FORGIVENESS can't be given to a child?

Philippines
December 30, 2011 9:17am CST
There are things that was unforgivable for someone who sinned against us. But there are things that can be forget mostly if it is the child that crushed our hearts. Then at present I met this person to whom his heart was so hurt because a child hurt his son in front of him. As in physical hurt that crushed his heart. And he can never forget what happen that until now he is so mad at the child.And not yet forgiven. For me a child is still a child. He can still be shaped into a person which is not brutal only in a way that he will be good. Mostly if the child is not even reach 5 yrs old. What do you think? Is this child worth to be forgiven if you were in the shoes of the parent who saw his child beaten? What will you do and what are the steps that somehow will close your heart to forgiveness?
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franne32
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
30 Dec 11
If my child were hurt by another child in front of me and in a brutal kind of way, I too just might not be able to forgive that child. It's a parent's natural instinct of protectiveness. It may sound cruel but this will be the question in my head during that time: "My child does not deserve this."
franne32
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
30 Dec 11
edit: thought in my head rather than question in my head. sorry. In time, I may be able to forgive that child, but not at that moment.
mmgonzales
@mmgonzales (882)
• Philippines
30 Dec 11
I appreciate the thought franne, really it hurts so much seeing your own child hurting that way by another child. And the child don't deserve to be hurt. And even don't deserve not to be forgiven. I agree also with you on the thought that not at the moment...But what if months was already past by... does it take months after months? or counting years for that?
Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41289)
• Delhi, India
30 Dec 11
Hello mmgonzales, Absolutely if i see my kids been hurt in front of me i would feel bad and i don't know what i will do at that moment even though knowing it that one hurt my kid is also a kid. Recently in play school my son was scolded by his teacher i was very much annoyed when he complained it to me after coming from school next day my wife went to the school and asked them and realized them don't presume that if they are kids they won't be able to say it at home what has happened in the school.That teacher was feeling sorry for it and apologized that she should not have scolded at least the kids in play way.
srjac0902
@srjac0902 (1169)
• Italy
30 Dec 11
Any Parent will defend the child. Even though you wish to forgive that hurt remains perhaps just because your child is small. Even if the other child is small, while it hurts your child or other child, it does not appear small specially when it hurts habitually. If it hurts you you may overlook but when it hurts you you will not tolerate. It is a symptom of real Parents. Even the birds and animals do it to defend their little ones
djbtol
@djbtol (5493)
• United States
30 Dec 11
Forgiveness can be given to all, even though it might be very difficult. Just as children are learning and changing, so are adults. Even an adult that screws up can be given another chance. If you forgive an infant, it is more for your own peace of mind, since the baby does not know. Once a child has a conscience, they certainly need to be forgiven when they apologize and ask for forgiveness.
srjac0902
@srjac0902 (1169)
• Italy
30 Dec 11
Anybody should be forgiven but the child for sure it is not responsible. But when a person never forgives and never forgets, that indicates that even before the offense that took place, there was no attraction between the two hearts. If he has not forgiven means actually there is nothing to forgive when a child offends, and if one never forgive means the anger is not due to the fault, the anger is an excuse but in reality there is no love
mmgonzales
@mmgonzales (882)
• Philippines
30 Dec 11
For a person below eighteen it is still parents responsibility... and that child is just nearly 5 years old.. His parents is not that supportive, maybe they have problems...hmmm too much that a child suffer for their character..
befrindwithme26
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
Wow till now can't forgive?what kind of person is he/she to not forgive?He still mad at child n because of his anger,to the child and hatred in his heart.. God forgiveth our sins how much more us that we same sinners to one another..?can't forgive.?who are we..we should forgive.
enelym001
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
30 Dec 11
Like you, I also think that the child can still be shaped into a good person. The kids are too young and still immature - they normally don;t realize that they are hurting someone so bad. The kids' parents are responsible and the father of the hurt kid should at least tell it to the kids parents, this way his parents are obliged to look after their kid and mold him into a better person.
mmgonzales
@mmgonzales (882)
• Philippines
30 Dec 11
Hi en I do believed that every child will learn more. It depends what the people around him teaching or showing him. He has no good foundation i think so. Well if i were to be with that child i will teach him well. Hope i could partake to him the values that my grandparents instill to me on my childhood.
Nezavisima Deskata
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Dec 11
yes this is very true what you wrote. a child knows what is right and wrong if he had not explained this. for each child, everything is game is all just a joke. situations where such beatings with injuries not pleasant. but I think that parents are responsible for this child. everything depends on the parent if he explained, if he should raise as there is no such incidents. interesting discussion. nice day!