The other women
By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
January 3, 2012 8:55pm CST
Would you want to the other women? You know the women that the man comes to to cheat on whom ever he is with? Would you want to one of the reasons why a family broke up or couldn't be together?
My cousin she was the other women but she didn't know it till the day that guy she was seeing wife emailed her on Facebook. She said I know you don't know me and I know you didn't know about me but I'm Alex's wife. I found out today that I'm pregnant and I'm not sure if I'm going to go through the pregnancy or not. I wanted to also tell you I have an STD that I got from him, I would highly suggestion that you get test if you where sleeping with him. My cousin then emailed her back saying thank you so much for emailing me I had no idea that he was married or I would have never dated him that is only something my mother would do. I haven't slep with him I don't sleep with guys right way and I wasn't ready. I'm dumping him right now. I don't believe in an abortions take you time thinking about it but I do understand why you would. Just in case I did have an STD I went to the student health department and they did a test and I'm okay no stds at all.
Well it's been a year since then and now she looks back and wants what she had with this guy but not the lie or being the one used to cheap with. She now and them looks at is Facebook Amd the lie of the family he has. Every know and them he tries emailing her but she has blocked him and can only see his page through mutual friends. She looks at his son amd cries over how much he looks like him.
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6 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
4 Jan 12
I believe I was a mistress in a previous life. back in the day when there was no divorce and noblemen married for other reasons than love. back then , a mistress was for love as the wife was for children! Since I Never wanted children But I always wanted love , I think I was a mistress. Back then there was no breaking the home. So a mistress wouldn't harm the family unit! But these days? Many married men Never say they are married. You can get involved and then find out. But... if I could be a mistress like the ones of old? I would say yes. His wife would know about me and I about her, She is Never getting a divorce and I never want to marry him anyway! But these days it is impossible!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
5 Jan 12
Let me put it this way.I rather be a mistress than a wife any day in Any age. I rather be desired than ignored. I Never want kids so Why would I want to marry? It is up to him and his wife if the family remains intact or not. What I will Never do is demand a married marry leave his wife to marry me!Does this answer your question?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
5 Jan 12
I wouldn't be with a man Just to have a car and what not! Being the other woman cauises trouble when the other woman Wants to be the wife. I mean she Wants to take the man away from his wife and children. Like in times of old, That is why I mentioned it, I wouldn't want to break up his marriage. I'm there to give him something of his own so he can Stay in his marriage. It will not be me who breaks up his marriage ,it would have to be him. And if he thinks I will become his second wife... he will lose us both! Like I said before, the best situation is where the wife Knows and Does not care that he has a mistress. She knows And will not divorce him . He knows he can Never get a divorce and I don't want him to get a divorce! In this , there is no bad guy! And besides , there are open marriages where Both have favorites. That is why I say I rather be the mistress than the wife! I'm no wife abd Never will be.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Jan 12
You dont have to be married to have what ever in a person life. Car, money, love, children you don't need marriage for that. Being the other women can cause trouble in another person relationship when thu might have the possible to be together. That person is in a relationship why help destroy and the other bad person. The person we are pretending your dating has a wife and kid or a girl friend you be the reason why a child would grow up hating you and there dad for break up a family you be there Missy. Hubby's steps mom the one with the freak boobs and had no care that she was sleeping with a married in the same house as his wife and kids lived in the same bed in which his wife and him sleep. The other would be the fire and many reason to why a couple would break up. That is a bit wrong for a women to know that she is with someone that is involved with someone else that is only care about there own needs and not giving a f about others people's feelings.
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
So sorry for what happened to your cousin. But good that she has managed to dumped him 'though she loved him before. Some ladies became victims of these cheating men sometimes and even getting diseases from them.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
4 Jan 12
She doesn't love him she loved what she had with him till she knew the truth. You did answer te question I asked, would you want to be the other women? I'm assumig no.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
That's a big NO for me. I would not want to be the other woman. I am a little selfish when it comes to love. It should be only me who my man will love - of course aside to the kids me and my future hubby will have.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
4 Jan 12
Not intentionaly I wouldn't want to be. I wouldn't want to break up someones home, especially if they had kids or not. I would not want to be used like that and yes, you would be used. I would feel bad to be doing that to his wife.
I was involved in a situation such as your friend except his wife didn't know yet about me. He just out right one day told me that he was married, I broke things off with him. I felt even worse when he told me he had a son.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
4 Jan 12
She not my friend she is my cousin. My cousin was I. Ranged Amd like wrote himthis big huge email and sent to him and told his befriend and even his best friends did know about it. It took her a year to get past it all. She some times would text or Dave ion me Asti g she wanted him back and that he asked her but she didn't say anything to him because she knew she couldn't do not when he was having a kid. If I was his wife I wouldn't even take him back. I had to tell my cousin over and over if a man lives he wouldn't have done that he would have told you from the start and you would have told well if you want to be with me then you have to leave whom your won but not because of me but because of your relationship not working out I don't want to be the reason why you leave.
I could never be the other women.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
I feel sorry for your cousin but she did the right thing.
As for my personal view, I always believe that being the "other woman" is purely by choice. It's from the girl's decision if she wants to end it or not. I admire your cousin for doing the right thing it's just that I don't see the point on why she needs to explain things to his wife but it's the right thing to do. At least the other party's clear with what's happening.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
I see... At least that clears everything up :) I can't really believe the nerve of that guy. I sure hope your cousin's ok now and moved on :) I'm sure she can find another guy worthy of her :)
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Jan 12
She has moved on from him. I the idea of him she still wants and I'm sure shell find it one day she is still young and got all the time in the world she isn't in any rush to find the one.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
4 Jan 12
As a wife myself if another women emailed me wrote me a letter telling me know that she didn't know that he was married I wouldn't be as mad at her ice I knew in my heart that she was telling the the truth. My cousin felt that the wife need to know and to not make a choice to have an abortion because she was dating her husband. That is all they did next to making out. They where dating for a year and the guy told her he wanted to marry my cousin have kids with her, he even meet our family and played with her little sisters and stuff. She didn't want the wife to feel guilty that he went behind there back and used both of th and for her to blame an innocent little baby for that instead of the guy alxe.
@evitz711 (65)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Hi friend,
I once been the other woman and it lasted for a year...
Its a matter of choice. I'm not saying that I'm proud on what I had done but to the fact that I felt that the guy really love me that much than her wife at that time..
His family and the family of her wife knows about the other woman and her wofe even talk to me and tell me to get lost...
I that time already given him up but this guy is still following me even harrasing me not to leave him.
The least that I can do is to have a new bf and this made him more angry to me...
After a year, he is still angry and we don't talk since then but I felt that the anger doesn't end...
I talk to his wife and tell her that I already ended the relationship. But the wife told me that his husband still has other woman.. I only advise her to be strong for their baby and for the sake of a whole family....
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
4 Jan 12
That is what I call a dog. When I can sleep around with a bunch of women he is a dog that is all he will ever do. Me if I was in your shoes I would have told the wife if still aleepig around with other get ride of his sorry pathetic piece of a body. He isn't worth your time and engery even when you have kids. They need to know it's not cool to do that people at all when you love someone they are the only person in the world you want to be with and if they don't want to be with you they should tell you instead of cause more harm and hurt by lying.
@micatolentino (66)
• Philippines
9 Feb 12
If you started out being the other woman why would he one day wake up and make you his wife? No need, you've already been used.It's never cute or cool being the sideline hoe,mistress or other woman.No woman should ever be content with being the 'other woman'. You really need to start wanting more for yourselves.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Feb 12
Some one like the power of taking men away from other women. I never said I was one of those women. I would never be with a men that wants to be with other women. I don't like that if I'm with some its me and me alone if they wants to be with someone else that's fine but I'm not sticking around. Some women are cool with that and for some people its part of there religious believes the more women the better.
Me I don't have to worry about this. It happened to my husband's cousin she was in a relations where the guy was already married she didn't know he was married she didn't even know he was taking. He played her big time and when she found out she dumped him. She didn't want to dump him but she did because she didn't want to be like her mom and some of those women that are cool with it. She wanted to be the only one and she didn't think it was far for her to ask him to leave his wife.
