How I had gotten out of depression a year ago . . .
By boyuancy
@boyuancy (1708)
India
January 6, 2012 2:38am CST
I was thinking about how I had gotten out of depression a year ago and I remembered exactly how. I thought it would be worth sharing with my myLot friends here.
I know almost all of you have seen Harry Potter movies, and I compare this to one of the scenes. Do you remember the scene where he is supposed to create that magical Stag to scare away the Dementors and he is asked to have an extremely strong emotional feeling? This also works that way.
So it was about 7 P.M. in the evening and it was winter, so it was very dark. I was coming back home after my exercise routine. On my was, a car stops right in front of me , and a girl peeks out. She asked me for the directions to a nearby place, which I knew very well. But I got extremely anxious, and got so scared, that I couldn't utter a word.
And then, the girl says to a guy sitting in the driver's seat "I don't think he is gonna answer us, let's just ask someone else!!!!".
That was one of the most embarrassing things I had ever faced. Although I was alone, and no one laughed at me, I seriously felt it.
So I didn't sleep that night, and thought about the incident, all night long. After I was done, I came to the decision that I seriously need to fix myself.
And so I did. I worked very hard into developing my confidence, and had almost gotten out of my shell as well as my depression. But I was hit again, by a trauma, and I got back into it.
I really hope this helps you. Good luck.
6 responses
@vandana7 (100249)
• India
6 Jan 12
I went for an interview almost 10 years ago (I am 52 now). I was called in and asked to answer something. I couldnt. The guy just wanted me to talk at random about anything under the sun to see if I really knew English. And I couldn't. We all have our moments kiddo. Even later on in our lives. But we dont stop. And we make mistakes, grave ones. Even those dont stop us. Life is about moving on I suppose. :)
@vandana7 (100249)
• India
7 Jan 12
Well you too were anxious..at least that is what you wrote. And my confidence too took a beating. In fact, there was another incident - again I had to negotiate something, just last November. I failed miserably. For a couple of days I felt so stupid, worthless, and what nots. A week later, I told me I am not going to let that hold me back. I'd so set my heart on that, and when I lost it, it did feel awful, but it took me just a week to get over it!
@periwinklez (138)
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
So what did you do to develop confidence?Can you share the details here? "cause I'm one of the persons who badly needs this. Just the other day, I and my high school classmate crossed path so I had to acknowledge her. And I just can't understand why I can't utter the words correctly and got so conscious with myself. I felt so ashamed because she was with her hubby. And I can't help but pity and keep thinking why until now I'm still that shy and inconfident person. Although there was already a slight improvement. :) Now I know why my heart feels so heavy. It's depression.
@periwinklez (138)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
I've long accepted that I'm a loser.Hahhaha! But haven't moved on completely yet. URGH! why is it so hard to develop one's self. It's sometimes excruciating. just exaggerating.hehe! Maybe you're right, just to keep on moving FORWARD and never back down.
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
6 Jan 12
Well, it was mostly trial and error on my part. I have tried everything from reading ebooks to self hypnosis.
The thing that helped me the most was maybe working out. I used to do really heavy stuff, and had reached 200 push ups a day.
Also, I confronted my deal. I accepted the fact that I was a loser, I just couldn't live in denial any more. After I had done that, there was only one was I could go - FORWARD!!!!
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
Hmmm.. That's really embarrassing. 
Well, anyway.. The good thing is that you have decided for yourself to boost up your confidence. I didn't know the reason why you haven't spoken a word. Perhaps you were star trucked by the girl who asked you the direction.. Hehehe..
Mind if you share what did you do for your self confidence to develop? I'm a bit of a shy person too and sometimes, I don't get to express what my feelings are because I don't have that courage and confidence to do so. 
Well, anyway.. The good thing is that you have decided for yourself to boost up your confidence. I didn't know the reason why you haven't spoken a word. Perhaps you were star trucked by the girl who asked you the direction.. Hehehe..
Mind if you share what did you do for your self confidence to develop? I'm a bit of a shy person too and sometimes, I don't get to express what my feelings are because I don't have that courage and confidence to do so. @boyuancy (1708)
• India
7 Jan 12
Believe me, I have and had seen better looking girls. And about the confidence part, try having an image of the 'better you' in your mind and work towards achieving it.
Like I corrected my posture, my speech, I started working out and built a pretty amazing body without ever hitting the gym, I started speaking in a low and steady tone - mature to guys and seductive to girls.
It helped me. How? The girl I used to think would never even look at me, smiled at me!!! But then, I ruined it all. But believe me, I'll be back, WITH A BANG!!!!!
@francesca5 (1344)
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6 Jan 12
that's interesting.
i have had a few experiences where i have had a negative interaction with someone that has triggered a bad response in me that is far in excess of the importance of the event.
i have come to the conclusion that it is because it triggers a memory of another situation i didn't like, when i was a lot younger, as i had a very critical mother, and so there are certain types of criticism that can completely throw me, far far more than they should.
it may be worth seeing if you can think of anything that may have happened in the past. these events, as i was reading recently, can happen in the happiest of families, you don't have to come from a dysfunctional family, to have an event that happened to you when you were very young, that causes a fearful reaction when something similar happens when you are older.
i read this in a comment recently, by someone who works in hypno-analysis, who said that we can all have frightening experiences as a child, and then when similar events happen as an adult can create irrational fears, and phobias.
trying to find out what might have frightened a small child is a good thing to clear out of your memory, as it might prevent unnecessary problems later.
@francesca5 (1344)
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6 Jan 12
yes, it did. sometimes, i think, we need to actually access our fears to be able to move on from them, so the experience of feeling so scared revealed to you what you had to change. which is good, if you can make the change.
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
6 Jan 12
I think you maybe right. I mean I have always been bad with girls, and had never had the guts to walk up to one and say 'Hi', even though I am not the worst looking guys around.
I think it killed my ego that day, and I felt desperate that I couldn't do anything about it. Glad, it triggered a positive emotion in me.
@Victoria222 (675)
• Russian Federation
6 Jan 12
Hello there.
Good decision. I like it. I'll do the same if i am in depression. Hope i won't. :)
I usually lay in bed and talk something then somebody comes to me and begi to tell, understand, give advice to me.. and so on... So i have an anger about myself and begin doing somthing... than depression goes.
@Victoria222 (675)
• Russian Federation
6 Jan 12
May be. Then I am glad that i've never been in depression. or may be i have. The problemis that i am very talkative.....
@CertainWays (15)
• United States
9 Jan 12
Hi, that did help. Just understand that they choose you. They choose because you seemed too be A trusting person. The thing that happened is what ever brought you down, got in the way of you're gain. See your energy and use it too help you. Your thing well be fixed.
