Change Or Make a Change!
By Bamboee
@Bamboee (645)
United Arab Emirates
January 6, 2012 7:41am CST
I would like to know my family of lotters that has it ever happened to you..
That your in a situation and your stuck with the thought, that should you change yourself, or make a change in the person him/herself..
for example:
Everything I do or say is not liked by my husband..
And so I always changed myself for him.. and Now I have become a person that I do not recognize..
When I decide that I should try to make him understand that he should change few things for me, then I stop myself.. because you should love the person the way they are.. and that's how I love him..but why does not he love me that way?
What is your story?
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3 responses
@koperty3 (1876)
•
6 Jan 12
My partner says that he always love me but not always likes me. Well I think it can be the truth.I accept him as he is. Well I had such situation with my family few years ago when I had serious accident. After treatment and medication I gain some amount of weight. All my family forced me to be on diet to lose it. Well I asked them : Did you stop loving me because I gained weight? Their words were disturbing for me. Well I lost weight when medication ( steroids) left my system. BUt I did it for me not for them. I wish you all the best.
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Jan 12
Ya i think the right choice of words are conveyed then nothing actually matters.
I am not fat, I have a very good body but my husband always calls me fat.
He says I should become sexy, so that he is more attracted to me..
i tried everything, I ended up loosing the beauty i have because it was not me..
So I thought why does he not love me the way I am..its hurtful..
to hear such words from someone you have given your life to..
I just wish all he would say to me that your beautiful the way you are..
I am glad that you lost weight for yourself.. :)
I guess I should start doing things for me too!
Thanks for replying!
Happy My Lotting!
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Jan 12
Thank you so much dear..
well according to him he is the most handsome person on planet..
and so I need to change for him.. so he can be proud infront of people..
I have learnt a lesson from you my friend..
I will change for myself not for him..
God bless you!
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
I changed for the better for my husband. 
From being an overly jealous wife, i now became an understanding wife. I don't nag him anymore. I realized , life is short to be spent in nagging that can lead to quarreling.
I have told him how i want things with us and he has conformed. I have proven his love for me. I guess, my changes is enough for us to go on being a happy couple.
From being an overly jealous wife, i now became an understanding wife. I don't nag him anymore. I realized , life is short to be spent in nagging that can lead to quarreling.
I have told him how i want things with us and he has conformed. I have proven his love for me. I guess, my changes is enough for us to go on being a happy couple. 
@liumirror (138)
• China
7 Jan 12
I think it is unfair to you if you always change yourself for your husband,but your husband not change for you.Between man and wife ,they should respect and love each other,instead of change your personality for him and make yourself uncomfortable.
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Jan 12
Yes, that is what I thought marriage is about..
Each of us put in our efforts..
But looks like i am the only one compromising, sacrificing..and most of all changing..
He is doing nothing, nothing at all!!
and Its hurtful because I do not know how long I can keep doing all of this by myself..
I dont want to give up, but i will be forced too..
