will you be embarrassed if your child not smart?

I would definitely NOT be embarassed if my child was not smart. A parent should never, ever be embarassed by their children. What if your child were disabled? Would you be embarassed?

You know, sometimes I feel that I lost my childhood time. I like to study hard (on my own way), my parents never push me too hard and they even let me play on afternoon. But still I felt something missing because I learn too hard. Yes, I understand what parents want. But not to the point that children were forced too much until they loose their childhood time. As long as your children put their effort to reach something good, then it is okay to let them decide. We as parents must guide the children through discussion and example. We can not push our children to learn, while we carelessly only watch television or browsing internet for something irrelevant to education. We want something good for our children, then we must set example from us, not from others. And lead them through nice but discipline way.

As a primary school teacher I know some children are very able and clever, some are average and some are special needs and find the school work a challenge. Others can be normal but below average. Young boys don't like writing and can be a bit lazy with spellings and learning how to read. Some kids are hardworking and others are lazy so can't be bothered. My oldest son is sixteen years old. When he was at nursery school he acted younger than his age. He didn't want to paint pictures. Though a year later he couldn't stop drawing and painting pictures. He just wasn't ready for Year Two when it came to him at six years old. In Reception and Year One it had been about playing then it was time for hard work. He had work avoidable strategies made up and he used them. By Year Three he was much better at school and got on well with his class teacher. Now he is one of the highest attaining students at a further education college. I know that a child that has missed the base line leaning feels like he or she is not able to cope. You need to make learning fun that is the secret. Books that he or she enjoys can be a treat to look at and enjoy. Make spellings a delight and reading a joy. Maths work can be made like a game. Good luck.

I am the same as you, I would be very embarrassed if my child was not smart because he was lazy. If he didn't understand something then I would sit down with him and make sure he understands it and is not undervalued. But I would also make sure he knows how important education is so he would be determined to educate himself. Lastly I would teach him how to learn, not to just regurgitate whatever the teacher tells him.

what?what do you want? make your child became a dr. frakenstein? remember this buddy, no one, was born stupid in this world. no one. even someone who get autism, have a beautiful think. yes, it hard to became parrent. but more sad if you lost your child. what you do, same with what my mother do to me. but i never angry to my mother.

hello!I might suggest you that when you are free, try thinking what makes you angry?It might be something about which you are very unhappy.When we love others we love ourselves,when we help others we believe in humanity.Similarly,when you become angry at your child,how do you feel about yourself and why? Try to find the answers,it might be helpful to understand your feelings.

Being smart as far as what you learn in books is not everything, I was not smart at school but because my parents taught me commonsense I am doing ok, at school I was below average it wasn't until I was in my twenties I had the yearning to learn, people develop in this area at different times so don't be harsh on yourchild, don't be embarrassed, just love them and help them with commonsesnse knowledge and they will be ok...

i think you should love him for who he/she is and not be too demanding.

why you must be angry with your son or daughter if she or he had worked and learn hard...sometimes every person had a different intelegentia.. we can`t push our son or daughter learn mathematics too much if she only likes learning english or biology maybe.. we as parents must understand that our children can learn good in good situation and good supporting from their parents

Certainly not! If i had children, i will feel froud after all and anything about my son... Because everyone certainly has advantages and disanvantages.

I think getting angry to children brings no positive affects on them. On the other hand trying to bring changes on them with loving words may bring wonderful affects gradually.

Hi there sql, I am a mother of a 7 year old grade two student.She is not smart but is so willing to learn.I at first really forced her to study but after sometime,i saw that she gets scared of me as teaching time is nearing.My husband told me to be cool about teaching her so she enjoys her childhood.Whenever she gets a not so good grade in their exam i always tell her to do better next time and comfort her.Because i know if i will show her that i am mad about it she will be just scared of me and her mind cannot focus on her study rather focus on my anger. Remember that we have a mind of our own,one cannot be as smart as the others.They will learn and will be eager to learn if you will help them in a nice way.

It's probably wrong but I do think I'd be embarrassed if my child were stupid. I'd love him/her either way but I've always said that I'd rather have an ugly child than a stupid one because you can fix ugly but you can't fix stupid.

I am sorry but i have't a child. But i can understand you clearly. If i was in your position I would do something for him: try to explain him/her how important the education is, how much it depends on it. And i would also try to enthrall into study, try to help. Best wishes to you.

hello, No, I will understand him/her because I am not smart either. So, I will not expect him/her to be smart I will just let him/her learn by helping him to it. Maybe you are expecting to much to your child if ever that he is not smart you must still be thankful because something is in him that you never see.