I Hate My Neighbor Duh

Hi there Xien2xien, Truthfully, the only way that this old lady can bother you is if you allow her too. You don't have to be rude but you can tell her that you don't like to gossip about other people. You don't owe her any answers to where you have been or what you are doing and you do NOT have to do what she says. When she tells you what to do or not to do just tell her "Thank you for the advice, I'll consider it." When she asks you where you have been, just tell her it's personal or "you don't want to know." be light hearted about it but vague. When it comes to your pets..you really need to say something. Tell her that they are getting sick and on a special diet and ask her to please not give them any food at all per orders from the vet. If she persists, well, I would get a little more vocal with her. Just because she is old does not mean she has the right to overstep her boundaries or that you should not say anything to her.

I know someone who is almost the same like your neighbor :) I guess that's what old folks are especially if they're women. They love talking/gossiping about everything, and they love having someone to talk to all the time. We also have a neighbor, an old man, and he's always sitting by the street so I cannot avoid having some chitchats with him. I wouldn't want to ignore and be rude to him when he tries to start a conversation every time I pass him. It was okay with me at first but when he starts talking about someone or asking about some personal matters about me or about a certain person that I know, then that's the time I started giving him just a nod or blurting some greetings but not stopping anymore to hear what he is going to say and have conversations with him. Anyway, I hope everything will be fine. Cheers!

Honey, I'm 64 and no way would I feed your cats this garbage, and ESPECIALLY if you have already told me not to like you mentioned in one of the responses. I hope you never think that ALL older people are like this, they are not When I go shopping, sometimes they drive me bonkers, and they're MY age. Some of them feel they have the right to do this because they're older..I'm sorry, no. She probably doesn't mean any harm but you're going to have to tell her to stop feeding your cats or you'll tell the landlord, or whoever is in charge of where you live. It's none of her business where you are at night and this also has to be clear. If you don't stop it, it will continue and it sure sounds like you've been more than pleasant to her. Tell her you'd rather not talk about it. I'm sorry if I sound so nasty but I've dealt with people. They're basically just nosey and she's probably telling all the other people all your business anyway. You need to nip this in the bud before it really gets carried away. Good Luck Hon!

I think she likes you, cares for you and worries about you. All that you have said points to that. Believe me her attention is the last thing you have to worry or fume about. She may have a larger plan in the making. There is a possibility that she will start looking for a suitable partner for you. This is the fringe benefit of having a old lady for a neighbor.She may even have one in mind from the umpteen relatives she has. All elders in Asia have only one pastime, getting the younger ones hooked. You really lookout for yourself! Before you get really scared/angry, here is my confession, I was just trying to pull your leg.

You have to tell her that she is not allow to feed your pets before she will harm your animals. Old people are like that. You have to be polite but direct to the point. I have some bad neighbours. I live in very old house 500 years old. The family with 5 kids live here and they devastated garden. They throw litter everywhere and I have really enough of them But that will stop soon. Me and my partner decided to clean garden and then call to Landlords of this place. I would like to asked them to write to this dirty monkeys and inform them they if they will not stop they will be charge for cleaning and maintenance of the garden. I wish you all the best!

Well yeah she is already old so you shouldn't need to argue with her anymore. I think avoiding her in a way is also a good idea at least you don't need to explain things to her. You can also tell her not to give those foods to the dogs and tell her how bad those foods have affected your dogs, things that would make her believe so she won;t feed your dog anymore.

oh my neighbour is really bad and throw waste anyplace, so bad thing really when you have bad naighbour, but what to do depends on you how much you tolerate and so on, if I dont like my naighbor so much I will go to new home, no doubt home is for relax and so on