If A Friend Ask You If She's Beautiful, Will you Say Yes, Even if She's Not?

I am honest with all my friends. That's because i care for them and don't want them to be wayward later on by doing some things immoral. But i have never encountered any friend who asks me if she's beautiful. Maybe because they know that i am a frank person and i would say what i have to say, though i always do it in a loving way.

I don't think she'd be much of a friend to ask you this, because I do believe that beauty is in the eye of the the beholder, it can't be measured by everyone's standards. For example, some people thing Leonardo DiCaprio is handsome, my daughter does not. Does that mean he is handsome or not? No, it means that some find him attractive and others do not. It's an opinion, not a fact..

good day mercedes2053, it is quite hard to say the truth in real life. however there is a saying goes, the truth will set you free. and if i will be in your shoe, i will try to say it slowly and rephrase the words into more refine one. so my friend will not hurt directly to the words that she will going to hear from me. and at the end of it, i will really do a thorough effort in explaining that she is my friend and i want to be really really honest to her. as i have said, i will rephrase the words and will choose the best ones to prevent her to feel the hurt. although on the other side, she might feel hurted but it is somehow normal and understandable. but, what matters most is, i have told her the truth so she can change and improved for the better. that situation really needed sometimes for us to improve ourselves. thus, we should open our minds to accept criticism. it just only depends on how to deal with those.

What a bad story of your friend it is. As a good friend, it is better for you to tell her that beauty is so subjective. She is beautiful from her mind and heart, but love can't be forced to be existed on someone's heart. Someday she will find her true love and he will love him whatever she is

Hmmmm, that's really tough my friend, and I really can relate in your situation, but good thing I'm a frank person. Usually, some of my friends especially in girls asks me, if they are beautiful or not. And I usually tell them the truth , I won't fool them or fool myself for telling that they are beautiful, were in fact they are not. . and I'm doing it because I love them .. I wan't to emphasize on them that being beautiful isn't being everything, most of the time they should be in there selves and carry their selves with confidence . That's where the true beauty comes out, ATTITUDE . :)

everyone is beautiful both inside and out, looks are not important to some people but to others it's vital that they get praise, the ones who are beautiful like this praise because they are insecure about their looks or just plain self centered and shallow, people who are not gorgeous or attractive are the ones with the real beauty, it comes from the inside, i find that the most beautiful people do not have that beauty on the inside, the ones who are visibly beautiful are mainly the ones who don't have beauty on the inside either because they are too busy looking at what they look like on the outside, look at your friend and find her beauty from within, if you tell her she is not beautiful this may hurt her feelings, so don't tell her this, be truthful with her and tell her that her beauty is on the inside and doesn't need to look beautiful on the outside

I hope I can. Such compliments should not be given insincerely, but who am I to say she is not beautiful. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. We should learn to judge people from the heart on out, and not try to compare each woman to the hollywood image that society uses to define beauty. I imagine that this woman has much more to offer a guy in a serious relationship than many of the 'younger and beautiful' women.

All women have something of beauty about them. I know. I have made a study of it over many decades! haha It is just that some women are luckier than others and have lots of beautiful points! However, it is not wise or polite to ask a friend if they are beautiful. 'Am I wonderful?', she says. Woa lady! Get real! Nobody is perfect (except me! haha) It reminds me of an old rugby song we sang in the communal bath after a match. Her lips are like petals --- bicycle pe(d)als! Her cheek are like peaches --- rugby pitches Her teeth are like stars --- they come out at night Her eyes are like pools --- cess pools Her ears are like shells --- artillary shells ... and so on So don't ask for compliments - you might get the truth!

I think we shouldn't take it seriously.someone,if he or she has a beautiful mind,is beautiful,although he or she is ugly. In addition, most people are ordinary,and they have a right to think themselves beautiful.If he or she has the mindset of being beautiful ,maybe he or she is beautiful.Here the meaning of beautiful is being pretty,smart ,beautiful,handsome,etc.

I will just tell her that she need to improve. Why lie when she is really not as beautiful as she though? But sometime, telling the truth may hurt her feeling even though she knew that she is not beautiful, but she just want someone to tell her that she is beautiful. I have this friend who look a bit out without makeup, so there was once she asked me if she is beautiful, so I told her that she need to put some make up and in that way she will look much nicer and prettier. So, she did what I told her and unexpectedly, after makeup, she really look very much nicer and prettier. Now she is more confident than before, and she always thanks me for telling her the truth.

if she needs to ask you if she is beautiful then she must be very insecure, but it also sounds like she believes that physical perfection is the only thing that attracts men, which is very sad. maybe someone taught her that when she was young and she has just spent so long trying to be physically perfect and forgot the being nice bit. i have known a few arrogant people who underneath are very insecure, and i think they get very competitive and can also be very critical, and maintain their self esteem by finding faults in other people. it sounds to me like she needs a paid therapist more than a friend, but my advice would be to see if you can think of any successful relationship you know of where the woman is not physically very attractive but is so nice that the man obviously loves her, and show that to her as an example of a good relationship, and maybe she will get the message, though i suspect it is not one she would want to hear.

Uhmmm well, I also lied when a friend who isn't pretty asked me if she is beautiful. 'Though I would tell myself, there is no ugly person in this world. Some people might think someone is ugly because of how s/he looks, but if you will get to know her character you would learn s/he is pretty. But you said her character's not - so she has a different case I have a friend who chase after good looking guys too. I have tried so many times to hook her up to guy friends. But no one seems interested on her. I don't find her ugly - I like her eyes and she has this nice and curly eyelashes. She is also nice, humorous and have a good profession. But guys don't find her attractive. And even the one she really likes only becomes her good friend but not a boyfriend. I just try to boost her morale like what you do to your friend and tell her she'd find who will love her soon.

It is really hard to say, but sometimes you can't say yes. But even you say they are beautiful, they don't believe you. But sometimes you must say it in a nice way. Just don't say you are ugly!

I feel your friend asking you this on more than one occasion is strange and putting you on the spot. Did she not believe your answer the first time or is she just one of those people who don`t listen well? Either way, you can still be a good friend to her without being placed in the role of self-esteem booster. I agree with the others that beauty is subjective, that some people prize conventional beauty more than others and that ultimately it shouldn`t matter. But in our society people do place a high importance on appearance and it sounds like your friend is included. I personally see a link between someone feeling unattractive and going for partners they think are out of their dating bracket. Unfortunately, some people are so used to rejection they seek it out, which gives them the feeling of "going for it" along with the taste of rejection and failure they take too personally. I would tell her she is beautiful to you (if that is true) and help her to work on the real confidence she`ll need to meet a man with that same virtue.

I understand completely. You are caught in a situation where you do not want to hurt your feelings of your friend, so you need to lie is a lie is a noble though. but you know that sometimes I get my hands is to tell the truth of man does not become a problem and then say you lied to me you are my friend. so you just have to decide yourself. success. nice day! interesting discussion.