What Will You Do If You See Your GF/BF Dating Another Man or Woman?
By Mercedes
@mercedes2053 (136)
Davao, Philippines
January 5, 2012 7:33am CST
I had once experienced such awkward scenario. Of all places, I didn't expect that I'd see my boyfriend happily dating another woman, and they were eating in one of the fast food chains of a big Shopping Mall in the heart of the city. They didn't see me, but I saw them with my two big eyes, which at this moment were already flaming blue hot flames of intense rage and jealousy. Fortunately, I have with me my two lady friends who really advised me to keep cool and not to make a scandalous scene.It's good I brought with me my camera. I let one of my friends take pictures of them...so that my ex-boyfriend could not deny...The following day, my boyfriend dropped by at the office I was working to fetch me. I was pretending nice to him.It was only when we reached my parents' home that I opened up to him what I saw yesterday at the mall. He denied as expected, but when I showed him their pictures...he stammered looking for the right alibi. I broke up with my boyfriend. He said that it was me he loved, but how can I be sure that he didn't say same words to that other girl? Yeah, it hurt so badly. My heart was broken and my world crushed to pieces. That time, I really said to myself, it's no joke to be brokenhearted. But I've got to pick up the broken pieces, and have to move on...In your case, if this happens or have already happened...What will/would you do if you see your GF/BF dating another man or woman?
6 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
I experienced the same too, when i was still single. My boyfriend passed by with a girl and his arms are on his shoulders. He didn't see me because i am a bit inside the store where my friends are buying something.
I had my friends look at them too. I just kept my cool, but i felt like crying. As we were walking home, my knees suddenly weakened and i dropped to my knees. My friends helped me up and comforted me. 
I broke up with him, the next day when he came to our dorm. I told him about it, and he was silent. 
I think when a guy doesn't woo you anymore after the break-up, it means he is fine with the other girl.
I broke up with him, the next day when he came to our dorm. I told him about it, and he was silent.
I think when a guy doesn't woo you anymore after the break-up, it means he is fine with the other girl. 
@chillpill90 (1936)
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6 Jan 12
to quote what you said " when I was still single" Then you mention a boyfriend, If you are single you do not have a boyfriend. So how could you break up with the guy if your single?
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Sorry about that. What i am trying to say is when i wasn''t married yet and in a gf-bf relationship. 
@CoolSuave (1)
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6 Jan 12
Honestly, if he was out in a big shopping mall with this other female, where everyone else could see them together, I wouldn't think you'd have anything to worry about.
Lets say if he would want to see someone else and keep it a secret from you. He probably wouldn't expose any other relationships to the public like that.
Also, he's a guy. I'm not saying all guys are this way, but if I were out with one of my female friends and my girlfriend didn't know about it, I wouldn't want to bring it up or get into any confrontations with her and another woman. But then again, thats how I am.
Try giving him a chance to clear it up? Getting caught in a lie, might bring the truth out eventually.
@chillpill90 (1936)
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5 Jan 12
To me it seems like your over reacting, you say you saw them dating but all you say here is that you saw them having a meal together. Your now ex boyfriend could have been having a meal with a friend did you not consider that? I mean if he saw you having a meal with a male and then it turned out that the guy you had a meal with was a friend how would you react?
Maybe he struggled to get the right alibi out as he hadnt done anything wrong so didnt see why you had taken pictures off him.
If you had seen him kissing the other girl I would get why you would be mad, but all you saw them doing was eating together.
It sounds like your insecure and do not want this poor guy to be able to go out with his friends and have meals with friends sounds like you want to be with him all the time and dont want him spending time with his friends.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
5 Jan 12
This has never happened to me but I would surely be extremely raged and would never forgive him for the rest of my life. I mean love is not a joke and no one has the right to go around playing with other's hearts. If I came to know my boyfriend was cheating while in a relationship with me, I will not hesitate to go there and slap him in the face. Love is not a joke and people should respect other people's feelings!
@ganesan_t (13)
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5 Jan 12
I didn't experience like this one in my life before, But if I saw like this, then my angry goes up extreme level in world. Any way i controlle myself in suitation. i don't want lose my control at cost.... After that incident i won't like to contine this relation after that, i ill compromised my self, and say like she will lose one good relation in the world. she won't get back it at any time........ this is my own option.....
