stressed to the max!!!
@AlexJordan1231 (48)
United States
January 5, 2012 8:45pm CST
I just dont know what to do anymore. I dont think I could be any more stressed. I know things could be worse and other people have it worse off than me but I feel like right now, this is as worse as it can get. I have no money to my name and I have to go to work until the 13th of January. Even when I get my paycheck, its completely gone. I am down to one pack of hotdogs and 3 pieces of bread, and 1/4 cup of milk. I have never gotten this low. My car insurance is about to be cancelled, rent is one month behind and so is the water and power. To top all of that off, I have a title loan, payday loan, and financial loan that I had taken out to help pay the bills before. I am in danger of losing my car and having my paycheck garnished because I cant pay these bills either. This situation I have found myself in is all because my husband decided he needed to quit his job when I was 7 months pregnant. Although I am hungry most days, I am proud to say I have WIC because if I didnt, my son would be hungry too. I have applied for food stamps but according to the government, "I make too much money" Which frankly, I find hilarious because I don't even have enough left over from the bills I do pay to even buy groceries. What's a girl to do? I am literally at my wits end. I cant take it anymore. I want so bad to just give up on it all and if it wasnt for my son, I would. I am really, really, really just tired of fighting it all. Lord please help me before I reach my stupidity point......
2 responses
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
So what does your husband do to help you, my friend? You should tell him about your predicament, because as the head of the household, he should have been the main breadwinner. 
@AlexJordan1231 (48)
• United States
6 Jan 12
after he quit work when i was 7 months pregnant, he didnt do anything, i mean nothing at all. I work the night shift and would come home and wash dishes and tidy up around the house. I had to go back to work 3 weeks after a csection and he acted like he didnt even care. if he wanted to quit then he should have waited until we saved a little money. now, he just watches my son for about 3 hours while i sleep during the day and then i am up the rest of the day playing with him. my son sleeps straight through the night but gets up before i get home so most of the time my husband will feed him a bottle and when i get home from working all night (exhausted no less) he decides he is tired and has to go back to bed, not to mention the fact that whenever his parents can keep my son, they do just to give him a "break" but on my days off, i take care of my son and the house and the meals and i NEVER get a break. I dont believe in divorce so I have really tried to hold the family together but it is really difficult when i do 90 % of everything. idk :(
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
My friend, you're really at the losing end here, if you won't talk with your husband about your present situation.
Imagine having to work for the provision of the family, and come home tired yet you atill have to do the things at home.
It would have been okay if a husband doesn't work, because he has done all he can to apply but to no avail, but he really should do the things at home, so that when you come home from work, you can take a rest and "help" in other things .
It takes courage to tell our husband that, but it also takes a lot of a loving talk to persuade him to help you, lest you will succumb to over fatigue and stress. 
Imagine having to work for the provision of the family, and come home tired yet you atill have to do the things at home.
It would have been okay if a husband doesn't work, because he has done all he can to apply but to no avail, but he really should do the things at home, so that when you come home from work, you can take a rest and "help" in other things .
It takes courage to tell our husband that, but it also takes a lot of a loving talk to persuade him to help you, lest you will succumb to over fatigue and stress. 
@AlexJordan1231 (48)
• United States
6 Jan 12
i do trust in the Lord but the Lord also understands that my husband is ABLE to work and just doesnt. Its not fair that everything be placed on me. The Lord helps those who helps themselves. My husband always tells me "dont worry, everything will be ok" but he never helps make it ok. I always borrow the money mostly from my mom who lost her house and her husband in the tornado of april 27th. he never asks his parents for anything and he is the reason we are struggling. I work tons of overtime and i work odd jobs and once got a 2nd full time job but had to quit because i couldnt handle 2 full time jobs and no sleep. Alot of times, I go hungry just to make sure my husband is full. I am really tired of going to work hungry when I am the one making the money, it just doesnt seem fair and my husband doesnt seem to care as long as he doesnt have to do without.
