Expecting from others becoming a curse for me..

Lets live with an selfless heart without an expectation and we will surely live a happy individual. That's the way I live now. So I will never feel disappointment in life.

Hello Umesh, Expecting same love and affection we give to a person sometimes lead to dis satisfaction.I have observed it many times even with my kids.My son wants me to hug him and love him more than my daughter as he loves me too the moment i talk more and play with my daughter he feels sad though both my kids are of 3 years but that sort of feeling i can see in them too.

the good thing is that you know this, you know your situation. and you know that it is bad. expectation sets up the disappointment and frustration. the level you put on it will determine the level of disappointment too. i think you know what to do. do not expect much. just treat them as you know how and they would treat you back as they know how too.

I can understand where you are coming from here. I have had several times when I thought that I was so super close to someone and then one comment or conversation can turn the whole relationship on it's ear. Both of the most recent ones hurt badly and nearly ended the relationship, but I was lucky enough to have someone point out all of the reasons we had felt so close before and ask if these things had changed. Then they asked if they outweighed the negative and they did. The relationships have changed but all relationships do change and evolve as we go through life; adjusting to these changes and reconnecting with the parts of the person you loved/liked and learning to accept the other elements or choosing to ignore them can save the bond and lessen the blow you initially felt. This is difficult and in some situations the scale is tipped in the wrong direction (these are the ones you are better off making a clean break from) but the ones worth saving are also worth the work. I hope the scales lean towards happiness and reconnection in your situation; if not I hope you can walk away will a life lesson learned and a light heart.

Yeah, I really do in fact think that expecting things might be a bit more than we can hope for in this day and age. Granted, we are hoping that our expectations are really going to come true and come right up there, but we really do know deep down that our expectations might really not be up there all that much to say the very least. I think that there are going to be people who are going to seem even more distant to all of us then we would really like. It is just something that is going to bring a slight frustration. Then again, some people are really going to grow apart as time goes on. It is not something that we are going really going to enjoy all that much to admit. However, I think that our expectations might not be what they hope and thus I don't really expect things from others. If they are there, then so be it.

yes this thing happens some times in life. people are so busy in their life that relations , friendship sometimes take a second place . Do not be so dependent on others and be strong, this is what life is all about.

well , most of have to faced this in life . i know it is a very pressure but ifb you keep this out of mind , you will see you can perform to your best . i hope you can obvercome this problem soon .