help me fellow parents
@AlexJordan1231 (48)
United States
January 7, 2012 12:13am CST
My son will be a year old the middle of march. At what age do you start disciplining children? Also, how do you discipline a young one? I have always watched those nanny 911 shows where the kids are just out of control. I always said (before i had my son) that discipline starts at home and if you discipline them right, they wont turn out like that. I know that the best thing is to start early...but how early? when my son touches something he is not supposed to like the tv, hot stove, or anything else, i swat his hand with my first 2 fingers, enough to sting but not hurt him, If i am not close to him, I will make a loud distracting noise or just say a sharp "no" or say his name sharply, for the most part, he will stop, look at me, grin, and then "touch" whatever it is again. Tips on parenting...helpful. :)
2 responses
@queen_ra45 (84)
• United States
7 Jan 12
If it's something that might endanger him I would go with a swat or a sharp noise too. For behavioral issues the time out worked when my daughter was little over 1 and still works today. Now I give her the count to three before she gets a time out. Believe it or not she always stops when I get to two.
If you think a time out is not a concept your 1 year old understands yet I don't recommend saying the word no too often because you will find him throwing it back at you when he hits the terrible twos. I would get down to eye level with him and sternly explain why his behavior is unacceptable, "throwing rocks hurts", "big sister doesn't like that", etc.
@AlexJordan1231 (48)
• United States
7 Jan 12
thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it. I know at times my son will test my patience as most kids do but I am a new mother and I want to "do right" by him. It sure does take a village to raise a child. Thank you. i agree with the no thing and only use that when he is about to touch something that would hurt him. i sort of remember learning something like that in child development...instead of saying "dont run" say "walk please" and dont use too many negatives...which is really hard to think of to do on the spur of the moment lol.
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
7 Jan 12
I don't think you can start too early. Obviously the forms of discipline vary according the the age of the kids. Young kids don't really understand complex ideas like consequences, but, I think they can understand simple ideas. For the ideas of not touching things, I would direct him to something he can have instead. Do it quietly, and matter of factly. When you make a noise or a fuss, they may just continue the behaviour to get a reaction out of you.
