Why do some people like backfiring /backstabbing/ backfighting each other ?

I try not to do this, I don't see the point of talking behind someone's back. I think people do it because they feel the need to have an opinion on that person but they do not have the confidence or the courage to be honest to their face. Most people hate having people stabbing them in the back but they still do it themselves to others. I think that often if a group of people is talking about one person it is often very easy to find yourself pulled into it.

yes, this is very common here in our country. I am not sure this also a common behavior with other countries. Why people like backstabbing and why not confront? because- those ones who are doing backstabbing do not have any proof that they are telling the truth.

Hi! Such a people are everywhere, especially in the workplace and also in the politic. For me people who dare not confront each other face to face is a coward. They only dare to talk bad about other from their back. And these people will have their motive to do so, in the workplace, they did that so that they can climb higher and faster by stepping other head. In the politic, so that they can shows that they are stronger and able to provide the best for the people. So, in conclusion, these people do that is to attack others so that they can get benefits from there.

Because they are cowards! Scared to confront the person that they have an issue with,but low enough to do something bad behind their back!And some real low class people would add some lies to make them look better! But usually the truth comes out eventually,and as they say"what goes around comes around!"

I think that the people who are backfiring, backstabbing or backfighting are thinking about themself. Seeing the advantages when they back- firing,stabbing and/or fighting you. Iam trying to do this not even when I see a clear advantage. I don't take this advantages, because it is really mean to backstabbing people. Treat others like you wanted to be treated. If you backstabbing, they are backstabbing too.

because they seems to be graduated in this area. i don not know why they are intrested in others life why they are intrested in interfering with others life.

I do not mind people talking about me either to my face or otherwise, it is what they say that may cause me a problem. Everyone has an opinion of the other person, but to me backstabbing is deliberate and meant to do harm to the person that is being stabbed. Why they do it is primarily jealousy. It can be due to the person they are attacking having done it to them and they are being vengeful. Most people do not deal with criticism well when it comes from a supposed friend and behind our backs. I've been known to confront the person who hasn't said those things to my face, and try to get to the root of their, what is usually an ugly, opinion presented to someone else as a truth. Here is an example of backstabbing that was meant to manipulate and make the person doing it appear better than the person they were attacking. My mother went through our fairly new neighborhood, (we lived close together), and spread her opinion of my family to people who didn't know us at all. She did it deliberately to have something to talk about according to what she told me when I confronted her about it. One neighbor came to my house and expressed her sympathy to me about my husband and what she was referring to, was totally untrue. My mother hated my husband because she felt he and my children were taking attention away from her, and she wanted my undivided attention. What she did was back stabbing at its best. Her intent was to manipulate me and the neighbors. What an ugly thing for her to have done. She did this when she was alive, living on her own, in a home that I helped her acquire and even had to put my name on it with her, in order for her to own it. I doubt I'll ever understand her total motivation for doing it, and now that she has passed on, I know talking to her about it again, won't fix anything. But it did change the way I saw my mom and I still don't like the things she did, not just this time, and not just to me, but to others when she wanted to manipulate them. I think the people who back stab are spiritually sick. She actually thought what she was doing was fun! Give me a break. It made it hard for me and my family to make friends in the neighborhood, because they thought because she was my mother that surely, she was telling the truth. It almost backfired on her more than she knows and for the neighbors who become friendly and supportive of my family, they avoided her like the plague from then on. Perhaps that story will help you see the problems that back stabbing people do. And I prefer to believe they get back what they do from some unsuspected source. I know I don't like it, don't do it, and like you, don't always understand the motivation for it.

People need to feel like they have power. When a situation or person does not meet their expectations, they feel out of control. People want order. When something happens out of order, when rules are not followed, they feel that those they have deemed responsible need to be punished to keep the order.

Welcome to Mylot Carlotay! I think the reason why some people back bite is that they are too chicken to speak up and be as blunt to the one that they are attacking. These people are losers.

I think that they feel a low opinion of themselves. Therefore, they are going to really have to destroy someone or their reputation right behind their back. Naturally it is not something that is right. However, there are just times where people are really going to really decide to talk behind the back of others for this reasons. There are a lot of people who spread lies and let's face it, it is going to not be the easiest thing to prove or disprove. In fact, times exist where the burden of proof rests with you and you alone. It is a rather frustrating existence to live with for sure, and one that does sadden me when it does occur, but sadly it is all too common.

Oh I know why you ask this question. I think those people just looking for something as fun and are pleased to have intrigue. Frankly, I ask myself this question. for me it is strange but this is reality and there will always be such people, we just need to keep them. interesting discussion. nice day!

I already see it as a normal thing happening in our society today. This happens usually in the family, office or school. It is very common. Some people do it for the reason out of jealousy. They are trying to put a person down if they think that person is successful and they feel they are left behind.

the reason why these people do it is because they are miserable in their own lives and like to see other people miserable too, they are not happy unless they are causing trouble, misery craves company so the only way they get attention is by causing trouble, this does backfire in peoples faces in the end and the person involved is made to look stupider than they already are, i tend to stay away from people like that, my life is much nicer without them around me

hey there, i am from the Phil. yeah backstabbing is common here, because the filipino culture doesnt really include confrontations unlike other cultures. we also have a bad attitude called crab mentality, most of us are guilty of that, i see it everyday here.

Dear carlotay123, you need to ignore people like that. You need to get those kind of people out of your life. You can't let poeple like that stress you. Some people are just unkind and that is just part of life. Some people just like to get attention and the only way they know how is to cut other people down. It makes them feel more important and they don't realize it just makes them a pathetic person. You can't change other people and can only control your own life. So it is how you react to these people that you have control over and I have learned early in life to not react badly and just ignore it because it is the only way to not stress over it. Good luck my friend and please don't let someone else's life stress out yours. Cheers and happy mylotting my friend Talk to you soon, Chris

I see alot of people do backstabbing too. Personally i believe if you dont have anything good to say dont say it. If someone try to make bad commects to me about someone else i try to point out good things about that person or turn it around by reasoning why a person acted in such a way.

Usually, they THINK they will advance themselves by knocking down someone else.

Because it is human nature. Take what you can before someone takes it from you. I do not say this is right, I don't believe in that but that is what the parents are teaching our children. What kind of world do you think we will have if this goes on? We need to teach others true friendship and working together to achieve common goals.

This happen to everyone and sometimes we never realized we are one of them. When this thing happen to me I would prefer I will not get informed or not know about it as it will be more painful to know someone is doing it to you. If I found it happen to me I will confront it with the one who start it. As being strict I really don't like hiding things or people doing something bad at the back. I will make it clear so they will not going to do it again. I am sure people are doing it because they don't like to see you doing good in all things. Envious and jealousy stuff or hey are doing it for the sake of themselves~(^^)

I think this is fairly normal behavior. The oeople talk about each other behind their back because they don't want to actually get into a confrontation with the people they talk about. This goes to gossip and the tales get bigger and bigger and by the time the person who is being talked about is really hurt by it.