselves wishing they could be with us forever but knowing we'll be with them when our times comes does help me a little bit. For now I just wish I could carry on just as he'd want me to but it hurts too much right now so I'm at a stand still.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
25 Jan 12
Well, I can tell you you will have days like this, even yrs. down the road, but you need to remember just because they are gone, life must move on. We need to find a way to continue to do the things we enjoy, while remembering the good times and making the Best from them. There are days where it is hard to carry on, and you miss them more than others, but thru their memories our life improves, and we become a better person from them.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
29 Dec 11
I hope you don't mind that I will use this post of yours to remind myself to call my mom later when I get home (I'm still at work). My mom and dad live half way around the world, and I don't talk to them regularly. Even when I called for Christmas, it was short as we had a bad connection. I will call again tonight.
And I do miss them.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
25 Jan 12
Yes, since you have both of them still with you even though you do not live close, it is a Good thing to call them from time to time to talk and let them know how much you Love and Miss them, and they mean to you. Because even though you are not living close at least you still have them, so take time to cherish them and make more loving memories as well.
@Robswife2006 (1208)
• United States
27 Dec 11
You are not alone. This passed Sept. it was two years since my Mom passed away. Everyone says it will get easier with time & I guess it does a little, but the pain of losing them never goes away. Like you I have many regrets when it comes to my Mom. Toward the end of her life she was very lonely & depressed, but I was so wrapped up in what was going on in my own life that I didn't call or visit her as much as I should have. Now I have nothing but regrets. Also like you there are so many times when I have the urge to reach out & call her on the phone just to hear her voice or talk to her about whats been going on in my life, but unfortunately I can't do that anymore. This coming April 2012 my Mother would have turned 63 years old. In my opinion that's still young, way too young to die. Not a day goes by where I don't miss her, but I take comfort in knowing that someday I will see her smiling face once again when God resurrects her onto a paradise earth. It's a day I both long for & look forward to.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
17 Jan 12
Well, that was even younger than my Mom, as my mom would have just turned 68. All we can do is cherish the memories we have, and move on and become better people because of them.
@coco275 (45)
• United States
27 Dec 11
This is a beautiful tribute you are sharing with everyone about your mom. I know how it can feel to lose a loved one, I lost my dad 7 years ago and I still have those moments of missing my dad voice. It will get better and what makes me feel good is thinking about the good times we had together. I hope and pray that this will help.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Jan 12
Yes, the good times are the things that I remember, along with some of the troubled times, and wish there was more I could have done to help before she passed on. I know it gets easier and most of the time it never even phases me. Just for some reason this yr. it bothered me a little more on what would have been her Birthday than others.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
27 Dec 11
Dear friend,
I could just feel the way I miss my grandmother. The more we rewind of my grandma the more more I feel myself to give respect to grandma. I do not have words how much our grandma loved us. This topic just reminded my beloved grandma. It is really unbearable if some one close to us is no more. But the memeories really lead me to another wonderful world. Miss that precious loves...
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
31 Dec 11
Yes the memories especially when good do take us back to another time in our life where things were exciting, and remembering these Fun times are something that is considered Healthy and helps us to move on. I know many times during the yr. I think about her and other family members I have lost, and all the good times we shared, and know it is because of them that helps make some of who I am today.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
27 Dec 11
This is my first Christmas without my mother so I can come close to knowing how you feel. When my mother left us I felt as if there was a part of my life missing and I still do. I wanted so badly to call her up on Christmas but all I could do it put poinsettias on her grave.
They're waiting for us, though, and it will be a happy reunion. Your mother and mine are in a wonderful place and we can take comfort in knowing we will see them again.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
7 Jan 12
Well, since my Mom is buried about 13 1/2 hrs. away from here, and I am not close to my Sister who lives in the town my Mom is buried in, I will probably never get a chance to even go visit her grave, and would not know how to get there again without the help of someone from that town. Yes, I will have the pleasure of seeing her again. Just wish she could have seen some of many Good things I have accomplished since she passed on.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
27 Dec 11
I wish I could tell you that this will get better, but after 40 years I miss my Mom
especially this time of year, many years during my childhood Christmas was tight on money, but it was My Mom's special time of year and she always made it special for us kids. As a Mom, myself what better thing could I wish for than my children missing my after I am gone. So cry a little and miss her, then treasure the memories. Blessings
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
27 Dec 11
I am sure she is very happy with what she sees looking down. I still miss my grandmother terribly and it has been around the same amount of time that you mentioned. Sometimes...because of the fact that we were separated for so many years...I appreciate the fact that I miss her so much. It means I got to know and love her again. It is so hard sometimes though...especially during the holidays. She used to send us specialized Christmas ornaments. Little snow covered birdhouses with our names on them are my favorite. She was so creative.
Thanks for being you NaNa!
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
27 Dec 11
I am sure your mother will hear this tribute you wrote for her. Actually, that is a great one, and she should know about it. That is a greatest thing a daughter wrote for her mom, and I want to write a similar piece for my parents too. Life is too short, and we should treasure every single moment with our parents, and make them happy and proud of us.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
7 Jan 12
Well I am not sure if my Mom was ever really Happy and proud of me while she was alive. She was always doubting me and not believing me when I said I was going to do something. If I would have listened to her and believed her I would not be where I am at today. But deep down inside I wish she was still here to see what I am doing with my life, and know there is nothing Stopping me from achieving all my life dreams as well.
