Life decisions
By elitess
@elitess (5070)
Ipswich, England
January 5, 2012 5:10am CST
Well I have finished my master's degree last summer and have been unemployed ever since. I have volunteered for WWF (World Wide Fund for Nature) Romania starting with October, and remote volunteered with promoting for some American NGO's, but other then that I was not able to get employed. Well maybe I could get a job "selling food" but that would be minimum wage and crappy job and I don't think I spent 5 years in college for bachelor's and master's degree to end up working for 150 euros ( 120 pounds) per month, when rent averages from 400 to 1000 euros or more (350 - 850 pounds).
Well I am thinking of going for "au pair" program in the UK, the country where me and my girlfriend want to move. My girlfriend is finishing her master's degree this year and she is still stuck here until then. That would however mean that I would have to work for 1 year at a family, with only 2 weeks of free vacation time, time in which I will be able to see my girlfriend. While we would be able to talk via internet (most probably) we would be apart for a long time and I don't want things to cool off. Oh forgot to mention, I would have to work for a whole year because you can't get the work card (blue) otherwise.
So have you ever made decisions that would affect your whole life ? Do you have any advice on what I am facing ?
Have a great day at mylot.
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3 responses
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
27 Mar 12
Personally when it comes to something like this, this would be a hard decision and I am sure by now you have thought more about this, and maybe even talked it over, and decided what would be Best for you. This type of situation is often happening for people all over the world. Go to college, get a degree, and then Good Luck finding a job. There are people doing way less than what they trained for just to have money. So hopefully now things have improved, and if you're a Praying person, pray about it and let God be in control.
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@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
29 Mar 12
Hello Tina.
Yes since I started this discussion we have learned some new information - like since we will go there married, one will be a student the other will get the blue card and be able to be a full time worker. Point is that even bad paid jobs there are good enough to live from (unlike here).
Thanks for your prayers !
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
5 Jan 12
First, a job at 150 euros is 150 euros you would not have if you didn't take the job. Nothing is beneath you if it is honest work! Besides, it would help support you until you find a job that makes use of your education. It will give you time to look for a better job while maintaining your relationship with the woman you love.
If you take the au pair job you will be little better than a servant at low wages and will endure months away from your girlfriend. You will have to take care of children of the privileged who are indulged in their every whim, usually, which means temper tantrums, your employer being angry with you and little time off--I have heard that an au pair lives in the house with the family and you'll never be away from your work! Even if the kids are decent it's essentially an all day job with little adult interaction. I think you can do better than this!
I hope you'll stay close to home and take any job that pays while you look and wait for the one that is more appropriate for you and nurture your relationship with your girlfriend. Good luck whatever you decide!
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@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
5 Jan 12
Hello my dear dragon. The idea is that to be able to move to the UK we have to first work for 1 year with a paid contract from Romania before being able to work there (getting the blue card for work). Another alternative would be that one of us would go to college there (which is not cheap at all) for 1 year and have the yellow card (for part time work) while the other would be self employed (and probably do day jobs or something).
The idea is that the salaries here are very VERY bad and I don't want to work all my life to be able to pay for a credit for a house... and not be able to do almost anything that I like because of lack of money.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
20 Oct 12
Hello elitess. There are so many decisions for us to make in our life each step we take when facing it. As for me, I am not an exception. While having worked for so many years in my first school, I made up my mind to move on to another school in another city, which is so far away from my hometown. Now I have been working here for many years and I have never regretted my choice or decision back to then. Life goes on. So long as we have made our life decisions, there is no way back, but move on and on. Enjoy your life and work, elitess.
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