Do you have a problem reconciling with your past?

Hi Pose: Thanks. These are really wise words. I must admit that some years ago I had difficulties to reconcile with my past. It's not that I have made big mistakes that have changed my life in a negative way but even with that I have to say that I am a very perfectionist person and that was bad because we need to have the right to be wrong and even if we always make some mistakes they are part of our learning. I feel now more conscious about that and this makes me happier. ALVARO

hey i have some incidents from past and i am still unable to judge what will i do either reconcile or move on? during the past one year i have been thinking about my ex girlfriend, as things did not work between us so we moved on, but still some where my minds things about her occassionaly, i do not know what is that love or some thing. may i have to reconcile or just move on. what she is thinking? does she is thinking the same way as i am thinking. so many question are bursting my mind and i am still thinking what next?

Sadly, I am still in therapy coming to terms with my past, I have long term therapy which has been ongoing since 2008, mainly caused by the abusive relationships which lasted 9 years. Both relationships have left a legacy which unfortunately is negative, I don't trust anyone, I prefer my own company and I don't like being around people. When I look back to the person I was to the person I am now I feel sad. I know you cannot change the past, I have had closure, closure on the relationships and I have no contact with either of them, but it's how they left me that is the problem and why I have a real problem reconciling with my past and letting it truly go. I have a lot of baggage and until I get rid of that, if I ever get rid of that, I cannot involve myself with anyone, friend or otherwise. But I have vowed to myself that I will never ever get into another relationship again. One valuable lesson I have learnt from my past is NEVER to take freedom for granted.

I used to. Not anymore. Other than traumatic events happened in my childhood, I had reconciled with everything else. My brain did what it could, suppressing traumatic memories but the more I do inner work, the more they come to me either in dreams or clear memory. It was huge shock, I have to talk to experts to help me deal with them and I also get rid of unsupportive, judgmental people from my life as they are nothing but clutters.

I think closure is very important especially at the point of ending a relationship. Only then can I say that I'll have no regrets whatsoever in the future and it helps me be more confident with the decisions I've made in the past.

hmmm.. Honestly I do have some problems before, but now all the pains are gone because of Time, so right now, it ain't a problem anymore :)

This is so true...but actually doing it might be harder then it sounds. I for one have a hard time letting go...of people I have loved...situations that I haven't exactly done the right thing.....or things I have said. But if we could all do this our whole world would be more peaceful. Great advice for all of us!

Mt parents were farmers, and my Mother taught school. They were religious people and good parents, but the 'Religious Faith' did not do it for me, and I opted out at age 23. I found Yoga, and Meditation, and a new door was opened when I learned to 'look within.' Looking back now, I have no complaints and am very healthy, happy, and ready for whatever my future brings.

Funny you should bring this up. I do tapping, to help control pain and deal with emotional issues. Yesterday I tried a new series dealing with parents, at my age you wouldn't think I would have much left over from my parents, but response I got was so strong it was like an electric shock. I guess we are never to old to need to clear childhood emotions.

Hi Pse! I guess it depends on which day you ask me if I have problems reconciling with my past. Part of me is fine with everything in my past and part of me feels I made some horrible mistakes. I feel a great sense of loss, Pose. I feel like I lost so much in my life that I will never get back. I've had to kind of forget the losses and just keep moving forward. If I spend too much time thinking about the losses it makes me sad so I really try to live in the moment. I don't think I've reconciled. I've just accepted that there are things I can't change.