I like a girl, but Iam to shy? what to do?

Hi Flux, I'm so much older but I remember being young and while I might have been attracted to the "cool" guys that all the girls wanted, the guy that had the guts to actually approach me and ask me out always grabbed my attention. I would not suggest telling her you "love her" because that's a bit extreme but by all means, ask her out. If she says "no" well then you know that it wasn't meant to be. but who knows...maybe..just maybe she will say "yes." If she says "yes", still don't jump to conclusions...still not love but a possibility. Another thing I have to say is that when I was young, there were several guys in my classes that I had crushes on. I would have been in heaven had one of them asked me out!!! Now, years later, I run into some of these guys. They are more mature and so am I. They confess that they had a crush on me and were afraid to ask!! I had no idea. I just assumed they weren't interested. Ask her out and see where it leads knowing that it may not go anywhere but who knows...maybe it will. Good luck!

There is one very important thing you must know. Telling her you love her will not change the way she feels about you. Far more important is the fact she needs to get to know you much better. It is quite possible that once she really gets to know you she will then see that you are indeed for her. But you must be able to get her attention and the best way to do that is to become a good friend. Being shy complicates everything as you well know because it will cause you to hold back when you need to do just the opposite. You say you have less trouble with email or texting. If that is true then that is how you must let her get to know you better. The more of a friend you are to her the better chance you have of having her as your girl friend. You may feel like you love her but you must control that so as not to scare her off. That can happen if you push it too hard. Forget about all the other groups and simply try your best to communicate with her as you would any good friend. You must do that first before it can go anywhere else.

Oh hhhhmmmmmmmmmm..I think you are first time to say that....Well,just wait i think practice on your own to say i love you many times ..And later yo do it hahahha

You will know that she cares for you too from how she talks to you or when she's with you. Just be honest with her of what you feel for her. But first try to ask her if there is anyone she likes, a crush or someting... she might not tell you if that's you but at least it will somehow be one of the ways for you to get to know if she'll open up with you... it may be you or not.. but at least you will know it. If you had the guts, it's better to tell her that you like her. Who knows she might like you too.

Just be youself and do not say I love you directly.In the absence of psychological preperation of the case.she would not accept you.You have to suggest her by doing another thing such as to go to the cinema together to see a move about love.

You can just approach her, dont put some plan or gimmick to use. Its alot better and easier when you just go for it, just make sure its not during class just incase you say or do something embarrassing. Just say you want to talk to her, say shes cute or pretty then ask her if she would like to do something, you figure out what, like going to the movies. Then go from there, good luck is all I can say.

Remove that shyness my friend, it will get you nowhere with her. Just be yourself and please do not tell her i love you right away lol she will run away from you. Just plainly talk to her..find out what she likes..and what she does not like..and work your way to being friends with her and maybe later on you will be able to ask her out..goodluck!

So, you two are friends ,and you two talk to each other all the time. That just about solves the problem mate. All you have to do is hang out together and spend some time together (i.e not online or texting) and when the time comes you'll have the guts to say the words. Good luck.

I thought it would be easier for you to say what you feel for her, since you've said that you belong in the same group. But the problem is, your shyness stops you from telling that you care for her. Maybe, you could start by befriending her first. Time will come, that you will be at ease to tell her the truth. Good luck my friend.

See if you like her,you should tell her that.Do not start "i love you" she might just get creeped..because many girls tend to think it just might ruin the friendship.So just be normal and keep it casual and occasionally compliment her...and if she is into u ..she'll let you know.Cheers and good luck :)

I was very shy when all started and having a crush on someone is the best way for you to fight being shy. It is cute but if it is too much and you want to change, there will be no better chance because we do anything to impress the person holding our heart. So what you must do is really, try to talk to her, try to be friends, there's no other way as she won't even notice you if she doesn't know you. But remember to never change because of someone. Let her be the inspiration to you to fight shyness but remain yourself, become more open as much as you want, if she doesn't see you she doesn't deserve you.

It's just my opinion but isn't it too early to say that you love her? It is okay to befriend her first before that and get to know each other. Try to talk to her in a casual way and ask her about her group and what they're going to do, stuff like that. If you get the feeling that she's friendly with you, then you can ask her out some time.

Hi there FluxNL!! I think you should tell it to her now.Ask her if you could talk for a while and find a good place for you to confess.Be sure to clearly tell her of what your intentions are and how you really feel. Of course prepare yourself too if you don't get the answer that you've been hoping for.And if she doesn't feel the same thing about you just accept it and show her that your man enough to accept rejections.

Do you have some other good friend? that friend of yours can convey your feelings to her. or just wait for one month more its january now next month we are having VALENTINES DAY(14 feb) that will be a nice day to express your feelings just get a red rose on that day and give her...she will understand everything...i hope soo.. till then BEST OF LUCK

Actually, you can court a girl without first saying "i love you" to her. You can either first give her some flowers with a card that says you are in love with her. Then, of course she knows your cellphone no. so she would say thank you for it. Take that as an opportunity to ask if she feels the same way with you. That way, you will know if she also shares the same feeling.

If you talk with her often you perhaps know what she likes. Perhaps you could get her a gift or flowers and have it sent to her with a note telling her how you feel. Most girls would like things like that. And if she doesn't like you that way she will still be nice to you and consider you a great friend. And she will think you are sweet for getting her a gift. I hope it works out good for you. Keep me posted on how it turns out.

Never say the LOVE word unless you've been dating for a long time. You could try saying that you like her instead but say it in a laughing way and not the romantic way since it'll definitely cause awkwardness if she doesn't accept what you said. After saying that you like her just continue what you have been doing before and try to be close to her little by little.

Falling in love is something u invent new. So it would be best to visit her when she is alone in college cafeteria and say u r interest over her and explain her and show her how much u care for her by u r words and actions. Surely u will pass in the test.

Hey Fluxnl!.. Don't be a shy, this is not disease. it can be overcome with your confident and good attitude. I hope that you ill definetly propose her and u ill lead your life with happily one day. This is not advice for your, Don't belived other word and idea for you love, pls decide yourself,every human being having power of selecting their own life that they likes her made it. So, do it as you own, your mind will guide you in correct way of life without making wrong in that..., So follow your mind and they ill do it for you.............

hey dude! wazzup! just follow what your heart is saying, and be true to your self. showing your deeper sincerity, love and affection are the best way to conquer her heart. just be confident enough to tell all your feelings for her,don't be afraid go for it!goodluck!!!!:)