How honest are you with your interent friends
By @mayka123
@mayka123 (16605)
India
January 2, 2012 7:46pm CST
On various sites on the internet we make friends who are just our online friends. We know nothing about them except the name given by them and sometimes a few more details. We share a lot with them on some sites. How honest are you with such friends. Do you share everything about yourself with your online friends? Or are they just names whom you remember only when you are in front of your computer?
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
3 Jan 12
I am honest, but I don't air out my laundry to all..If someone wants to know something about myself, I'll tell them if I am comfortable doing so. If not, I either send a private message or I will honestly tell them I don't think it is any of their business..(I say it more kindly than that though..lol)
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
5 Jan 12
Oh no, I did't mean I was fully opened here, I meant what I say, I say with truth, I don't hide behind lies. I think that is what makes PPE upset, are the lies..
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
5 Jan 12
Oops sorry mayka, I opened this from my inbox and was thinking of another discussion. Anyway, my comment about, "I don't air out my laundry to all." means just that, I don't tell everything...
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
3 Jan 12
Hi mayka!
You see it will depend upon person to person, how much s/he wants to reveal about herself/himself to his/her on line friends.
I do not mind sharing my details with my on line friends and those who are close know almost everything about me.
Like-wise I feel glad to know in details about my on line friends and always treat them as my real (life) friends. I believe in strengthening the friendship with my on line friends and for it I even go out of the way to keep my relations intact with them.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 12
mayka!
It means my honesty and transparency gets certified. Thanks a lot for kind words about me.
@mayka123 (16605)
• India
3 Jan 12
I know a lot about you in these three odd years that I have been on mylot and it has been a great experience commmunicating with you both online and offline. Yes I know you share in detail about your life with your online friends and treat each of them as very special friends.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
3 Jan 12
yes. by virtue of experience online -- I will ask only a few details and share a few details with others. I was hesitating to post my photo online because my wife was objecting. After six months of joining mylot, I posted my photo.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
i do not have internet friends anymore. i used to have a few before bu t i lost contact with them now that i am unable to be online most of the time. =( i miss having friends to talk to online actually... i wish i could get some friends online and stick up with them, and them sticking out with me as well... its really hard not to have friends with you especially at times when you really need someone to talk to.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
3 Jan 12
For me my mylot friends are also my internet friends. Have got to know some of them so closely that we now communicate via emails and telephone too. How do you say you do not have internet friends when you have 900 friends here with whom you can communicate daily through discussions. When you are lonely and need someone to talk to just log on to mylot just as I did today. I was alone at home and was feeling a bit down. So at 7 in the morning I logged on to mylot and in an hour started three discussions and am now interacting with friends and not feeling lonely anymore.
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@savak03 (6684)
• United States
3 Jan 12
I noticed on your profile that you have over 900 friends listed. Now I know that just because a person is on that list doesn't mean they are truly your friend. It takes time to get to know someone and you have to interact with them. But surely there are a few of that 900 that you would call friend? There are several people that I have gotten to know here on mylot that I call friend here and would be proud to call friend face to face also.
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@allknowing (136646)
• India
3 Jan 12
I will hold back personal information about me but am never dishonest. There is no point in being dishonest as we are not known here. Once I decide to convert a virtual friendship into a real one then I will open up.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
3 Jan 12
It is right. Women should hold back personal details about them and not share with people introduced online. I appreciate this strategy.
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
i am honest to whom i know i can rely and trust. But to others that i know not serious i didn't share anything except my name and age. I hate to lie but depends to a person i talk too. If i feel i dont like them i only talk to them a little and share a little. I have one very close friend and he knows everything in me and almost every details. We become a long very close friend and i love him so much until present.
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@savak03 (6684)
• United States
3 Jan 12
It depends on why they disapprove. If their response is reasonable and questioning then I will try explaining why I take a certain stance. If they are just belligerent then, like you said, I pretty much ignore it. Everyone has the right to like or dislike whoever they want.
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@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 12
Not telling all doesn not mean that we are not honest. Since online friends are not the ones we know exactly, we restrict the information to them. It takes time to know online friends well, I think.
The more we communicate, the less the barrier is. We gradually grow into a more friendly relationship, and are more opened to one another.
Some people quickly become friends the first time they chat and arrange to meet somewhere to know more detailed information about one another.
@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 Jan 12
We most of the time hide the truth from strangers. As we get to know them better we start sharing more information. Hiding the truth is okay. But making up stories and telling a bunch of lies to impress someone or to attract someone attention is wrong. This is something that I do not like. It make me loose complete trust in that person.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
I am honest, online and offline.
Nothing to hide or pretend.
Its easier to tell the truth than creating lies.
Besides, there is no need to lie or hide about myself.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
3 Jan 12
I am 60+ and male. so normally I do not hesitate sharing details about me. However in mylot we are not supposed to tell certain things about us which may tantamount to marketing/publicity.
Out of 100 probably one or two become closer with us sharing information about them and automatically we also share info.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
3 Jan 12
We need not reveal anything that are against the rules. But whatever we say should be the truth. There was one mylotter who in one discussion was bragging about getting about a 100 dollars a month on a particular site and in another discussion he said that his total online earnings a month was not exceeding more than 10 to 15 dollars and so was asking for tips how on to increase his earnings. I thought of him and started two discussions today.
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@Pushhyarag2000 (1416)
• India
3 Jan 12
I would put my online friends into two broad categories: those who are friends on social networking sites like Facebook, FriendFeed or BlogCatalog with whom I have occasional exchange related to blogging activity and someone with whom I have a periodic or regular interaction through an IM. In either case, I maintain my credibility, honesty and dignified behavior so that I have meaningful, log term association. Even with the friend on IM, we mostly discuss general web & social activity related stuff and may talk about personal issues in passing. Of course, the age & maturity determine what & how we use our online friendship I think.
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@roadrunner77 (173)
•
3 Jan 12
You raise a very interesting question. I have to say that I have always been, (and continue to be), amazed at the extent to which people share personal information about themselves with relative strangers online. This seems rather odd to me. I have to feel I know someone quite well before I can talk with them about personal matters.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
4 Jan 12
Hi dear,
I am honest person to my online friends and off line friends. In fact I have great friends online than offline. I mean I keep in touch with my online friends than I do with my offline friends. If I don’t want to share something then I won’t say the same but won’t say lies.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
4 Jan 12
With us spending so much time with the computers both in office and at home it is not surprising that many of us have more online friends than offline friends. Even though we may not share everything with our online friends whatever we do should be truthful.
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@veejay19 (3589)
• India
3 Jan 12
I hardly have any friends online whom i do not know and who know everything about me and vice versa. I am very careful not to make friends with strangers or even if i have them not to divulge anything to them about myself.Mylot friends are meant to get as many discussions to respond to and one could call it a platonic friendship as compared to a real friend.Yes,i do feel a bit close to a couple of friends here and we have shared somethings about ourselves but i find most of the people here quite indifferent.Since you and i belong to the same city i would have liked that we could convert our cyber friendship into a real one but i feel that you are not interested.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
4 Jan 12
I am me no matter if it is here or in person. I am selective, even offline, about the things I discuss about myself. I am not hiding things but I am not one to dwell on negativity so I am a lot less likely to discuss things of the negative nature. I do, however, offer my well meant advice and give examples of things that have happened to me in the past when I feel like a friend needs to know they are not alone or that there is someone out there that understands. I do take my friendships seriously.
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@shibham (16977)
• India
3 Jan 12
Hi mayka...
My life is something like an open book where everyone can give a look to read me. But its also true that some issues are not written there and in those cases s/he should be more close to me so that i can trust more than a real friend. If you give a look on my posts then you will get how much intimate i am to most mylotters.
Have a nice time.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
4 Jan 12
I do not share everything with them any more than I would share everything with my offline friends. I share more with some people than I do others based on our relationship, trust and comfort level, but that is true with any relationship. I do not really distinguish much between online and offline friends, because a friend is a friend regardless of how or where you met them.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
4 Jan 12
The trust and comfort level builds with time. We may not share our whole life with online friends. We may hide the truth sometimes from them. But I think whatever we share should always be the truth and we should not be telling them lies just because they are far away from us and may never know the truth.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
4 Jan 12
I am not sure that "hiding the truth" is the same thing as not revealing everything. There are things that I do not want to share, but that does not mean that I am lying about anything ... I am just keeping some things private the way that I think that they should be. When I hear "hiding the truth" it makes me think that someone is doing everything possible, such as lying, to keep the truth from coming out, which is not how I am online or offline.
I also do not think that online friends will never know us or know the truth about us. I feel very close to a couple of friends online. I have never met them in person, but I have talked to one of them on the phone and exchanged e-mails and PMs with a few. I have a couple offline friends that I do not see, either, because we live in different states. I do not really see the difference between these two groups of friends.
@jaihobalodiji1 (949)
• India
4 Jan 12
i am always honest to them, but some times when from other site they make serious abusive argument i just lost my control over me, i just block them.as i do not have girlfriend that why i usually send fried request to girls.
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