how would u control ur temper to the gossipers and back fighters in your office?

Hi Cmclairesmail, I worked in a large insurance company for years and the gossip that goes in places like that is one of the biggest things I didn't like about it. A good amount of the women were so very catty and the men were just as bad. I didn't very often join them on lunches and breaks but sometimes did. I would never join in their gossip sessions which always seemed to be about someone who wasn't there. I didn't put them down for it and I didn't add to their conversation when they were talking about someone. I knew I would be the conversation piece when I wasnt there and sometimes even when I was nearby. I just ignored them. Oh and I NEVER talked about my personal issues with any of them so whatever they had to say about me was just gossip or something too stupid to care about.

When my partner and I were starting with our relationship, we were working for the same company however, he belonged to an agency while I was occupying a position in the HR Dept. When the employees started noticing the relationship, we became the favorite topic among those who loved to gossip. The best that we have done was to ignore all the nasty talk. Soon enough all the talk just went away and everybody just accepted the relationship. While it might be irritating, fighting back will just increase the gossip but ignoring it will make all the gossip die down. Just do what you think is right and don't mind these people so you won't get upset. Company gossip is normal and you will meet this situation wherever you may choose to go.

i have had my fair share of these kinds of people in the office... even those who does fight with you face to face and would make sure that you live a living hell out of your daily work. believe me! hay its been so stressful... and will be like what they want it to be when you fight and defend yoruself more. i guess the best defense i used that worked for me is to just smile at them and not to fight, talk back or anything close to making them feel you will be sepdning time chatting with them, etc about the issue that has no basis or truth at all. and they will just stop.

If they will intentionally let me hear about it, i would confront them . I would really ask what is their problem that they keep on telling things about me. Then, i will make an incident report of it to HR.