how would you handle this?

Are you sure that they are too lazy? I know some kids that for some reason will not go at home. My three year old for example is in pull-ups which are kind of like diapers. At school, he goes to the bathroom (most not all of the time) and at home he goes some of the time and doesn't really know the signs of he has to go. We have to keep pull-ups on him because medically speaking he isn't even ready to be potty trained since he still goes while he is sleeping. It could be that they are lazy or something else like the child doesn't want to go potty at home.

You don't confront them. They take care of their children while you take care of yours! I agree that that is too old for just about any child, but for them, it's working. so, you don't have the right to say anything at all

It is parent's who has to take effort in training the child. I leave such things to parents to decide what is the right age. Some children may have weak bladder muscles and it could take up to 5 years of age to get proper bladder control especailly during night time. At times, the care taker may not be taking effort to train up a child.

um, are you sure there isn't a medical reason for it? Unless you know the family well enough that you would be told if their son was autistic or had weak bladder muscles, you might be best off not saying anything. It doesn't actually harm the child to be in diapers.

A normal child would begin toilet training between two and three years old. This is convenient with the child going to a nursery school. My daughter won't be three years old until June. I am intending to begin toilet training with her later this month. I have a four year old son and he has got special needs. He is disabled with spina bifida and hydrocephalus. He needs to have catheter care. He still wears a diaper for medical reasons. He won't ever be toilet trained because he has no sensation in that part of the body. The parents should be given a potty and a little book to explain toilet training. Soon the little boy will be toilet trained if there aren't medical issues like my son has. Good luck to getting your point across to those parents.

Simple answer applicable to me, keep my big mouth shut because it isn't my child and I'm not related to the parents. I went through a similar situation with my daughter and her son. He was around 4 years old and not potty trained. My daughter worked and the baby sitter didn't think she would follow through with training her son after she got off work. So, they weren't getting anywhere with it. When my daughter talked to me about it, I told her I would take him for a week and he would come home potty trained if there wasn't a medical reason it couldn't happen. That was all it took and when the week was up, it was over. Unfortunately, I doubt you could do the same with a child of parents who you are not related to. Regardless of what you think, rarely are things the way they appear unless the person we are confronting is related to us. Good luck!

If it were me I wouldn't get involved. They know already that its way beyond training time and all you would do is get yourself into trouble by speaking out. If I would want to get involved I would simply give him some underwear...as a gift.

My Mother was in diapers when she was 94! What's so wrong about that? She was in diapers because she had lost control of her bladder. I hope with all my heart that you never need to wear diapers. This would come as a big surprise wouldn't it?

I, too, would not get involved. All parents have different issues with their children - some of which they may not be sharing with even with those closest to them. I know I do my share of rolling my eyes over certain things other parents do (or don't), but I would never call them on it. Although it may seem ridiculous to us, we may not know the entire story. And even if there is no story and the parents are "lazy", well, it's just going to seem like an attack on their parenting . . . I'm sure they're perfectly aware.

kristinad..While this may bother you it, apparently the parents see it differently. At this age if it bothered the child I would think he would tell the parents himself. In the meantime if I were you I would just let his parents handle it. All the best to you..and welcome to myLot

I'm nephew is almost 5 years old and Ian potty trained he used pull ups all of the time that is a lot like a dipar a lit of little kids still learning have them. But that doesn't means the parents are lazy there could be something wrong with a child themsleves like a we sensitive blatter or disabilities. My nephew he is autistic so it's very hard to get him to do certain thugs with out him freaking out. He isn't like other preschool schoolers. He seems normal looks normal into the same things as kids his age but certain things he just cant handle and has to be taken slowly. This is one of them.