Is Abortion Okay if the Baby is so defective and has no chance of normal life?

Your poor friend is in a very upsetting situation indeed. I know what it is like to be told bad news during an ultrasound scan. I had that happen to me five years ago. I found out my baby son has spina bifida and hydrocephalus. He was born at home and then taken into the special care baby unit in hospital. He had a back operation the day he was born and a shunt inserted into his head at two weeks old. At three years old he had hip, leg and foot operations. He is in a wheelchair and goes to a mainstream primary school. I gave my baby son a chance to live and be happy. I suggest your friend does too. I wouldn't suggest she goes ahead with having an illegal late term abortion. Abortion is not okay if the baby is defective. One of my friends has a twelve year old son. At birth he had one and a half legs. I see him now and think the operations were worth it. I am a primary school teacher. My home country has modern ideas. It wouldn't have a problem with a single mother of a baby. No doctor can say the whole story in pregnancy but when the baby is born the time is there to know.

Oh my goodness, there are a lot of issues going on here. The affair is the least of her worries now. I agree with a lot of other posters here. Since she can't get a legal abortion, there's not much choice but to have the baby. I would also advise her against an illegal back alley abortion. Her life would be in serious danger if she went that route.

Oh, man, you have a very difficult question there but time answered it already for your friend. Let me explain in detail. Killing something with life still means you are taking that human's natural right to life. Even mercy killing still has "killing" stuck to it. Even if the babe has no chance of normal life as long as the babe has life, a person does not have the right to take the babe's future of being able to live away. I've already heard of people being born without limbs while plagued with some additional sickness living their life to the fullest and independent from parents yet maintained being happy and thankful for the life they have. Whenever I look at them, it seems they're more happier living than me, a normal person with complete body functions and can do almost everything normally. As for the other matter at hand, your friend is too far off from having a safe abortion when the baby is already big in her womb. Fetuses becomes zygote on the first 3 months in the mother's womb. 5 months is near to the normal human-baby size already. So she would have to be prepared to take care of her child and forget abortion. And by the way, not to be rude or blaming but, I think the baby became abnormal because of how the mother is stressed out emotionally, psychologically and physically even before she knew of her baby's form. It could be because she already knew that she was pregnant and she worried about her reputation, how others would see her and became more stressed out because she does not know what to do. She might have focused too much on her own problems that she forgot to even think about her baby in her womb. Unconsciously, mothers could pass to their child certain signals such as feelings and stresses thus it might have interrupted the normal process of the development of the child and causing it to have the heart problem too. I'm say this because my mother knew of someone who was in your friend's situation years ago. She worried too much about her reputation and other problems that might arise that when her baby finally came out, it was diagnosed of having malignant heart disease. I also found out that other people who had experienced the same had most of their child carrying a heart disease when they were born. So I am saying this as a word of precaution to pregnant women out there who are able to read this...

It is God who gave this beautiful life for us. And we have no right to abort a developing kid. So let her not do a sin again. Ask her to believe in God and pray. Prayers will definitely cause miracles. Please do not advice her for an abortion, that is what I feel.

hello, I dont also have any idea of this kind of situation but you should tell her that she must make up her mind and think of it in 100 times because life is not easy especially if you have an abnormal child but this was god gift to her. She is a teacher and she should know what to do. She give advice to her student. It is still her decision to make especially her parents dont know about this. Maybe try to tell her that she need to inform her parents about her condition. In that way she will know if they will against or not.

I'm in favor of abortion in some cases, like of your friend. Reading the history, if the baby survive and be able to be born, he/her will not survive for a long time with all these conditions, so, it will be painfull for the baby, for the mother and for her family also. No one can say for sure how long he/her will live and some mothers think it's worth to live with the new baby only for a couple weeks or a some months with the new baby than live no time at all, I guess you should make her that question. If it was me, I honestly would do an abortion, even if it was ilegal in my country because for me see the baby born and then die very soon it would be much harder than do an abortion.

Hmmm... it's really hard to say especially when you grow up in a society who have high regards of morality and who believes that abortion is a sin. And in her case I can say that it is just to her doing that's why it happened to the baby on her womb. And she should be responsible for her actions and accept the consequences of her doings. In the first she knows what she's into is immoral and that there's really no future for them because the guys she falls into has already a responsiblity and yet she continue. But i know I'm being judge mental and I know I don't have the right since Im only human and capable of making the same mistakes, but since it is already there i would suggest she would continue the baby. I heard the baby with such condition won't really live long but at least she does gave it the chance to see the world and she does not play God of deciding to let it get aborted.

Everyone has the right to live no matter how "defective" they are. As a person with a mental handicap, I find the idea that abortion is a "mercy killing" because of a handicap to be the most insulting idea ever. She can give the baby up for adoption, they're are people who want to adopt special needs kids. Being adopted myself, I know that for a fact. If she gives up the baby up for adoption she won't have to take care of the baby and the child will have a good life.

If the child's condition is as bad as you say, you don't have to worry about an abortion. Your friend will have a miscarriage.

oh friend can you pray for her?This is not good story to hear and feel sorry for her situation right now....... Pray for her life future and good health.It is bad to hear but let her trust to God!!!! I do not know what to do to her but i can offer to her a good prayer for her life..Well,if the baby is a alive,and something problems i think i do not know what to help,abortion is bad can also damage her self.maybe let still alive the baby or let the baby will remain till to deliver.if she will abort,she maybe in affected and not good condition........pray for her,and what God will speak to her.

Don't opt for an abortion since aside from committing a crime for killing the fetus, your friend would most probably end up suffering from a health problem (bleeding, infections, etc.) afterwards. I don't think the fetus' condition is enough to go through abortion...

Abortion is only allowed if the health of the mother as well as baby is in danger. in case of your friend i must say she should take a decision and abort that child. This will make mother health worthy as well as for the child. Abnormality of that kind which will make child life worse, its better to have abortion. I must must suggest your friend to take decision quickly as increasing pregnancy time will create complications for her