Bad word
By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
January 5, 2012 7:21am CST
Has a "bad word" ever slipped from your little one's mouth? What did you do?
I like to think I still have time before I hear a bad word come from my little girls she really can't talk yet out side of a few words since she is almost a year. This question came across me a few days ago as I was on Facebook read other moms comments about there little on and the main site as this question. I couldn't answer since my child is too little. So I now as you the question what did you do when it happened?
We also try to be care what words we use around my child because you can never tell what kids are and arent listening too.
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12 responses
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
6 Jan 12
I think the first time we heard a bad word we did nothing, we basically ignored it. Sometimes the more you make of it, the more curious they are with the word.
If we heard the word again then it was time to let them know it was a bad word. Your little one is around one right. Well I would say within a year or so you will start hearing words from her that she hears from others.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
7 Jan 12
I was a stay at home Mom too. It sounds like you don't really need any advice as you seem to have all of the right answers. You will do fine.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 12
I was a teacher before I was a mom so many of the things I leanred I use as a parent now. It also helped taking care of my nephew for 3 years.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Jan 12
She isn't around others that much. She is with me always part of being a stay at home mom it means it's hard for others to be around us. I would explain the first time to my child depending on the age and there understanding that what that word means and that it is a bad word and how it hurts people's feelings.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
I haven't heard our daughter who is now 21 years old, utter a bad word since she was a kid.
I think it's because we don't utter such bad words where our child could hear us, when she was a kid.
So, now when she hears me utter a bad word out of surprise, she would say "Mama!" . I would say, " sorry, i was surprised" !
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Well, at least i haven't heard her say a bad word ever.
But in my observation, most people only gets to say bad words, if they are soooo angry.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 12
Just because she didn't hear you say then doesn't mean she didn't hear them from other people. Like friends other family members and tv. I never said a bad word infrint of my parents till I was 18 they can't tell me what say then. That if we said it they would have dine anything. Some bad words aren't that bad depending on how it's used.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
Whatever we say and do in front of our children will always make a big impact on them. In most cases what we are, are what are children. So if we want them to grow into a good children we want them to be let us be good. We are like a book that they read and follow.
Even if they hear and see bad things around them, for as long as their own home is filled with good testimonies they will remain good. We are the strongest influence in their lives. Let us train them in the right way and we can be sure that even when they grow old they will not not depart from it.
Sometimes our child can pick up bad words from playmates. But we can always correct them. We can always tell them..."Look my child, I and my Dad do not speak bad words because God will not be pleased. It is bad so don't speak bad words either. If your playmates are saying bad words, tell them it is not good." See how this child of yours will become a good testimony to other children.
I'm am speaking through experience here.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Jan 12
Okay but that didn't say anything about when your child has used a bad word how you felt with it. At least to me when I read your post it said another about if you have your kids and how you felt with it when of if they had used a bad word. God doesn't care what you say to whom you say. Bad words have meanings behind them that is it and those words can hurt even though we teach that words do not they do. I also do t use the word train it always makes me think of other parents see there kids as an animal and not a person.
@hiphopkid (38)
• Canada
6 Jan 12
My little sister once said the 'D' word after she heard me playing video games. So I quickly laughed and never said it again and so she forgot. But I also told her that you shouldn't say that and it's a really bad word. I haven't heard her say it since,
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Jan 12
Dame it isn't a bad word either is dumb but saying dumb can be hurtful depending on how it's said. F@ck is a bad word cause you can use it here at all. I'm sure your sister will know those words as she gets old. Nut the discusstion is on your own kids not your siblings.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
6 Jan 12
Lol when I was younger I used to say a few bad words that I learned from my cousin...one day I even used them in preschool. Every time I used them my mom would put soap in my mouth and tell me not to say that word. I think eventually I stopped using them lol.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Jan 12
The discusstion is on your own kids saying a bad word and what you did about it?
Don't us soap because it can be position when eaten.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
16 Jan 12
Thanks for the post beit you didn't answer the question which was has your child said a bad word and when they did what did you do?
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
5 Jan 12
I think the youngest I heard my kids say anything was around 2. I was playing a game on the computer and didn't realize she was near. I lost and I smacked the desk and said damn it. Next thing I know she was smacking it and saying the same thing. I just told her no but she wasn't really old enough to understand. One day we were in the car and heard a noise and from the back I hear "What the hell was that?" lol. She was old enough to understand so we explained to her that wasn't a word she should be saying. At least she never said anything bad. It's so hard now, even if you watch what you say in front of your kids, there is so much more allowed on tv now they hear it anyway.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Jan 12
Dame it and he'll aren't bad words at all in my book. If you can say it only here on mylot with out having to change the latter in the word so you don't get into trouble then it's not a bad word at all. The f word is a bad word that can hurt people's feeling hell and dame it can't. Yes of course regardless if the parents say the words or not there kids will hear it from some where nut the parents are still a role modle and by showing you dont use those words is showing them how to act as an adult. Kids will hear things no matter where they are at and parents can pick shows and movies that don't have bad words. Parental control most l show there rating before they start these days.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
5 Jan 12
That depends on your concept of a "bad word". If you mean cussing, when I speak my native language, I use them all the time. It's pretty common in my home country, and I see nothing wrong about using them. They're "bad words" just because of society rules, but that doesn't mean they're genuinely bad.
When I speak in a foreign language, it depends. In the country where I live, there are almost no "bad" words, so it's difficult to use them even if you want to.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Jan 12
A bad word is a bad word in any toung and the discusstion is on your kids saying a bad word what did you do about it? Read closely before posting an answer to a discusstion.
@aleic27 (161)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
I never said a single bad word in front of my kid, maybe because my parents never taught me those words and say those words. And, I also said to the father and the relatives not to also say those words. But yes, as a parent you must watch your words because he can imitate it without knowing what it really means.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Jan 12
Well I guess that means your kids havent said a bad word in front of you. I never said a bad word in front of my parents till I was 18 and then they couldn't say anything to me but it wasn't anything to bad. Just because the parents and people you know closely don't say bad words around your kids doenst mean they don't know them or haven't heard then before. I know if my daughter said any bad words I would explain in a nice way why they are bad and only a say them and they shouldn't be said at all or you will be in very bad thing.
@jaihobalodiji1 (949)
• India
5 Jan 12
so many times, so many abusive langauge has been slipped out from my mouth, i do not really want to use them, they just come by default. it may seems that they are some kinds of words which my throat has adopted and they are all ready to flow out. however in front of elders one i have managed to control them but i still need patience to control them in front of everyone specially the friends.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Jan 12
I dont think you read the discusstion closely it's about your child or children saying a bad word and how you felt with it?
@shiesse (306)
• Canada
5 Jan 12
My 7 year old son has said a bad word before. His grandfather swears quite a bit, we tell him to watch his language all the time around the children but he never remembers. He doesn't do it on purpose it's just his nature. but my son picked up one of his words. My husband and I sat him down and explained to him that the meaning of the word he was saying was very mean and what bullies would usr. My son is very anti bully so he dropped the word because he would never want anyone to think that he is a bully
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Jan 12
Yeah I would explain what it means as well. My daughter Is almost a year so shell say what ever it is that's easy to say. Half of the time kids don't understand what it means when they hear it and even more when they say it and how it's said can be evey hurtful.
@macanan (153)
• Indonesia
5 Jan 12
yes i ever slip of tounge and said something nasty from my moth. i am a teacher and i have to contro my mind and my speech. so, remembering what i want di express is very improtant. i ofetn hear educated people and have good life experience, but they often say something bad.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Jan 12
Life experiences have nothing to do with when or how someone will use words. Everyone uses them it's choices when. But the discussion is on your own kids and when they said a bad word and what you did about it?