what should I do if I love a man but he does not love me?

as others said ,i too have the same opinion .if he doesnot cares then why should you do.

I will tell you a story, a real story about my life. I fell in love with a man the first time I laid my eyes on him. I went all crazy about him. He kept telling me that he does not love me, yet he would spend time with me going out, movies, talking on phone for hours. I was so deeply in love I would tell him there will be a day where you will love me back and then finally we got married. Guess what the outcome is? He does not love me at all, he does not care how I feel or what I am going through. He does not give one bit of attention. He is least bothered, its like he is living his life like a bachelor but with a wife. I am in terrible condition because I thought love is so powerful enough it would win his heart over time. But he is so heartless that I have ruined my life. So please dear, there is a old saying that Marry the one who Loves you Not the one you love. Same goes for spending your valuable life and time with someone, spend it with someone who WANTS to spend it with you and who SURELY says he Loves you. Best of luck!

Well, you fall in love with a man in several days, and through chatting online? I think you must be very young, you know, falling in love with a person need time, only with enough time of contact with him, you can know what kind person he really is, at that time, you will know which parts of him you really like. Even he didn't suggest not talking anyway, you may find one day he is not the man for you. But now, he said he didn't want to waste your time, then why you waste your time? As a female, never to beg a man to let him love you, this kind love can only bring harm to you. Just remember, there will a man who loves you in your life, this one is the wrong one, just move on, never look back.

That is a good man. He didn't deceive you, or cheat you, or lead you on. He told you he wasn't interested and moved on. So many would lie to you, and lead you on thinking there was a future, when there was not. But... there are more good men. Keep looking.

Well, you just have to deal with it in a hard way. He doesn't love you, and you can't force him to love you either. The only way is to forget about him, and go on find someone else. You might eventually meet someone else far more valuable than him. So, don't give up your hope to find a Mr. Right for yourself.

Love can almost happen anywhere, anyplace, and under any circumstances. So I get that what kind of person you like. Since he mentioned that you are not the one that he is looking for, perhaps you can look for someone new. There is not just one guy out there you know. You always deserve someone better. By "better" I do not mean only financially, it's more like in many other aspects, a person as a whole. At the mean time, why not start searching for new chat mates or hang out with friends?

Hi there... Here is my advice.. If the guy has already said that he does not love you then you should not indulge in it... Moreover, I would recommend going away from him for some time.. Don't chat with him for some time.. I am sure you can live without him and you will find a much better guy than him... From what you have said about him, I don't get a good feeling about him... So, distance yourself from him.. Avoid communication as much as you can... If you still want him to marry you, then I can give you some tips. .But I think, you should better move on... Take care...

Seriously, you cannot fall in love in several days while chatting online. I think you love the IDEA of being in love. If someone else showed interest in you, you would forget the first guy in a flash. Your expectations are just not realistic. Do you have friends you meet up with and have fun? You need to spend real time with someone and get to know them before you fall in love. Best of luck.

Well move on then.. there are better ones for you out there. Life is too short to be wasted thinking of lost love.. or love that never started at all. take care

It's so pity!But I think it 's difficult to find a couple that they truly love each other.But face the reality.I think you have two ways to deal with it .First,since he don't love you ,you should search other man who love you really and deeply.Second, maybe you could ask him why do he don't you.If you know the reason ,maybe you can make him love you.

mgx,you'd better forget the man,he doesn't worth you to do sth.love is sth buiding on equality,as for me,i dont believe the love online.i had lots of friends online who often express their love to me,i think that they just like to chat with me coz i'm funny and humorous,but it's not the real me!so this love is not a true love!hope you'll be better soon

That was sad and a waste of time meeting him. He first tell you that he wants to meet you for further understanding of what? If you are not his type he shouldn't have asked to meet with you personally. That way you won't have such feeling of missing him. Coz I know for a fact there is some hope that grew deep inside of you when he asked you to meet him personally. Please don't waste your time missing him there are lots of gentleman out there.

Just move on and look for another man who will love and care for you. No matter how much you think about that man, it seems that he doesn't want to be with you. Iam glad that he was honest enough to tell before wasting your time.

maybe, you're not meant for each other. someday you'll find the right one for you. you just have to be patient.

I am sorry that you find yourself in this unfortunate situation. I think most have been through this too, some time in their life. The only thing I would say is that from my experience, these feelings do pass, as everything passes and then you will be wondering why you were so upset. As a therparist, I would say not to fight with your feelings as this will cause even more, but allow yourself to focus on them and stay aware of how they will come and go. When focus is used in this way, it speeds up recovery time for the emotions. _Derek

Welcome to Mylot! The problem with single ladies is that they (oops we) tend to be either hopeful or naive. Give it 2 months and you will sooner be over him.

For what you said, I think you only had a big crush on him, it was not really love. This type of things happens all the time, you think that you never will forget the person, but in the end, you realize that you can't love someone that you barely know and forget it. At least, this is what happens to me.

I think it will be best for you if you forget about him. He seems like a nice Guy as he didn't use u.. he told you before hand that you are not the one for him. U will surely find the right one for you soon.. So don't feel bad and don't give up hope...

Get rid of him , It is useless to love a man who does not love you.It takes two to tango.There are may guys out there who will love you.

hi... i share with you what i experienced in my life.you love a man but he doesn,t love you.thom en i suggest you start forgeting him and go for one who loves you.if you force that person to love either that wouldn't be sweet(true love).i feel your fellings it would be hard to remove his memories from your mind and brain.you do some other work which you love to do playing video games going out with friends etc...that will help you come out of it.eventually,never love anyone who doesn't respect your love they are not worth it.my best wishes.