Kathy"My sister came to see me me, and did not wake me up"

hi carm yes I thought I did and thats why I assumed Kathy was awake'but her sister knows Kathy stays in bed all day and just dozes so she is rarely deep asleep. they live far enough away that I would think they would have wanted to wake her to visit with her. I know she has memory problems but I think this timne she was telling it as it was. I know I have never been able to understand why they do not take her home for the holidays as they have a nice home. I and my son do not have that luxury but so many here have relatives that do take residents home for Christmas and New Years.

yes carm it is sad. I know if my son had a place he would bring me h ome but he just has to share an apt with another man. He was just here to bring back my debit card I gave to me on ?c hristmas as I was ill so he cou ld deposit my onehundred dollar bill my husbands niece sends me every Christmas. she is a seventh day adventist as was my husband and this is her way of doing good and oh aI really do appricate it and we have never met face to face. they own a large apple orchards in Washington state so are well to do.

Hi PointlessQuestions I am so sorry I did not get up when they came because if they did not wake her because of me, I would really feel bad.I seldom go back to bed but I am getting over the flu e and had had a bad night. I woke enough to hear them talking and thought Kathy was awake so went back to sleep. so I only have Kathys side of the story. I am so lucky my son does come to see me all the time and we talk and its just great, he knows I never would have come to this place if we had had any place else for me to go at that time. we were both broke and i was fortunate to have my social security and ssi checks so they took me in. I was not here because I could not exist in an apartment but was here becau se we had no other alternative. I just cannot fathom though that all the couple of years I have been her roomie her sister had never t aken Kathy home for Christmas. that does seem so odd to me.they are the only visitors she ever has and they should know she loves their visits.

hi dragon54u I will do that. she was hurt and felt like calling her sister and scolding her. but I did not want her using my phone as I do not have long distance and the call would cost me quite a bit. she used my phone when i was in the hospital but her sister paid me back as my phone bill was too big for me to handle, I can email her sister though and am tempted to ask them if they woke Kathy as I have kathys side that they did not but I am not sure now. Kathy has memory problems

hi dawnald you do bring up a good point. I a m wondering since I was myself asleep what really did happen? as they usually do spend some time with her and see that her radio is working and her clock. I really only have Kathy's word for it and she does have memory problems. Since we were both sleeping it might have made them hesitate to visit with her and wake me but I had gone back to bed as I was recuperating from the flu and had not slept well last night. I hope my sleeping did not chase them away.usually I am up and on my computer when they come to see her. I wish I had her sister's side of it.

hi jenintn I didn't understand either. I was sorry I had not woken up more as I just assumed they were visiting with each other and went back to sleep. I ordinarily do not go back to bed once up but I had not slept well so as it was very cold in here crawled back in bed and slept til ten forty five.If i had been awake I would have said oh go ahead wake her as she really wants to see you guys.

hi jaihobalodiji1 you know I was sitting here wondering if Kathy did talk to them then fell asleep and just thought she did not. I have only her side of the story as I was fast asleep myself. I feel like emailing her sister and asking for her side of it as Kathy does have memory problems.

sid yes her meemory some days is worse than other days sothere is 'a possibility if I could talk to her sister she would say why we did talk to her so she must have forgotten that. I really am not sure 'now as sometimes Kathy will say i am going down to the front office to ask about such and such then when she get down there she has forgotten what she wanted to ask. so now I just do not know. I had surgery to have a ruptured uterus removed and my husband teased me as I told my mom and sister I did not want to see them, I just did not rem=ember saying that and I think I thought they has said they wanted to wheel me out into a sitting room, and I did not want to be moved as i was in pain.I really never did remember that but my hubby said mymom was upset and I just could not believe I said something like that to my own mom. lol lol

yes hatley, that how can we dig the real answer to the exact problem, the is that why brother and sister left, and only they can give the good answer itselg so go and get some good news for kathy. she must be upset or may be its her fault.

hi gardengerty y es that is it,I only have Kathy's sayso and its really a possility she visted then feel asleep so they left and she just does not remember it. her memory] is so odd. at times she is almost normal for awhile then she'even forgets my last name, she alwqys remembers my first Patsie as it] sound a lot like Katy but other times she does remember it. so I am at a loss. I just cannot believe that they would have left without talking to her.They do try to come each week but the odd thing is they have never taken her to their home for any of the holidays. that seems sort of cold to me? unless there 's a good reason for not taking her.

hi mr pear. yes Kathy called her sister today but she was not home so Kathy left a message. now I was asleep and woke briefly,saw them by her bed and thought i heard them talking so fell back asleep.so wondering if she did visit with them and completely forgot. she does have a memory problem.if Kathy is right I am ashamed of them as usually they visit and often take Kathy for a ride.

I mentioned above a situation where I sincerely thought that a friend had not visited me when in fact he had. That was because of the morphine I was given. I don't know Kathy or how forgetful she can be but unless she is on some seriously strong meds or is suffering dementia, I tend to side with her on this one. From what you are telling us, it sounds as if they maybe put in a small effort and left. I know you say you heard them talking to her when you woke briefly. When I visited and someone was sleeping I would talk to them softly and we might softly talk amongst ourselves....I really don't know but sorry to hear that she was so upset.

thats it Sid I just do not know what to think as I have kathys side of the story but could she have forgooten she talked to them and just fell back asleep after they left. it seemed odd to me after having come all that ways that they would not stay'long enough to have a visit with her. I hope my sleeping did not cause them problems as I was feeling ill and was sound asleep so their visiting would not have bothered me at all.

hi jdrj me too so I just do not understand it. Now I was asleep and woke just enough to know her sister and brother in law ere here, I thought I heard them talkings so I just went back to sleep as I was feeling ill. then at lunch Kathy told me she felt they did not wake her and just left, now I am not sure if thats true. She does have memory problems so it could be she did talk to them then fell asleep , they left and she does not remember.I feel if they did leave without waking her that is just unforgivable.

Oh that could be true that she dont remember. That sounds more likely since you say you thought you heard them talking. Also i believe that all things should be forgivable. Well, most anyway. This would be forgivable in my book.

hi ifa you know you bring up a valid point but they never do call our room and I have my own phone so they could call me and let Kathy talk to them. they do have an email address I have had to use several time when Kathy got in trouble because she cannot remember. they think she has Alzeheimer disease but are not sure. I dont really know if they left without talking to her as only have Kathy's side of the story.she might havt talked to them then went back to sleep. I was asleep so I just dont know for su re.

hi shibham yes she was in tears but I have been thinking,since I just woke for a second saw them there and heard them talking,I assumed they were visiting and fell back asleep. so now I qm wondering since she does forget easily maybe they did visit and she for got they did,then fell asleep when they left. If they did not visit with her,I am baffled as why come then just leave..

hi chang they do at times bring a gift to her, I dont think they did this time. Now I slept while they were here, just woke once, saw them and hurt them talking so I was sure Kathy was visiting so I went back to sleep as I was feeling ill. But again Kathy does 'forget so I only have her side of the story and she was very hurt. So am hoping that she did visit withthem then totally forgot and went back to sleep.

Oh,I see.She wronged them by saying they left without visiting her .I doubt if she gets amnesia.

hi enelym001 Happy New Year yes me too unless she did talk with them then when back to sleep and forgot so she thinks they came and did not wake her. I was sound asleep so am not sure just what did'happen. as a ru le they try to come every week, You see I only have kathy's side of the story. I am tempted to ask them but do not'want to make them angry either. lol

Happy New Year too Hatley Oh okay, something might be wrong with Kathy too... Yep better to keep away with her issues with them. 'Though I find it funny how she said that... and didn't realized she might have forgotten to entertain them.

hi elicbxn I am the same way too. I was just remembering when I had hepatitis and was sick at my stomahc os much our pastor came to see me. I appreciated the thougtht but he sat down on the edge of my bed and bounced up and down as he talked to me . the upshot waqs that i got seasick and had to grab that kidny basin.of course the things are not really deep enough so when I heaved most went inb the basin and the rest splashed on the pastor's coat e ven as he jumped up and quit jiggling the bed. Why they could not just wake her up and visit with her is beyond me bvut still I only have Kathy's side as I was sound asleep. I knew they had come and i thought I heard them talking to her so I fell back asleep. You are the kindest person to care for Maggiepie like you do and I bet she does appreciate it too. give her a hug from hatley..lol

hi yspmyl I was thinking the same thing, as I was asleep myself, something i rarely do is lie down after having been up but I had had a bad night so crawled back in bed and was sound asleep. I woke a b it and saw they were by her bed and thou ght I heard them talking so I let myself go back to sleep. I am still recovering from a bout withthe flu. Kathy does have memory problems so she might have forgotten that they did talk to her. I sure hope so.

hi sjvg I felt that w ay too as they came to see her so why not wake her and have their visit. she maintains they left without waking her and as I was asleep I am not sure what happened ., I know she was in tears as she always wants to see them. my son comes every week and they should come too. why take the time to drive all that way and leave without talking to her?

hi jjzone44 when they moved us to this room we never got keys to our door so we never lock it. I do not like this arrangement but I hav e gone with it, keeping my purse on me when not here in my room. I am now wondering if Kathy did not forget they talked to her and just talked to them then when they left she fell asleep again. I wish I had got up instead of going back to sleep, I o nly have Kathy's side of the story.