Bitter With Love

I had a break same like up a few months ago that is last year in 2011, I had the best days of my life when i was in relationship, we dated and things were so perfect. No sooner than conflicts started to come in our relationship, Family issues friend misunderstandings all these broke up our relationship, My GF has some past issues and that was the reason too for our breakup. Now arising in new year and hoping for the best, iam feeling better, i have made my decision to make friends as much as i can, I don't want to fall in love again. When i felt in love my GF was a year big, and due to the charm feeling i almost gave up everything for love thinking she was only for me, but soon i realized that there are things in life which you have to understand, feel, sacrifice and stay happy with yourself. I can easily get in love i have few close friends who can start a relationship, I have realized that love is patient and love is kind. Currently i just started working, so i have decided to get well settled in future and then find a love, I don't fear of losing love again but now i have learned a lot from love and i made my mind to get the real joy from friends.

Don't beat yourself up. In some way, almost everyone who has loved and lost feels that way. If you're not ready to fall inlove again, then take a time off. Go on a vacation and have fun. When your ready to date, get to know the person well by having him aquainted with your family and friendds in that way you are sure if that guy is sincere or will just hurt you in the end.

Maybe you still in the process of recovering from heart break, and your wound just not fully healed. You might need some time to adjust to it. Eventually, when your heart fully prepared to fall in love again, you will not feel that fear once again. You will feel searching for another love is such a mandatory demand from your heart. Good luck!

I think this happens to many of us, feeling like we can't love again after a breakup. Just give it time and you will start to love again. Only this time with a reasonable mind...

It is really a great pain for us to have our love ended when we give true love to our partners.there would be no grief without love.if you want enjoy the love you must learn to stand the pain.if both of you really love each other ,and you broke up with each other just because of misunderstanding,you might as well tell your lover you can't lose him ,if he really love you ,i think he will be pleasure to way back into love with you .sometimes you just need to make a concession to each other.yesterday one of my friends told me that her ex-boyfriend and she had reconciled,they had broken up with each other for two years ,can you imagine that ? i feel so glad to hear the news . if you really think your boy friend if not your Mr right ,you must stand the pain ,you must be strong enough to live a single life ,please rememer that time is the best medcine to treat pain .to tell you the truth ,i spent one whole year to forget my first love .and i gained my happiness with another guy .here i hope you can recover as soon as you can from the pain .good luck to you

Unfruitful love always hurt our feelings and it is common that you have fear in a new relationship. You don't want to feel the pain one more time and I can understand that. I have no idea what happened in your previous relationship but I can assure you that you will find a relationship that really work in the future. There must be a guy out there with the personalities that suits you and love you. You have to give yourself the chance to meet one. Not that I ask you to go out and try everybody out, but at least don't run away when you like a guy or when a guy loves you and want to engage in an intimate relationship with you.

yes, it do happen in life. people fall in love, and then they broke up, so no worries. just look forward in life, you never know when you will get better person who will take care of you and soon you will forget all the bitterness of your life.

I only had 1 relationship in my whole life. It lasted for 2 years plus and we broke up three years ago. We are already friends again and very close now. We don't even have feelings for each other now and just treat each other as siblings. Though our break up issue had been over for a long time already, I still stay bitter in love though. I guess it is normal that our heart feels that way especially when we really loved that person. Even for me, I do have this trauma in love. Actually, it is not the LOVE that we are afraid to but the possible rejection and goodbye of that LOVE. lol. Maybe another reason why I am bitter in love is that because even if me, my mother and my father still lives in one roof and we still act as if we are happy, deep down inside I know that they have this marriage failure. I dont know how much longer they will last together but I know it is already in the stage where it's ready to give up and fall. I can't give pieces of advice on how to cure our "bitterness in love" but I can say one thing to you, NEVER EVER LET THIS BE A HINDRANCE OF TRUE HAPPINESS. :)