This year I turn 50, I hope it is better than 49!
By kimbers867
@kimbers867 (2539)
United States
January 2, 2012 10:15am CST
The big day is February 15th, and I don't know why I have such a hangup with the number 50!
This past year I found out I need my knee replaced, putting that off as long as possible. Had someone rear end me and then had the nerve to say it was my fault.
Realized that I hate being married but will stay in it until my youngest (10) is out of the house. I have been with my husband for 21 years, and married 16 of those years. He is not romantic, has no compassion, and can be downright mean (he jokes a lot but being all females - he doesn't understand that is joking is hurtful). He is a good provider but I do not call him my best friend because of the qualities I listed. They say marriage changes everyone WHICH I agree! Before kids he would joke around and be fun to be with but now forget it.
Hoping 2012 is a better year!
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3 responses
@TeamCholent (2832)
• United States
2 Jan 12
As long as you enter the year with a positive attitude and try your best to make 2012 a good year I have no fear and doubt it will be a good year for you. Life is what we make of it.
Wishing you a great 2012 and one for the memory books!
@kimbers867 (2539)
• United States
3 Jan 12
You are so right, I have started the new year out with a positive attitude and hope it continues!!!!
thanks for the response and have a great 2012!!!
@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
2 Jan 12
Hi Kimber I know the feeling. I turn 60 this year. Your husband sounds close to mine except he is duller than a knife blade LOL
He did not act this way when we were dating either. Guess they have to show you a good time til they marry you then the REAL them comes out.
Just take your time about what you want to do. If I had it to do over I would not have married him. He brought way more baggage with him than I ever could. (His ex was a horses rear end.) Anyway if your hubby has good health care for you and provides for you, you can learn to just have your own life when he is not around.
then when he is its not so bad.
The main question for you is Will you be able to take care of yourself on your own?
I have been getting 629.00 on SSD for the last 3 years and the almighty prez finally gave us a raise making mine now 652.00 starting end of January.
I know in reality I could not live on that alone, rent, car, insurance, medical bills so sometimes knowing the OTHER things we recieve that sometimes we don't always think of help us to remain where we are.
I like to craft a lot so I take my mind off him and all his wacky family and put it into something I can achieve.
Just remember make sure you can take care of yourself #1 question.
Because unemployment and SSD and SSI do not give you much of a lifestyle either.
Good Luck and hope you will have a better new year too.
@kimbers867 (2539)
• United States
3 Jan 12
I have been working for most of my adult life, less 10 years, so my Social Security, if it is still around will be ok. I do plan on working part time even once I retire, if my health allows it.
In the future, I will be ok financially because I do have an uncle who has it that I will come into some money when he passes! Which I hope is not for a long time.
Thanks for giving me some things to think about.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
hi there kimbers867,
as the years change, i do always hope for the better. whenever i leap one year older, i do always hope that good thing will arise for a better life.
and with reference to your main topic, what you are feeling is a bit normal. life inside a home do change. and as you grow old, marriage life also change. as the many couples says, it becomes a companionship wherein the love and affection turns into a friendship and will become companionship at the end.
thus, let us hope for a better 2012.
blessings to all of us.
