falling inlove with my bestfriend...how to deal with the feeling?

I think it's not bad if you in love with your friend. Much better you in love with your friend because you know him/her well than any other person in your surroundings...

Is that your real experience?? If that so.... no problem with that as long your best friend wants it also. welcome to myloters... i think you have a good starts.. make your response and post quality as you can. and you will go far with this site.

hi!yeah, it could be hard for someone to tell her/his bestfriend that he/she feels something romantic to him/her. it happened to me. with my former work, there is this guy that i really enjoy to be with. he is someone i treated as a brother and a bestfriend. we get along well with each other, and he is someone i could talk to about everything without having hesitations of being misjudge. he was in a long distance relationship with someone else, while i was still single that. i was so happy with what we have, and he is too. but to my surprise one day, he confess that he felt something special for me, and that he loves me more than he love his girlfriend. i was stunned at first, but i was too afraid that our friendship will get broken, and so i just said that it's ok if he felt that way, but as long as he is still committed with someone else, and he doesn't want to lose our friendship, we must stick with what we have. and i think we were happy, because we have taken care of the friendship, even if i knew that he loves me more than a friend. he's still single now, and i am already married, but still, he is someone who would always be a good part of my life. because he is a friend i don't wanna lose and i am glad that he felt the same for me too.

hi there bjcelyn, it is really difficult to deal with the situation that you have posted. falling in love with your bestfriend. that situation you have posted was also happened to me. as i have fall in love with my bestfriend. and i can say, during that time, i can't help it. the feeling is unexplainable. as i want to stop the time running so we can be with each other. i feel so loved by him and secured whenever he is around. good thing he feels the same way for me. so we have come far to our relationship. that we have surpassed the boundary of being bestfriends.

Usually bestfriends are really becoming lovers because they have already understand each other as they already accepted each other's flaws and the good side as well.

That is a very hard thing to get across. A person I think would have to be very tactful and let their feelings be known but be open to rejection as well. That way we won't feel as if the friendship is ruined if the other person doesn't have a romantic interest in us as well.

Falling in love with your bestfriend, doesn't surprise me...cause whom can you love but to the one who knows, understand you...though the big question is ...is your bestfriend wants also to make a deeper relationship out of the friendship you both had. It's a matter of sincerity of showing and making him understand that beyond friendship you are there also to love him unconditionally as a partnet, a bestfriend and as a love one

That's the best of both worlds: when your best friend is also your sweetheart and/or your spouse. But how do you "upgrade" the relationship from that of being best of friends to another level? That's the more difficult part. As of the moment, just hide your feelings for him and enjoy it. But try to find out slowly and discreetly about his reaction to "upgrading" the relationship. If the reaction is positive, don't jump into it posthaste, but just let the mutual feelings and relationship develop naturally. If he is not agreeable about upgrading the relationship, don't stop being his best friend. Perhaps the upgrading will ultimately be realized, but it may also not occur. But early on, you must have made friends with him because of certain qualities you like in him. If those qualities are still there, then you should try to remain his best friend until.......

Everyone comes across this situation where your best friend fall i love with you and you weren't even thinking about it. Normally when two people are best friends...they share a lot of things in common, they think alike, like doing things together and understand eachother every well. In this there can be two situations where both fall in love with eachother or either one of them starts falling for the other one. This situation is a difficult one as the person may not want to spoil what they already have between them and take it to a new level. You fall in this category and the only thing you can do is think about and take a decision. You can also love him or try to make him understand in a cool and calm way... taking care not to hurt his sentiments.

it is a piece of cake for you. and too easy to deal with it. As far as I am concerned, the best way to deal with it is to tell him or her the true. Only in this way can you help him or her and do not harm him or her.

Falling in love with our best friend sometimes can be only an ilussion of love , it might be only love as friends , You love him that much that you get confused about the feelings. Be careful , if he doesnt feel the same way as you do you will suffer so much , seatdown anilyze your feelings and think if that what you are feeling is worth it to loose your best friend.

I have never fallen in love with a bestfriend. 'Though I have experienced a bestfriend confessing his feelings to me. I've got to say if he did it with other bestfriends I may have given him a pat on the back and tell him he did a job well done! 'Though we never ended as lovers as I only like him as bestfriend, I would say that maybe you can do the same thing he did. Go to your bestfriend and tell the person what you really feel about him/her. Who knows, he/she may feel the same way towards you and you might end up being happy together and loving each other. Goodluck!

It is quite possible and I had faced that in my life when my husbands friend felt a crush on me and it ended with him sleeping with me..

As long as he or she wants the same thing then it's great for a great friendship to turn into loving one another. I have been in your shoes before. It's completely normal to be hesitant. But you have to think. If this really is a good friendship then they already know alot about you. Which makes it easier to take it to the next level... and you already know they like you for who you are, and you should already be comfortable with one another. Go for it. It will most likely turn out great. Chances are they feel the same way.

Falling for a friend can be a dangerous thing for your friendship, once that line has been crossed it can change things forever and yet if it is happening you can not help it, we have no control over emotions that is something not matter what you do you can't stop it, so tread lightly.

If you really in love with your best friend, the best bet, do not think over it too much, and go with your gut feeling. Confess how you feel toward him/her. If that can't be work out, stay friends, and do not expect a second chance or anything. Because you don't want to ruin the feeling of between two good friends.

Falling in love with your best friend is a definite NO NO for me. Many people will say that "If this fails, we will still be best friends and nothing will ever change." but life isn't a fairy tail. If you fall in love with your best friend then you can kiss that friendship of yours goodbye since most of the time that relationship won't work or one of you will stay away since he/she doesn't want to ruin the friendship. If you want to take the risk then it's your choice.

Well my friend, you have to think a million of times before deciding what feelings would you follow , because you're risking something. Your friendship towards that person.. In these days, relationships lasts for years, but best friends lasts a LIFETIME . and Best friends are pretty hard to Find .. But again, in the end of the day, you're still gonna choose between Falling in love or treasuring your friendship . Happy new Year to you and God Bless . :)

maybe your friend feels the same way you do but is too afraid to say anything, you are one step above them by posting for advice on the subject. I would just be honest, the worst that could happen is you lose your friendship but if a friendship is strong enough it could withstand anything. The best that could happen is find out your friend feels the same way and you 2 date and see where things go. Good Luck :)

As for me, there is no problem in dealing with or handling it. Since you are a friend of someone you really like and might fall to love, if that someone has no commitment yet, why not continue what you are doing which makes him/her happy, cared and loved. Do it genuinely. Without malice since she/he is your bestfriend. You could still continously show your affection to her/him as long what's developed within you is a real love. Because real love will just give and share what is best for the recipient of love. It's a selfless love which is aiming for the happines and for the best of the one he/she loves. He/she's not thinking of what he/she's going to receive from the love he/she had offer...But, if your bestfriend is already committed, better not to tell anything. It would definitely, even you don't intentionally like it or not (you know, breaking a relationship), affect both of you...The friendship you have built and cared for so long will never be the same again...Don't ever try telling your feelings toward that person especially if you sense or perceive that the other end has no or impossible to feel the same as what you have been towards him/her. Hope it could help you. :)