how will children open up to their parents?

Pretty much the same with me. I have never really opened up to my parents specially on personal stuff and I do think that I must take this into account when I become a parent myself. I want my children-to-be to be as closed to me as their friends-to-be. I don't really regret my situation though, it's good. I just wish it was better.

No I wasn't open about personal things with my parents either, I think that sort of thing has to be started by the parents when the children are very young so they grow up knowing they can go to their parents about anything..

My kids talk to me about pretty much everything. Sometimes more than I really want to know. I guess because I'm also open with them so they feel they can do the same.

As a child i never was open with my parents. That's because my parents are conservative and strict. That's why , now that i am a mother, i let my child feel that she can open up to me about anything. So there , my daughter always opens up to me, about her boyfriend, her studies and her feelings. I am here to advise her and suggest . But i don't impose , unless i know that it's not good for her. But to her father, she's not that open though in some aspects specially about her boyfriend.

i think we have to think from the opposite side. why dont parent try to get closer to their children. parents often blame kids when the later make mistakes, but dont parent blame theirselves, why the dont control and care their kids. people are egoist, think tht others are wrong, and his/himself is right

As a child, i am open to my parents. They know my difficulties at school, my crushes, my friends issue, knows a lot about my sport and more. But as a person, I am not that open. i hesitate talking about how i feel - whether I am touched by you or I feel so much sadness (even to my parents) One thing I know is that children that are open to their parents have their strong and close bond with them. When you treat your kids as if you are just one fo their pals then they will be open and trust you. But when you act like you are such a pure disciplinarian, do not expect that you will hear anything that is personal from them. If someday I will be a mother, i would like my child to be open to me. In that way, I will be able to guide him or her all through out his or her decision making.

hi bjcelyn I was the same way in my late teens and early twenties but only with my dad, I could tell my mom anything and was very close to her always. My dad was stern and much older than my mom. we nev er did get close. He was a hypocrite and a bigot. I disliked him but I respected because he was my father. He never wanted to be close to me which was okay with me. I am elderly now myself and still view him as a mean hearted sour embittered man who never should have marrief my mom,it was a bad marriage but they stuck it out,guess they liked to fight all the time.

Parents should treat their children like adults and not try to baby them. Parents should be close to their children emotionally and should gain their trust. This way children won't have second thoughts about telling you about matters that concern them.

I have been where you are now. I have never been able to talk with my parents. My parents were never understanding about things I was going through. Anything I told them they would get mad. So, I chose to talk with my aunts who I was close with. I was too scared to speak to my parents and I hated it! I wanted to be able to talk with them but I just couldn't. Even now, it is not easy for me to speak to them about anything personal, not that I am afraid of them anymore but I just don't want to hear their negative comments... I hope when my children get older they will feel comfortable talking with me because I never want them to feel the way I felt when I was younger. I will be their parent but they will know I am here for them to talk to whenever they need to.

Hi! I can understand why it's not always easy to approach your parents about some topics but do try to. Perhaps you can try a few at a time? See if the timing is right and let them know you really need to talk about something. Where to start? Are you into any crafts? Perhaps you can get their opinions about materials; what works with what and the experiences they had. Is there a film era they particularly like? Try watching a film with them or one of their preferred film stars and talk about it. Do they walk at the park? Try walking with them. Sometimes this way can help to break the ice and make it easier to discuss other (and more sensitive) topics for both parties. Go slow and you may get somewhere. the other reason why I am saying all this is when they go, you'll spare yourself a lot of agony; the "if only I had said this" or "If only I had done that.", etc. When my grandmother went, I was forever asking why I didn't do this or that better so when my Dad was sick for the last time, we resolved a lot of problems we had and I feel better for it. Give it time and lots of luck!

Eversice i am so close to my father.I always tell him anything that is happening to me.He knows who my first crush is and how did i fall for my husband :-) It is because i grow up with him around.Unlike my mother who works in the market before,she will go out of our house at five am and be back by8 pm. While my father owns his time because she works at home. My husband is not close to both her mother and father because while his mother works abroad his father is with other woman :-D Presence is what my husband and i agrees to make our little angel get close to us.We want her to tell us anything that is happening to her because we already know how it feels to live without having your parents close to us.And we don't want her to experience what we had. And also we always ask her about her everyday happenings like schooling and playing with friends.And i think in that aspect i can say that my husband and i are doing a great job. Anybody who sees us always say,we don't look like mother and daughter.We are more like best of friends. we also don't always talk like mother and daughter :-D

Very beautiful Topic my friend... I would proudly say that I am the luckiest daughter, because the religion and the culture that my parents follow its like not even 0.1% chance to get so close to parents and talk to them about anything and everything. But my parents are really angels they gave me and my brother such beautiful teachings that we could talk to them about all our worries, sorrows and happiness. I was shy to talk to my father, after all being a girl I had lots of issues that I could only talk to my mother too but eventually my father would know about them too and he always supported and guided me. I think its up to the parents how they raise their children, do they instill fear in them, or they win their hearts by showing them that they trust them with anything and everything. That their children will choose right over wrong and never cross the line that my parents have set up. So when I become a mother some day, I will surely follow the footsteps of my mother and father. Because they did so, my brother and I have always found courage to do the best and be very successful in our lives. Yes, we did make some wrong decisions but the beauty of that our parents never walked away from us, they stood right beside us saying "We will love you no matter what happens". These are the words, that will always guide me through all my life, wherever I am!!

There are huge number of children that secret his personal things to himself/herself. but at the age of adolescent they become understand the entire situation and make them adjust into the whole condition and speak freely with their parents when they are not be able to control or face the situation.